No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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Tony (@emjay)    2 years, 5 months ago

I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.
I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

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Minch (@minch)1 year, 8 months ago ago

this video does a good job explaining what this “challenge” is all about.

I went the 30 days at a very pivotal moment in life; this September when I moved to college. My “game” with the ladies went up by an unreasonable amount. Suddenly I’m approaching strangers having fun getting to know them. I’m much more flirty with girls and I’m hugely noticing the benefits. From high school, I am a totally different person when it comes to this. I would recommend everyone do this. your body has a natural need to satisfy itself. If you withhold it, you body and mindset literally changes itself to get what needs.

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Tine (@tine)1 year, 8 months ago ago

K, I am starting today

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Ryan (@ryanj)1 year, 8 months ago ago

NoFap November!

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 8 months ago ago

Starting cyu 9 December – > 1 year plz ;)

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bRAINfART (@whotheneighbors)1 year, 8 months ago ago

i tried this once…but had to “beat it” after a week. of course i completely forgot about HE and how you guys can help me get through it…

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Ed (@orange)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I’m on around day 24 and I feel excellent about it. I’m definitely not going back to the old ways :D

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Dimitris (@cubilone)1 year, 8 months ago ago

It’s been a long ride since the first time I posted in this thread somewhere around March saying I’d start this challenge. My results:

First time around, from March to late April, I had been going on for 45 days before I ended up jerking off in the shower. Suffice to say, it all went downhill from there and I binged the following days.

The second time I gave this a go, from June 1st to August 25th, I lasted 85 days. This relapse was more conscious than the first one; I thought I had had enough of abstaining and that there was no point going on for longer. Heh…

There just had to be a third reboot. For this one I have managed to keep away from orgasms since October 5th, even though I haven’t been that successful in keeping in my urge to masturbate or look at porn. Thankfully, none of the times I did give to temptation sealed the deal.

What’s interesting is that both of my relapses lasted for about one and a half months. It seems that it takes around this time between binges and relapses for you to understand how little you’re gaining from masturbating daily and how much you’re missing out on by being weak and deluding yourself. It takes one and a half months to rediscover your resolution.

What changes I have seen in me? By now, more than 9 months of a mostly masturbation-free life but with a sum of 3 months of relapse, I have started doing exercise daily (keep in mind that I’ve hated exercise most of my life but now I see it as necessary for my well-being or even enjoyable), I have much more confidence in myself and can more easily manifest my masculine energy, which throughout my whole life had been undermined by its female counterpart in me. Self-confidence, even if the flatline did result in a few crappy days, and self-love, are the biggest changes I have seen in myself.

On the other hand, even though I obviously don’t seek it out, porn can still turn me on if I let myself succumb. Part of the reason I went for the third reboot was because I thought that if all had went well I wouldn’t, shouldn’t have been able to binge and go back to my old habits as if nothing had happened. Isn’t the point of all this to rewire your brain? Having had your brain rewired, shouldn’t the possibility of such an easy relapse have been eradicated? If not, the ease with which I can go back to porn after months of abstaining has me a bit sceptical.

As far as success with girls goes, I’ve only had sex once this year. It is true that I don’t want women just to have sex with; I was never a guy that would go for the one-night-stand and can’t do it with a girl I don’t have feelings for. At the same time, I have incredibly high standards of potential partners and find myself quite hard to please. If it’s nothing special, I prefer to stay single than waste my time and energy with someone who, at the end of the day, isn’t all that fabulous. This outlook on life of mine hasn’t changed in the least these months and I don’t know whether I should be expecting it to change at all, at least not as a result of no porn. I mean, even if I am dying for sex right now, if a girl doesn’t have a personality I find attractive, if I can’t connect with her, I won’t bother — for if it’s sex for sex’s worth, how different would that be from just masturbating? What do you think?

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Kevin (@awkwardmoments)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I haven’t been abstaining it for that long but its been a month generally that I have abstained not including one relapse in between. But I don’t start my counting over because I guess it just for our minds to use numbers to motivate us.

Anyways, even in the last month I feel a lot of the things mentioned by cubilone and many others…

Such as going from passive to active, not in just approaching and flirting with women (which I have a much stronger desire to do) but also IN general, not touching my computer some days and going out to the middle of the city and walking around, meeting people, looking at people.

