[Official]: 30 Days of Facing Your Fears Challenge

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Jordan Lejuwaan (@jordan)    1 year, 9 months ago

Rules: Each day you must do one of the following (not all three) :
- Something you fear
- Something you’ve been putting off
- Something you’ve never done before

We’ll use this thread as a record for what you do each day. That will end up serving as a giant repository of options for other people looking for inspiration on what to do each day.

I started doing this 6 days ago and it’s been the most enlivening experiment I’ve ever tried.

Format: Day 1: Put out a call for HighExistence Interns
Of course feel free to share any thoughts about your experience that day

My last 7 days:

Day 1: Something illegal (that wasn’t the goal, I’m just not being specific haha)
Day 2: Interview on live radio
Day 3: 25C-NBOME (new and not well tested designer drug that allowed for insanely vivid past-life regression through eye gazing)
4) Pitched a guest post to TechCrunch.com (huge tech blog) about the futurism of 3-D printing
5) Finished that illegal activity
6) Datura (crazy psychedelic, do your research before touching this one)
7) Put out a request for HE interns

Fears could be anything: public speaking, being completely honest with someone about something, bungie jumping, having a vulnerable conversation, meditating for an exorbitant amount of time, forcing yourself to love people you’ve had trouble loving in the past, etc.

Thanks to @jpete011 for serendipitously posting about this

65 votes, posted 11.14.2012 at 6:05 pm
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Anonymous (@)1 year, 9 months ago ago

30 days of taking insane amounts of psychedelics…

not sure what else I have a grave fear of – public speaking?

Can you give an example? Are we talking about, like… dancing with tigers? Or… signing up for a seminar type of thing? I seriously can’t think of something I fear of doing on a daily or weekly basis… Talking to strangers maybe… I definitely want to become more fluent in that. I’ll delete this once I get an example..
@jordan

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Egarim (@egarim)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@jordan,

Yeah I agree with@ijesuschrist : this could use a bit more direction, a little guide rail to put us in the right direction.

I don’t have many fears that can be acted on. I fear something happening to my family and dying before I’ve realized my dreams. That’s about it. Been in too many brushes with death to fear him and I ain’t afraid of no height or spiders haha.

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Jordan Lejuwaan (@jordan)1 year, 9 months ago ago

**Edited the topic to include more clarification**

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Egarim (@egarim)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@jordan,

Nice list! Except I don’t have fears of any of those things… like I wouldn’t say I’m afraid of trying these new drugs or that I’m afraid of bungie jumping (been skydiving). Maybe I just don’t have the money or I don’t want to. But I’m just being the devil’s advocate, this is a good challenge for those that are in need of leaving their comfort zones.

Just my thoughts.

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Miz (@mizu)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Let’s do this shit. I’ll let you know what happens tomorrow.

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Marie (@ARCANUS)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@jordan, Starting when I wake up later today. I’ll have to speak to my professor. I am foreign, shy and insecure about my project, and he is important and busy. I’ve been putting it off for two days, since I couldn’t find him. I’ve been procrastinating and building anxiety. I just need to get it over and done with. So that will be my first challenge. I’m gonna grab a mental axe and swing it toward my internal walls. Thanks for the great post.

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Connor (@condor7)1 year, 9 months ago ago

i’m totally in on this. time to crack open my song journal and finally finish writing a song

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Francina (@francina)1 year, 9 months ago ago

I think guys it is not so much about fear, more expanding your horizons within your day to day life. I’m down! I’ll keep ckecking in daily :)

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Aiden (@aidenblair)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@jordan,
I’m totally up for something like this. I actually wrote a long diatribe about my feelings on fear, and how one could attempt to overcome all fear, and maybe I’ll put off posting it until tomorrow and that’ll be my first “putting off” thing, hehe.

And I just had the idea to try and alternate each of the three daily, like: fear, then putting off, and then never done, but not necessarily in that order.

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Jordan Lejuwaan (@jordan)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@egarim, I think everyone is in need of leaving their comfort zone :) Plus it’s more than fear, it’s also procrastination and stagnation.

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Amy Putkonen (@amyputkonen)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Would it be a cheat to list something I did a couple of weeks ago? We went ziplining. The first one was 3/5 of a mile long and 350 feet above the ground. After a few of those, we weren’t afraid at all. It was exhilarating.

I love this challenge. Not sure what to do yet, but this looks fun.

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Kristina Alexandra (@lookitskristina)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@jordan, how about considering a section for HEthens to communicate or having discussions based on location?

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Filip (@filipek)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@jordan, You have only mentioned one out of the three requirements which you have done, what about the other two which you have mentioned? And under which category did these of yours fall into? I assume the ‘things you have never done before’.

