No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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Cody (470) (@versai) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

@filipek, So the problem is more-so with watching porn of women that are way out of your league and more fit than the average woman? I agree the porn industry is such a scam in what they’re selling, but there is /real/ porn out there, like webcams. Real people with their real partner sharing videos or even live streams of their sexual activity, whether for profit or not. What is your views on this kind of porn? It feels way more real when you’re watching a person’s unedited behavior and maybe even interacting with them in real-time; not just watching their ‘scene’.

nvm, i think i get it after reading what Luigi said. It’s not necessarily the porn nor the masturbation, just the convenience of them together that makes a person complacent and not pursuing the real-deal.

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Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

@versai, It’s not the fact that the girl is hotter or out of your league. There are many factors in this whole idea.

It is the fact that while you masturbate to porn, normally, you watch one porn, then another, then another, then another. Your brain releases dopamine every time you switch girls and get excited; therefore, in real life you get bored of one girl because your brain needs more, it needs 8 pornstars or different fantasies etc, for you to get off. Then in that case you end up settling for porn because it is what releases the most dopamine and what gets you off the best.

I’ve heard many guys say that they actually prefer masturbation to porn than with real partners and that is completely fucked up and unnatural. You gotta get rid of that addiction, if you have one, and get your brain back to wanting and enjoying real women instead of fictional characters.

“When you remove a source of pleasure from the brain, it is like taking away the leg of a table. The whole thing becomes rocky and unstable. The brain really has two options: one, to make you hurt like hell in every way it can think of to ‘encourage’ you to put the table leg back again, or two, to accept that the table leg is really gone, and figure out how to re-balance without it. Of course, it tries Option One first. Then, after a while, it starts to get to work on Option Two, all while still pushing Option One in the meantime. Eventually, it seems like the brain re-balances, giving up on Option One, and fully succeeding at Option Two.”

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Dan (890) (@danfontaine) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

Y’all are still talking? Damn

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Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

@danfontaine, almost 1 Year later and this thread is still going. I know haha

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Ivette (2) (@freeborn) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

Easy. I’m eight months in.

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Arman (12) (@sesarman) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

lets give it a shot

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Anonymous (216) (@) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

Willpower!

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Alex (1) (@deepthough) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

Howdy folks, never signed onto it, but I’ve been going strong for 7 days now of no porn and no masturbation. Aiming for 90, we’ll see how it goes.

Question though: These past couple of days, I’ve felt heavier. I don’t know if I’m imagining it or not. I play college tennis, and what I mean by I’ve felt heavier is that I am moving slower than normal, and that’s not something that I can really afford to have happen. Any explanation for this? Or is it all in my mind?

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The Passionate Pupil (6) (@deanzumwalt) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

Signing up, this will definitely be interesting. I’ll start now, I’m going to start keeping time from midnight. I’m going to make a goal of a minimum of one year without porn or masturbation, shit, chills down my back thinking that…. Wish me luck. Also the first real goal I’ve ever made, but where better to start than here? Yeah, I can think of some better places as well lol.

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Nader (2) (@nsmith91) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

I’m glad this discussion popped up. Starting right now!

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Wonnington (7) (@johnsyd) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Just passed my 30 day no porn, no masturbation, over the weekend.
Longest time being disciplined in this area since i was 12. Feelsgoodman.jpeg
Just an encouragement to those on it.
Worth it.
Creative energy, social interaction, willpower in other areas of life all better/stronger. My brain is still rewiring (it has been an 8 year habit…) but it’s a good feeling to have control.
HARNESS THE SEEED ahaha.

Going for 60. Then we’ll see from there. Probs have a casual toss sometime after that.

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Brandon Phillips (142) (@brandonphillips) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

I need to do this challenge. I’ve gotten to where I’m running late in the mornings and I have to rush and speed on the road because of losing time in my bed. Does anyone have any helpful tips to fight the urges?

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Rob (9) (@capn) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

I went 2 weeks and then broke the streak. It wasn’t worth it and I just felt shitty after. Starting again today and now I have the motivation from my last failed attempt. Gonna go atleast 30 days this time, promise

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Wonnington (7) (@johnsyd) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Yea brandon. If you aren’t already, get into fitness/working your body, also eating healthier. I’ve never done it in my life until this challenge, all these things go hand in hand with tackling an addiction. I personally had to make myself extremely busy with things i wanted to do in life to keep me from failing the challenge. I still feel like i haven’t even scratched the surface yet
But that’s part of the drive!
i found that just planning the things i wan’t to do sets them up as much more real goals. So mind-maps, writing, drawing, reading. Basically give yourself some REAL reasons to wan’t to change your life. Find things you love, passions, hobbies, start planning the tiniest things to get them rolling.
I kept telling myself this;

If not now? then when?

