Hello there HEthans! I just wanted to say, briefly, I am a new user but I am not new to this site! I have been creeping the discussions for awhile, now. I finally felt compelled to join to contribute my views and such.
You guys are really amazing and I want to thank the creators of this site for putting it into existence and bringing everyone together!!
I am a 22 years old, female and future architect! I hail from the deep and dangerous amazons (haha) of Brazil but I currently reside in south-eastern USA! I hope you will accept me well. c:
So back to the topic:
I just started meditating to try to quiet my mind. I tend to be an over-thinker and have a terrible memory and lack of focus (I can’t really multi-task for shit..). It actually used to be much worse a few years ago.
In an effort to avoid thinking too much, I have developed a habit of listening to music almost constantly. I am an avid music lover and really feel like life would not be worth living, if not for music.
Anyways, because of doing this (since I was a young teen) I have music stuck in my head, even when I’m not listening to it. Whenever I try to meditate, I can’t quiet the song in my head, no matter what. I can’t control what the song is either (sometimes it’s something I don’t even like).
I am still new to meditation, so I was wondering if this is going to hinder my ability to do it properly. If anyone has any tips on how to quiet my mind for good, so I can finally focus, it would be much appreciated!
Thank you for reading!
I have the same problem, but remember that you’re not desperately trying to stop all thoughts, you’re trying to become detached from your thoughts so that you can view them from a distance.
Try this out. 10 minutes of guided meditation for 10 days. When someone’s talking to you it makes it so much easier to stay on track, and I never get songs stuck in my head when I use it.
Glad you decided to join in! I’m the same with thinking too much. I feel like music causes me to be less aware of my surroundings, can’t snowboard or skate with headphones in. Not really experienced at meditating but it seems to me that focusing on white noise would help you. If you have a fan or air filter that you could turn on to keep that sound of rushing air in your head it may help, or try playing some nature sounds such as rain or an ocean.
Yeah, music can be very distracting. Especially the kind that’s made for the single purpose of being distractive (the horseshit on the radio.) Just try to stay away from music for a while and you will notice the difference.
I get music stuck in my head quite often, but I’m a musician and I listen to way too much music so it’s no wonder. Too much of anything is never good, and that includes music.
I would imagine that most people go through that when they start meditating. if it wasn’t for the music in your head, there would have been something else stuck in there anyway, be it self-criticism, worrying about the future, thinking about things other people have done . . . I expect it’s pretty rare for anybody to start meditating and get it right away.
Meditation successes and techniques vary from person to person, so above all else be patient with yourself. just sit quietly and breathe deeply for short periods every day, free of expectations and without trying to do anything in particular. it’s good for you, even if you don’t do it “right” (whatever that means!)
I literally posted this exact question before! Funny, haha. Anyway I still have this problem, word for word. There is literally not one moment of the day(that I’ve noticed yet) that I don’t have a song playing in the background of my head. Good suggestions guys.
You got to get it out of you man. Sing it until your utterly sick of it. Play an instrument or sing along with some music with all your energy until your mind becomes quiet. I have this problem as well, but it usually goes away after I get the energy out in some way. Sometimes, just making your body tired can quiet your mind. It makes you appreciate silence more.
Have you thought about trying white (or brown) noise? For me, it seems to still fill my brains want for noise, but gives you nothing to really think about. I have never tried it for meditation but it works great for helping me study! http://simplynoise.com/ is a good website. I think they have an app or something too if applicable. I find the brown noise to be a little less harsh on my ears and prefer that.
I find that playing music is actually a form of meditation for me. When I jam with my friends, I drift into a deep focus on what is going on around me. I not only hear it, but I see it, I feel it. I melt into the music. I can take what’s around me and translate it. If you have a song stuck in your head, learn to play it, if you’re a musician. I dont have any experience otherwise, so I cant really help if you arent a musician, sorry. But aside from that, welcome.
It’s difficult to escape the appeal of having music accompanying everything you do, but when you try it with things like exercising, or skating (from above), it’s pretty neat to feel the focus you achieve, to really get ‘in the flow’ as the latest psychologists are calling it.