[Official]: 30 Days of Facing Your Fears Challenge
Rules: Each day you must do one of the following (not all three) :
- Something you fear
- Something you’ve been putting off
- Something you’ve never done before
We’ll use this thread as a record for what you do each day. That will end up serving as a giant repository of options for other people looking for inspiration on what to do each day.
I started doing this 6 days ago and it’s been the most enlivening experiment I’ve ever tried.
Format: Day 1: Put out a call for HighExistence Interns
Of course feel free to share any thoughts about your experience that day
My last 7 days:
Day 1: Something illegal (that wasn’t the goal, I’m just not being specific haha)
Day 2: Interview on live radio
Day 3: 25C-NBOME (new and not well tested designer drug that allowed for insanely vivid past-life regression through eye gazing)
4) Pitched a guest post to TechCrunch.com (huge tech blog) about the futurism of 3-D printing
5) Finished that illegal activity
6) Datura (crazy psychedelic, do your research before touching this one)
7) Put out a request for HE interns
Fears could be anything: public speaking, being completely honest with someone about something, bungie jumping, having a vulnerable conversation, meditating for an exorbitant amount of time, forcing yourself to love people you’ve had trouble loving in the past, etc.
Thanks to @jpete011 for serendipitously posting about this
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Day 10: With thanks to @ijesuschrist I had the sensation of leaving my body for the first time, just by being high/tired and listening to music. Mind. Blown. Will definitely be doing it again!
Day 11: Started the clear out I’ve been putting off forever.
@ARCANUS, I like the terminology you used “take a mental axe and swing it toward my internal walls” something I should do often. :)
And to this general post…. That is awesome! True living, facing your fears. Once I have thought of something to do i will post it on here. Currently too many to choose from. haha. But yesterday,I told off a guy… telling him the way he was talking to me, and what he was expecting from girls was disgusting and disrespectful…. He only wanted sex, and when i told him I was a virgin and staying that way till marriage he had the balls to ASK ME if i would give blow jobs. i was appalled. This is a guy who talked to me as if he was interested, but wouldn’t take me out on a date, wouldn’t offer to pay for anything, and when I offered completely took up the offer like a little kid who was happy someone was buying him lunch. I told him to learn some respect and talk to girls more respectfully….and that he disgusted me. His answer …. “So were not fuckin?” annnd that was the end of it. I felt like a complete idiot, but my morals are what i live for and whether i give blow jobs is none of your business you’ll get to know me then we’ll see if that kind of things would happen or not you don’t just straight ask me something of that sort. Anyways. I told him off and he feels i hope ashamed. I deleted his number and will surely forget about him without any feelings attached.
What to do today: *In the process of deciding ;)
Day One: Let go of my ex. I told him my feelings, requested that we stop communicating unless we were talking about our child, and that’s it. This was easy and actually something I’ve been trying to get around to doing since he was under the illusion I still wanted to be together.
Today I realized that Noah Kagan lives in my city and I made it a goal to try to meet him. I went to the office of his business AppSumo but no one was there (duh it’s Saturday..). I then tweeted to him a video of me at the offices saying that I would bring him a burrito of his choice to meet him (he loves burritos). @jordan, any advice?
Days 5&6: continuing clearing out 15 years of stuff from my house. Most of it is obsolete, broken. Things I just don’t use anymore are going to salvation army. Some petite size 6 women is going to be happy.
I’m not usually stopped by fear. I feel it though. Mind spinning… breath shortened..heightened anxiety. My horse, Maxwell, had a swollen watering eye lid. Putting drops into your own eye is hard. The body’s instinct is to pull away. Imagine if the body is 1500 lbs and the being doesnt understand english. He let me take care of him. Why am I always surprised by that? My fear subsided as I investigated further by shining a flash light into his eye and lifted the eye lid. No scratches or damage. Swelling is down and almost gone this morning. Probably a spider bite or a dust speck. He needs his eyes to survive. I’m so relieved it wasn’t serious. I love my boy Maxwell and apparently he loves me too.
Day 29: Ordered prototype shirts for RaveNectar (SO stoked to see these)
Day 30: Writing an article to submit to the likes of FastCompany, HuffingtonPost, etc. The goal is to be published by a major online news publication
WOOT 30 days completed! This has been an EXPLOSIVE month. Article about the experience coming up soon.
I’m thinking… I could get a lot more items checked off my list if I give up Facebook and Netflix for the next two days. If I do that then I will be able to socially network, in person, Mon and Tuesday, by taking a trip north to visit my family. I miss them.