Seriously, i kept saying “later.”, but later turned into 2 years for some things.

The hard bits:
Your mind plays tricks on you to get you to keep on with old habits.
So be busy! and become at least a little bit obsessed with self improvement.
Treat it like a game.
and EVERY day, wake up and follow your own set routine. (make one for yourself)
Your whole brain/body will become the powerhouse it should be, once you start FORCEFULLY getting it to do what you want.

In a way it’s subtle, but when you really think of how you were and how you are now even after just 30 days (they do fly by if you stay busy) It’s a huge amount of control bestowed upon you.

Go out and live! life’s huge.

Props on the 2 weeks rob! that’s a serious effort, smash the 30 days man!

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Ryan (30) (@ryanj) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

I’d like start by saying this challenge has left me feeling wonderful, but unfortunately, after nearly two months, I gave up. Now you’re probably thinking this is due to a lack of self control, but it most certainly isn’t. Hell, its even easier now that there’s a special lady in my life.

Anyway, I decided to stop with the challenge today because I have come to the belief that I am unable to ejaculate. Today was the second time I’ve ever had sex. I thought I would be the kid that blew up before things got sweaty, but even after hours of fun, no orgasm. When I got home today, I decided to tackle the purple headed warrior myself. Sure enough (and without the aid of any virtual ladies,) yogurt was slung.

Even though I know I can still fire the cannon, I’m still worried this will be a life long problem. Its not my girlfriend, she’s amazing, and attractive (no girl has had any success at this). My sex drive is high, no condom was used, and it isn’t difficult to become erect.

So I’m just wondering, has anyone else had a problem like this and does anyone have any idea how I could fix this?

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St Emilion (2,981) (@manimal) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

@ryanj, Seriously dude, how is that a bad thing? It just means you can go for hours, and that you’re not wasting your precious life force on a stupid heat-of-the-moment splurge.

Unless you’re making babies, there’s no point in ejaculating.

Just enjoy the sex, relax… it’s about the journey, not the goal. Plus, worrying will not make it easier to ejaculate, it will do the opposite. Gotta relax, mate.

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Tine (366) (@tine) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

@ryanj,

Where does your mind go? Distraction is probably the problem, unfocusing after a certain amount of time of focus. It being your second time, maybe another, still pretty inexperienced and new.

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Nate O’Neill (15) (@nateoneill) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

@ryanj,

Usually the reason you may not be able to orgasm during sex is because you do something called ‘The Death Grip’ when you masturbate. The death grip stimulates different things that actual sex can’t stimulate. As stupid as it may sound, quite a lot of addicts suffer from ED and inability to orgasm because of how they masturbate. The fix I’ve seen work is to try to completely orgasm free for 90 days, but realistically, your should go for as long as it takes to fix it, which is usually less than 90 days.

A great website to check out is http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap

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Ryan (30) (@ryanj) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

@manimal, in hindsight, I am glad that I’m able to go for so long. No idea why I was so damn pessimistic about it, I feel amazing right now; full of energy! She loves it anyway, and I sure do enjoy the journey. I think I’ll look at this as a gift from now on, thanks Elion.

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Ryan (30) (@ryanj) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

@tine yeah I guess I am new and probably shouldn’t jump to conclusions, what @nateoneill, said about the death grip is also a very likely cause! Thanks for the info

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Minch (297) (@minch) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVjcRSeQsr0

this video does a good job explaining what this “challenge” is all about.

I went the 30 days at a very pivotal moment in life; this September when I moved to college. My “game” with the ladies went up by an unreasonable amount. Suddenly I’m approaching strangers having fun getting to know them. I’m much more flirty with girls and I’m hugely noticing the benefits. From high school, I am a totally different person when it comes to this. I would recommend everyone do this. your body has a natural need to satisfy itself. If you withhold it, you body and mindset literally changes itself to get what needs.

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Tine (366) (@tine) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

K, I am starting today

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Ryan (30) (@ryanj) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

NoFap November!

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Anonymous (50) (@) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Starting cyu 9 December – > 1 year plz ;)

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bRAINfART (8) (@whotheneighbors) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

i tried this once…but had to “beat it” after a week. of course i completely forgot about HE and how you guys can help me get through it…

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