Marriage.

I like the idea of the commitment ceremony, but the rest is just a bunch of laws that aren’t really necessary in my opinion. Sure, it has its own set of benefits, but really, if you love someone, I don’t really think either party could give less of a shit about them. Also, I know more couples and parents who still act like “kids” that the whole idea of “settling down” just sort of boggles my mind.

@Catilin, yes. Sometimes it happens spontaneously. Like a beautiful proposal and unexpected divorce. Lovely. Fuck that shit.

It’s… well. No. Some people never grow up and get obsessed too much.

@Caitlin, always thought that, too, that the real love and commitment comes before the actual ceremony. Just like how graduation isnt what you actually learn anything or gain any skills, it’s just a celebration of what has already been done, marriage always seemed like a way to celebrate something that is already there. That said, I still believe in the religious and spiritual aspects of it, but from a legal perspective is starts to take on other motivations I don’t care for. People getting married for the wrong reasons has led to so many issues today, and it seems like many of these reasons branch from the legal implications of that contract. It’d be nice if there was an option to get married in the spiritual/religious sense, with a ceremony and all that, but leave out many of the legal implications. I’m not sure if I would opt for that, but maybe as an option

A friend of mine has sworn off marriage ever since his last divorce which wrecked him financially, although he’s completely willing to commit to a monogamous relationship and possibly a ceremony. Just no legal documents.

http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/love-is-cursed-by-monogamy/

http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/how-many-are-jaded-to-monogamy-simply-because/

http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/monogamy/

I think Marriage is for society,
I am engaged to my soul-mate and I feel like my heart is bound to him and his to mine, that i feel I guess you could say married to him already.(its beyond marriage, its just you know your souls are on the same path and its a wonderful feeling)

I wouldn’t need a wedding because im his now any ways its just the government and society that would recognize it after we were married. And what does society mean to anyone anyways..

I feel to many people get married for the wrong reasons or cant see the reasons they shouldn’t marry. But its always great to see a good couple that you can tell really love one another with everything they are.

marriage screwed up my relationship with my boyfriend. he had to go into the army, in those days in holland you could get out of it by getting married so we did on the day he had to go in the army. we stayed married for 30 years, but i never felt free or happy really. it would have been better for us to not to do it…anyway.
my parents married each other twice and divorced each other twice. that was in Reno . i never believed in marriage. infact i still dont.
i agree basically with those that say if you are super in love and it is the thing for you then do it, but remember all things are impermanant. anyway relationships constantly need renewal and communication and tons of hard work to stay together, it is more than just being in love.
but if you can hack it , then tie the knot!

I too feel that marriage seems rather pointless. I feel that if I need a binding contract to be with someone for the rest of my life, then either I don’t trust myself, or I don’t trust them enough. But the kind of person you’d want to get married to is someone that you both trust and love, and if you had that kind of person, then marriage would be almost completely pointless outside of legal status.

I’m happily “married”, but the marriage was just paperwork – fiancee visa made it easy for my wife to immigrate here from the Czech republic. we did the JOP thing then went to a park with a dozen friends and had a bbq/sing-along. neither of us has ever wished we’d done a traditional White Wedding.

We agree that if it degrades to the point of being harmful to us and our kids, we’ll separate. “staying married for your kids” is like jogging on bad knees “for your health”.

I think people feel too much pressure to stay in Love. love changes and evolves both before and after you get married. you can’t attach to one idea of love – stagnation is death. just enjoy your time together and give each other the freedom to grow, then share the interesting shit you learn with each other.

pledge to give your whole self to the other person forever, and you’ll both suffocate.

Yeah, yeah.
It’s such a good idea to be united! to fight for something and Oh, how bad it is for someone to be with another opinion for just being themselves! No. That’s exactly the problem. People don’t let other people get in their circle of concluded principles and beliefs if they don’t like other’s beliefs.
Trust me. There isn’t a GROUP that thinks differently. That’s a fucking contradiction.
The main idea is to be yourself even if you’re not accepted.
Yeah. I am right. 6 Unicorns make a religion.