Im more positive as well, exercising more, and just in general, feel positive!

@cubilone, I was just thinking that it won’t ever get that easy that you can’t just completely ignore it and not let it turn you on. I think that we are subconsciously exposed to so many things that give us the same feelings as porn and release dopamine in that way that porn is still somehow in our heads and thus it is so easy to revert back to it. For example, advertisements on a metro, on the internet, clicking through internet, this all gives us some connection to what we used to watch that we don’t ever really eradicate ourselves. But I do think we rewire our brain, as I am currently, that I know the urge still exists and I am able to say to myself No, this is not an option and abstain.

Also in terms of having sex, I agree that one night stands are not really my thing but at the same time why not, I just want to enjoy life. Go out there and find a girl who attracts you, maybe its a problem that you need long term attachment to make you horny and also high standards because your looking for things wrong with her as I sometimes do. I am currently studying abroad and this presents itself with a great opportunity to go out in this foreign city and say it fuck it! look for one night stands, enjoy the passion that will be there for one night with a stranger and also the beauty of the unknown, hey maybe we shouldn’t even ask her for her name. And also I try to look for things I like in her and in the whole situation, such as we will never see each other again, even if her personality sucks.

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Nikolaj Katballe (@niko2210)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I’m starting today. I’ll try and see if can persuade a classmate to do the same thing. These things are always easier when you’re two ;)

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Josh (@jcarr)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I’m going to start now, it’s about damn time.

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Brian (@bdube)1 year, 8 months ago ago

hell ya i’m game for this, only 29 days to go woot!

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highestexistence (@joeogrant)1 year, 8 months ago ago

Can someone enlighten me as to the benefits of abstaining from orgasm? I’m pretty sure masturbation is healthy, although I can agree that watching Porn could have some negative effects on your mind.

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Hoight (@Hoight)5 months, 3 weeks ago ago

You’re wasting your life force by masturbating and ejaclating. I’ve been abstinent for 6 years.

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Minch (@minch)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@joeogrant, The way I see it it’s not about the masturbation, it’s what it does to you. I’m 2.5 months strong and I can tell you I am a changed person. I went from shy and the friend-zoned type of guy to a go-get-er. I can vouch that the results it’s had on my relationships/interactions with girls definitely outweighs the almost three months I’ve gone without. When your brain realizes it’s not gonna get off without a partner it starts to rewire shit and all of a sudden I’m making moves I wouldn’t even Imagine doing, yet it feels so natural and boy is it working. Best of luck to everyone! if you didn’t already see check out this vid:

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Sam Frens (@sfrens)1 year, 8 months ago ago

My thoughts after 30 days. My desire to watch porn is non-existent. I am no longer constantly preoccupied with my sexual desire. And today was the first day I’ve fooled around with the most attractive girl I’ve known and I lasted a really long time. I have also have experienced an actual orgasm as compared to just cumming. My body has felt tingly all over, like I just jumped back in a hot tub from rolling around in the snow but extremely pleasurable instead of painful. Greatest challenge I’ve ever completed.

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Filip (@filipek)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@joeogrant, Maybe you should read the topic first before you ask questions that have been answered in this topic numerous of times already.

@cubilone, thanks for sharing this story. I think I am on a similar path as you are. First time I started this challenge I kept going for more than 90 days, with difficult periods for sure. Since the time I started I completely quit watching porn, and now after more than 8 months I feel as this was one of my best decision I have made. Masturbating without porn has got so much better, and in fact I do not crave for it so much anymore as I used to do (from masturbating to porn almost every day, just because it became a habit, to just doing it whenever I really feel like, which is so much better and intens). It is not so difficult anymore to abstain from it, in fact I am without it for more than 3 weeks already.

As you also mentioned, I have a similar view on (sexual) relationships as you do, not only in the first place because of my personal beliefs, but also to train my mind not giving in to these kind of cravings (having sex, drinking alcohol, using drugs, etc. etc.), since giving in to your cravings shows some form of weakness in my opinion (I am not saying that I am never giving in to my cravings, on the contrary, I do a lot, therefore these kind of trainings are a good experience for me).

