Not smart enough

2 years, 4 months ago

My desires seem to be what gets me into trouble.
I want to help change the world.
I want to be a light in my community, and show people how to live happy and healthy.
I want to be able to support my family in all their needs.
I want to live a fulfilling life and not be restrained by money.
I want to continue to grow loving relationships with the people in my life.

I find myself short on time for everything that I want to do. My desires usually end up compromised across the board. I feel that the main problem is that I’m just not smart enough to do everything I want to do. Feel free to crack jokes at my expense, but I would prefer if you could offer me advice and help me grow.

I can’t keep perfect marks in school, and continue to stay out of debt by working two jobs, and spend time with my friends and family, and lead an active lifestyle, and keep a healthy relationship with my girlfriend, and make all my own organic food, and everything else that I want to do. Or at least I am currently having trouble keeping up with it.

It gets really frustrating to me when I feel that I am pushing my limits. Trying to maintain a balance is difficult when your spread this thin.

I’m hoping that some of you beautiful minds out there can help me to either see this in a different light, or offer methods to help me deal with it more effectively. Any thoughts that you feel I would be advantageous to me are deeply appreciated.

Thank you.

November 21, 2012 at 9:58 am

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Profile photo of NickStngl NickStngl (@nickstengl) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

Dont judge yourself by marks in school, an easy example is my dad got really bad grades in school compared to my mom who has a phd.My mom doesn’t even use her degree while my dad makes a lot of money and is able to help out at local places like the family abuse center and the homeless center.My dad was told he couldn’t do anything with his life yet he is able to support my family and many others too.

Just keep at it, and don’t let anyone tell you, u cant do it !

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Profile photo of Sarah Porter Sarah Porter (@srenaldo) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

Love your advice Nick! Good example.

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Profile photo of Ramistotle Ramistotle (@mcr513) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@bobbylloydxd,

I believe there are different kinds of intelligence. You can evaluate your intelligence on in the arts, sciences, athletics, spirituality, sociability, language, and some others.

It doesn’t seem likely that somebody can be perfect at all of these, so you pursue what you value and want to improve the most. I find that once you decide what you want to improve, it is a beautiful thing to identify and commit to what you cherish most.

It is also very difficult to decide what you value most, and I often find myself spreading myself thin too. I realize that despite all of possible interests to choose from, you simply find yourself doing what you love most.

There is the issue with money though. The unfortunate thing is financial security allows you to pursue all of those interests, and many people don’t have that security. You may need to put some interests on hold to manage your finances, and that is a reality most people have to face. I would try to find a balance between obtaining financial security, and pursuing your passions (combing both would be UNREAL!). That is something you are going to have to pursue with a systematic and hard-working approach.

To me, you seem like a hard-working person and have very healthy concerns and passions. I’m sure you will sort things out soon and become a stronger character from it.

Go hard,
Ramsey

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Profile photo of Tine Tine (@tine) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@bobbylloydxd,

man.. though different I can feel you, I own a small business, go to school fulltime online, own a house, have a wife + 2 awesome stepkids, and a daughter who lives with her mom.

my life is stretched thin, but I am starting to infuse more and more of what builds me into it. the first I would suggest is consider all activities from this standpoint, does it build me or destroy me? sounds like most of what you have builds you, but from viewing it this way you can start to see impact variables, how much does it build me? seeing the contrast will allow you to prioritize time allocation

what i did that helped me was make a detailed, hour by hour plan of the day, where I used context and realism to place the various activities throughout the day. I found that, though in one day I may not be be able to do everything I wanted, in the course of 7 days I could, and with a frequency that benefited me in the way I desired

i also made the plan very hard to follow with my level of motivation, the plan became a goal, and each day I start adding activities into my routine, prioritizing the greatest builders first ( for me -sleep- -diet- -exercise- are the core that all else is built upon), and each day I did not complete the routine I was aware of this fact, which motivated me more to do better

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Profile photo of Tine Tine (@tine) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@bobbylloydxd,

“I want to help change the world.
I want to be a light in my community, and show people how to live happy and healthy.
I want to be able to support my family in all their needs.
I want to live a fulfilling life and not be restrained by money.
I want to continue to grow loving relationships with the people in my life.”

all of this is achievable once you focus on -you- to get all of your ducks in a row. Once you find your life organized and generating progress you will find these goals naturally being accomplished

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Profile photo of Tine Tine (@tine) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@bobbylloydxd,

“not smart enough”

….NO… just not organized enough

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Profile photo of anne anne (@truckerhoney) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@bobbylloydxd, If what you need in some moments of doubt is inspiration and motivation, then just think that you have the same amount of time in your day as Leonardo Da Vinci and Albert Einstein. And if what you need is comfort, then just remember that you have achieved a great deal already, and day by day, even if you don’t work like a fiend to fit it all in, you will still achieve a great deal. A stone is worn down not by the violent force of one blast of water but by gradual drips over time.

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Profile photo of Dan Dan (@danfontaine) 2 years, 4 months ago ago
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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@bobbylloydxd, You already know the answer.

You’re spread too thin. That’s the whole problem.

One thing at a time. Gotta prioritize. Take the two or three least important things on that list and drop them for the time being. Put them on ice.

You’ll never get anywhere if you’re just running back and forth. Focus, that’s what you need. Pick the most important thing on the list and focus on it, master it, make it effortless. Then integrate the rest one by one.

It’s simple and methodical, and it is the most effective way. It also guarantees LASTING results.

If I were you I’d wait with the “being a light” thing until you’re established yourself. It’s the most logical order, and you’ll be a much better “light” if you got your own shit handled.

It’s all very simple.

It’s not a lack of smarts, it’s a lack of structure and ACTION.

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Profile photo of Tony Tony (@antlob) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@manimal, Where the fuck is your blog?

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 4 months ago ago

@antlob, In a deep dark dank cave, guarded by a dragon wizard.

I’m working on it.

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