I like the challenge though, but it will take me at least 30 days to think of 30 things I fear and which I can (realistically) do within 30 days. It will also take me at least 30 days to figure out 30 things that I have been putting off and which I can (realistically) do within 30 days. Doing 30 things you have never done before is quite vague to me. I can wear two different types of socks on one day, will that count as well? Not really a challenge in my opinion.

I think the biggest challenge is the 30 days of facing a different fear every day, and I am really curious about the types of fears everybody will come up with. I doubt I even have 30 things I am afraid of (I am not talking about things like ‘fighting a lion’ or whatever else absurd things one may come up with).

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Miss Michal (@missmichal)1 year, 9 months ago ago

If I do something I’ve been putting off because it scares me and I’ve never done it before, does that count for all three? If so, I have a call to make to the state tax commission.

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 9 months ago ago

just punched a cop in the face.
day 1 down

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 9 months ago ago

I’m afraid to kill myself. Don’t do that to me!

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@francina, thank you.

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Day 1 (today) : Be a lazy indulgent piece of shit. Gives me the shivers just thinking about it. Maybe I’ll even have some bday cake, though it will probably wreck my guts. And if there’s anything I hate it’s stomach pain.

Let’s see how it goes.

Great timing, a good challenge to start off my new year.

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FindYourGreatness (@jpete011)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Brilliant stuff, @manimal,

The thread I first started was just to get the ball rolling. I haven’t thought through this TOO much, but I now have some more ideas in addition to Jordan’s (thanks for starting an official thread @jordan,).

@filipek, I agree that it will take a lot of prep to map out 30 different fears, challenges or uncomfortable things to do in 30 days. That’s why I was planning on actually starting this in mid December (maybe the 15th).

As of now I haven’t been able to think of 30 things I fear either. So I’m considering of doing certain activities multiple times (after all I may ‘fail’ the first few times). For example, one thing I want to try is sing a karaoke song infront of a large crowd and get them to sing and clap along with me. Now, this is facing a fear but also has an extra little challenge to it (getting the crowd involved). I may or may not be able to pull this off the first time, as I suck at performing in front of people. But who knows, with some mental preparation before hand there’s a good chance I could do it. In either case, I could do this challenge once a week and try to improve each time.

So, as disorganized as this may seem, I’d say the best way is to come up with as many scary but realistic (and safe) fears and challenges as you can. The best things are things or skills that you’ve always wanted to be better at. In my case, I suck at performing and want to get better and more comfortable with being in the ‘spotlight’ without getting all nervous.
Once you get a solid list, we can go from there to figure out how we will map out the 30 days. You likely won’t come up with 30 different things. In that case we can pick a few certain fear challenges that you could try out multiple days and try to improve each time.

You can also rate each fear (easy, medium or hard). Then give the easy ones a value of 1, the medium 2, and the hard 3. We could then compete against each other and see who gets the most points.

Two days ago I walked into a cafe and saw this absolutely gorgeous girl. After a few minutes (with sweaty palms, trying to hide a nervous tone in my voice) I walked up to her table, sat down across from her, looked her right in the eyes and chatted for about 5 minutes. I’ll take 2 points for that, at least!

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Almeida (@xetado)1 year, 9 months ago ago

I’ll be checking here ;)

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FindYourGreatness (@jpete011)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Oh, and proof of completion (such as pictures and/or videos) are encouraged. This will make it a lot more fun, as well as embarrassing, for the people involved.

Plus, this could quite easily be a lifechanging experience for many and you’ll likely want to look back and reminisce on it. So tell your friends about it and ask them if they’d like to join you. If not, maybe they could at least cheer you on and take pictures. Have them do at least some of the easier challenges with you and then maybe they’ll get more inspired to do some harder ones.

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Han Stew (@hstews)1 year, 9 months ago ago

I’m definitely in on this one, it’s time to put my procrastinating habits in the past.
Hmm lets see what happens!

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Jordan Lejuwaan (@jordan)1 year, 9 months ago ago

@filipek, You just need to do one of those 3 things per day. Not all three as that would be a little much. This challenge is already hard enough!

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Nisska (@nisrom)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Day 1: Did the Five Tibetan Rites. Hopefully this will be the first day of a daily habit.

Can’t believe I didn’t know about them/start them sooner!

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Jordan Lejuwaan (@jordan)1 year, 9 months ago ago

Day 8: Practiced speaking on camera

This may not sound scary to you, and it’s not necessarily ‘scary’ to me, but I dread it. I know I can reach more people with videos in addition to writing articles, so being good on camera is something I know I need to do. Today I made some really big strides :)

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