Brilliant stuff, @manimal,
The thread I first started was just to get the ball rolling. I haven’t thought through this TOO much, but I now have some more ideas in addition to Jordan’s (thanks for starting an official thread @jordan,).
@filipek, I agree that it will take a lot of prep to map out 30 different fears, challenges or uncomfortable things to do in 30 days. That’s why I was planning on actually starting this in mid December (maybe the 15th).
As of now I haven’t been able to think of 30 things I fear either. So I’m considering of doing certain activities multiple times (after all I may ‘fail’ the first few times). For example, one thing I want to try is sing a karaoke song infront of a large crowd and get them to sing and clap along with me. Now, this is facing a fear but also has an extra little challenge to it (getting the crowd involved). I may or may not be able to pull this off the first time, as I suck at performing in front of people. But who knows, with some mental preparation before hand there’s a good chance I could do it. In either case, I could do this challenge once a week and try to improve each time.
So, as disorganized as this may seem, I’d say the best way is to come up with as many scary but realistic (and safe) fears and challenges as you can. The best things are things or skills that you’ve always wanted to be better at. In my case, I suck at performing and want to get better and more comfortable with being in the ‘spotlight’ without getting all nervous.
Once you get a solid list, we can go from there to figure out how we will map out the 30 days. You likely won’t come up with 30 different things. In that case we can pick a few certain fear challenges that you could try out multiple days and try to improve each time.
You can also rate each fear (easy, medium or hard). Then give the easy ones a value of 1, the medium 2, and the hard 3. We could then compete against each other and see who gets the most points.
Two days ago I walked into a cafe and saw this absolutely gorgeous girl. After a few minutes (with sweaty palms, trying to hide a nervous tone in my voice) I walked up to her table, sat down across from her, looked her right in the eyes and chatted for about 5 minutes. I’ll take 2 points for that, at least!
Day 21: Started a routine of speaking my dreams out loud each morning
I had tried journaling before but writing it all down was a chore. It’s only been two days and my dream recall has already shot through the roof!
Day 22: Caught up on a TON of emails/messages from strangers that I had been putting off
Not a very exciting day, but progress nonetheless
Day 19: Shot Q&A video that I promised to you all a whilllllle ago. I hate being on camera (but have warmed up to it since starting this challenge!).
@ijesuschrist, I’ve used the roots and the seeds in my 3 attempts. I’ll look into the leaves, thanks! I WILL make this work and will let you know when :)
Day 9&10. Still sortting and packing. Some rooms are now completely empty as I am giving, tossing, or packing things I don’t use.
The next generation should have it easier… Books, pictures, and documents can be digitized. They might still need dishes and clothes… Or not… who knows what changes the future will bring.
Hi Everybody! Wanted to give this a whirl.
Day One: Made and tried Wassail
Blogged about it here: http://galenvelonis.wordpress.com/2012/12/15/30-days-of-fear-day-one-wassail/
Well, last year i ended a 11yr relationship, stopped smoking after about 15 years of inhaling a packet a day (sometimes more) and added a exercise regime of sorts to my daily routine.
A friend asked me just before New Years what my resolutions were, I considered all I managed to accomplish last year and thought i’m gonna give myself a pat on the back and a bit of a break this year. I’m not going to worry about anything much except sustaining what I have managed to gain for myself and learning to love myself.
This year is going to be about as much fun as I can safely handle, and never saying no to a new experience (…….obviously within reason that is!!) – BRING IT ON
@siantastic, thanks! I would love to be able to cut my own hair…we will see.
Day 11: Submitted my public health final for my first ever free online class! While I will probably apply to get my masters, free education feels so much more fulfilled. My free astronomy class starts this week.
Day 12: Made my own toothpaste and bought apple cider vinegar to use as a rinse with it. Another accomplishment for my DIY goal.
Day 13: Learning to read and fill my own car tires. It’s about damn time.
Day 2: I’m an audio engineer. I’ve just started my own business, and being that I have started to take on paying clients, it has caused me to look back and remind myself why I got into this business in the first place, because I simply love music. Before starting up this company, I took on a project of a very good friend of mine.I promised that I would do a few tracks with him free of charge, just for the love of learning and expanding my skills. Thing is, I never finished the project once I started my company and started booking paying clients. I always felt bad that I put it on the back burner and kept him waiting for his finished project, so today I mastered his tracks and sent them his way on a CD. The project’s done and it feels great to remind myself why I started doing this in the first place!
Day 12: bought some craft supplies for projects I’ve been meaning to do forever.
Day 13: didn’t do anything in particular. Still carrying on with the de-cluttering, meditation and yoga though. Starting to see some habits forming :)