Anyway, I do not objectify women anymore as I did, which I am sure porn was the reason for doing so. When talking to a woman, I actually listen to what she says, I remember the things she talks about, I do not start at her boobs, I do not picture her naked, I do not picture her and me having wild beastly sex, no instead I am having a human to human relationship. I am so much more content with this lifestyle, not only have I more contact with women, the contact is also more profound and evolves in ways that it would never had before.

I do not know if the fact that I am exercising daily has got something to do with this challenge, but as a matter of fact I have also started exercising approximately at the same time when I started with this challenge, being in better physical shape than before, having more energy and enjoying life more in general.

Obviously this challenge has just only been one of the factors why my overall mindstate has improved and changed this year, but I am sure it has been a significant one. Actually I started this challenge because I was not satisfied with my sex life before, and I just came out of a relationship, but since I started this challenge I have not been in a sexual relationship with a woman yet, so I cannot judge about that, but I definitely will whenever I get the experience.

I realized through this challenge that it is not the sex which is most important, sex gives you just pleasant bodily sensations just like other stimulants do. It is everything around this, the relationship with the person, the feelings involved, etc. etc. Sure, I can go to a bar tonight, pick up a girl and fuck her brains out, will I do that? For sure I will not.

Good luck for everybody who has started, is starting or will start, I assure you that you will reap the benefits out of it, one way or the other! Just do not fall back in your old behavior!

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highestexistence (@joeogrant)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@minch, I see, I guess it has a profound cognitive effect for some people then, although I personally am not shy around women and I have done some pretty racy things around women haha. I have a girlfriend too, so its not like I would have to motivate myself to convince my partner to have sex if I abstained from masturbation, we have sex once or twice a week.

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highestexistence (@joeogrant)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@filipek, The OP did not cite any articles specifically nor did he mention any of the supposed reasons or benefits of participating in this porn/masturbation fast, so i’m not about to read through 21 pages of forum posts to find this answer. Also I was looking for primary sources which @minch so graciously provided me with.
If you do not feel like replying to my post then fine, but you don’t have to belittle me because I diddn’t feel like reading through pages of posts.

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lizzardman (@davenportjames)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I spend far too much time worrying about sex. Im starting this at midnight which just thirty minutes but im going to ost as often as i can. My goal is, dont touch it except for cleaning and using the restroom. No porn at all. No sex which shouldnt be a problem for me. But i will allow myself one freedom, i can have phone sex, but i wont really touch myself. Im gonna go jerk before i cant so bye

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lizzardman (@davenportjames)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I lasted eight hours before i had a boner and couldnt help it

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kevínsson (@kevinsson)1 year, 8 months ago ago

I’m going to challenge myself to make it to valentine’s day 2013 with no self-pleasure. I will not be sexually forward or make the first sexual moves with women, but I’m allowing myself to enjoy whatever comes to me without force/manipulation.

Started this yesterday… recently embarked on a 3 week trip to iceland and was so enthralled with the country and culture-shock that I neglected self-pleasure during the length of the trip… and I\’ve never felt better in my life (i hadn\’t even considered part of the reason I felt so much energy, revitalization, and inspiration, was the fact that sex didn\’t play a single role in the entire trip!) Over the past two weeks since I\’ve been home (and after reinitiating self-pleasure, I\’ve been feeling sexually needy…insatiably needy even… something I\’ve never felt before and want to eviscerate as soon as possible.

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Achyut ram (@achyutram)1 year, 7 months ago ago

Any advices on how to control the urge to?

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kaygee (@kyleeg)1 year, 7 months ago ago

i commend all of you- i don’t think i could do that

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Filip (@filipek)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@achyutram, distract yourself! The urge is only temporary, after a few days it will get better. Every time a naughty thought arises, just make a habit out of it to start thinking of something else, or doing something else.

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~ Lady M ~ (@modusoperandi)1 year, 7 months ago ago

Keep up the great work you Males :D !
I’ve done the same thing for 6 months, no masturbation and no coital activities :)

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DANM!! (@deej)1 year, 7 months ago ago

I’m in on this until the end of Dec

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