My boyfriend is extremely insecure…

Why do you assure him that he is the biggest and best? Maybe your insincerity and dishonesty is amplifying the situation. If you don’t want him to make a big deal out of it, you shouldn’t make a big deal out of it. You shouldn’t keep secrets in the first place so that he doesn’t have to find out through other people.
Stop protecting his delicate little ego and tell him the truth. he doesn’t have anywhere near the biggest dick on earth and that he needs to get over it. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with a child.

Break up with him.

I guess you have to convince him somehow or make him learn on his own that enlarging his penis is more embarrassing than not being confident with himself in the first place. Because it’s true. Well if that doesn’t work, I have no idea, maybe explain to him scientifically and psychologically that insecurity isn’t what turns people on.

@splashartist, dude.. no one needed to know that..

@zowie, LOL just jokes man just jokes.

Pretty sure every guy goes through a period of “am I big enough”, though if he can chill out it’ll pass. If he’s crazy, it won’t. IMO anything you TRY to do like convincing him that he is fine will just be fluff for his ego. Be a straight honest chick, tell him you love it either way, and the rest is up to him.

Probably not what you want to hear but you should leave him–soon–like now. Insecurity only leads to bigger and bigger problems down the road.

@therefore, i respectfully disagree lol

@stereofidelic, A year…? That’s dedication. He should get over it eventually.

I dealt with depression as a kid. Then one day my karate instructor told me, “Hey, if you’re gonna be f*cking sad all the time then you can just leave.”
So after that I stopped bumming other people out over my problems, because the world was bigger than my problems and had enough of its own already.

Developing a healthy mindset is the trick, and sometimes you have to kickstart it.

@stereofidelic, Sounds like a really tough situation you’re in. Is the size of his penis really the issue? Or is this only the tip of the iceberg? Maybe there is a deeper and more rooted problem that is really causing his insecurities and his penis size is just feeding this. Alot of people have said break up with him, but I think only you can make that decision. None of us can give you that answer, it all depends on what you want/need. Be careful feeding his ego though, because you could just be subconsciously reinforcing his current behavior. Good luck

I don’t know what to say. I used to be an insecure guy myself, but the more I read about others that were in my view of life, the more I understood that it only lead to misery and loneliness where I could have had abundance, if I didn’t show weakness. It doesn’t help a person to believe negative things about themself….you have to try for more if you want to survive and thrive and have fun before you go. I used to get down about my looks, but all it needed was a little cleanliness and physical activity. Now, I don’t sweat that stuff anymore. And I used to get down on myself that I was boring, but I’m actually pursuing what I want, and hence, I’m not bored of myself anymore either. I actually feel great when I meet strangers now.

Your boyfriend should realize that he is with you, and your ex isn’t, so there’s no reason for your boyfriend to worry about your ex. Telling oneself that they are a champ is a lot more fun than telling themself that they have no chance.