[Official]: 30 Days of Facing Your Fears Challenge
Rules: Each day you must do one of the following (not all three) :
- Something you fear
- Something you’ve been putting off
- Something you’ve never done before
We’ll use this thread as a record for what you do each day. That will end up serving as a giant repository of options for other people looking for inspiration on what to do each day.
I started doing this 6 days ago and it’s been the most enlivening experiment I’ve ever tried.
Format: Day 1: Put out a call for HighExistence Interns
Of course feel free to share any thoughts about your experience that day
My last 7 days:
Day 1: Something illegal (that wasn’t the goal, I’m just not being specific haha)
Day 2: Interview on live radio
Day 3: 25C-NBOME (new and not well tested designer drug that allowed for insanely vivid past-life regression through eye gazing)
4) Pitched a guest post to TechCrunch.com (huge tech blog) about the futurism of 3-D printing
5) Finished that illegal activity
6) Datura (crazy psychedelic, do your research before touching this one)
7) Put out a request for HE interns
Fears could be anything: public speaking, being completely honest with someone about something, bungie jumping, having a vulnerable conversation, meditating for an exorbitant amount of time, forcing yourself to love people you’ve had trouble loving in the past, etc.
Thanks to @jpete011 for serendipitously posting about this
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Day 10: Sleeping outside in the woods. Alone.
My friend suggested this one and I was immediately not feeling it, which is why I had to do it. About to head out there now. If I never publish another post on HE, you know what happened to me :p
Day 8: Practiced speaking on camera
This may not sound scary to you, and it’s not necessarily ‘scary’ to me, but I dread it. I know I can reach more people with videos in addition to writing articles, so being good on camera is something I know I need to do. Today I made some really big strides :)
I love this.
Thanks for presenting this challenge. I’ve gained an incredible surge of confidence and am learning about myself and letting go.
Well… The other night I watched Bride of Chucky – WHICH Chucky, the doll, has been my biggest fear/actual phobia status, since I first saw it when I was 5. That thing chased me in my nightmares and dreams for twenty years of my life and was the focal point for years of humiliation and fear and pain brought on by my family. I was teased and threatened with a doll relentlessly. I would hyperventilate when I would see the face. This whole experience of panic attacks and what felt like paralysis stemming from this glimpse of irrational fear.
All I had were fragments of an image and a voice and for the majority of my lifetime that was the monster that was coming to get me. That was it… a crappy little doll. And a laughable movie filled with bad acting and what looks like expensive puppetry. I actually enjoyed myself and found myself teaming with those guys. THAT was it.
I laugh at myself and love myself like a cute little kid. Silly rabbit. That was fun.
Day 28: Day of Service
Day 19: in the early hours of this morning whilst attempting to astral project I had my very first epiphany experience. Things got crazy. I feel amazing, and I’m pretty sure lifes going to be a bit different now.
Still no cigarettes too. It’s kind of amazing what you can do when you decide it is so.
Day 3: Took a three hour drive north to visit an old friend. Part of my list contains spending time with people who are important in my life, but I can’t always find the time to see. Our time here is limited, making the most of it with good friends is well worth it.
Day 4: Started doing a daily photo challenge that will span for the next year. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do. In a years time, I want to look back and see how much I’ve accomplished and have memories of time well spent.
Day 2: Told my sister that I had always been jealous of her and wished we have a better friendship
Day 3: Called in sick to work and soothed the soul with red wine, music and de-cluttering the house. Plus told a few people how I feel about them. Came clean to my boss re: my home situation.
Day 8: Wrote a script for a 3 minute voice project I am planning on recording.
P.S. – Should be Day 9 today, but I took a day yesterday to visit my family. That was the only chance I had to see them this Christmas. Was well worth it!
I skyped with Jordan yesterday on his day of service and he pretty much inspired me to start this today. http://www.highexistence.com/day-of-service/
I highly suggest signing up for a 30 min meeting with him–he’s got a lot of great advice to offer and is a seriously cool and enlightened dude! You’ll be glad you did.
For mine, I’m going to incorporate a number of daily practices in hopes of developing long-term, beneficial habits. I also brainstormed a list of things I can refer to in case I’m not spontaneous faced with a ‘fear’ that I can attack! Feel free to suggest anything you tried that turned out awesome or a positive habit you might’ve developed that I could include!
My 30 Days of Fear
January 20, 2013
-20 minutes of meditation
-60oz of water
-physical activity (break a sweat everyday)
-write 1,000 words
-work on my business (even just ideas for it)
-come up with 10 ideas (about anything)
-read at least 30 minutes
-wake up at least an hour earlier than I have to
-smile at everyone I see
I may add others, but trying to keep the list simple & short to make sure I actually stick to it
-visit a professor during office hours and just talk about something.
-give a presentation about something I really care about
-meet someone and find out more about them (beyond ‘how they’re doing’)
-cold e-mail someone I admire; ask for simple advice
-cold e-mail experts in social media management/marketing
-cold e-mail a popular blogger
-dedicate an entire afternoon to working on/improving my blog
-go for a run in below-zero weather (I live in Alaska)
-begin rubber-band snapping (Pavlov-like conditioning against negative thoughts)
-attempt to adjust to the everyman cycle (I’ve NEVER adjusted from my 6-8 hr ‘normal’ cycle)
-make a serious attempt at making a guest-post for another site/blog.
-meet via skype with someone successful on the internet that I admire
-begin working on an essay worth publishing
-sign up for an airlines credit card & begin planning a trip for April
-apply for various camps/programs to better myself
this is just what I have for now…will be thinking of others every day!
30 days from now I’ll be posting results, as well as insights on my blog.
Now excuse me it’s time to meditate then write 1,000 words
@jordan, You have only mentioned one out of the three requirements which you have done, what about the other two which you have mentioned? And under which category did these of yours fall into? I assume the ‘things you have never done before’.
I like the challenge though, but it will take me at least 30 days to think of 30 things I fear and which I can (realistically) do within 30 days. It will also take me at least 30 days to figure out 30 things that I have been putting off and which I can (realistically) do within 30 days. Doing 30 things you have never done before is quite vague to me. I can wear two different types of socks on one day, will that count as well? Not really a challenge in my opinion.
I think the biggest challenge is the 30 days of facing a different fear every day, and I am really curious about the types of fears everybody will come up with. I doubt I even have 30 things I am afraid of (I am not talking about things like ‘fighting a lion’ or whatever else absurd things one may come up with).
Today I realized that Noah Kagan lives in my city and I made it a goal to try to meet him. I went to the office of his business AppSumo but no one was there (duh it’s Saturday..). I then tweeted to him a video of me at the offices saying that I would bring him a burrito of his choice to meet him (he loves burritos). @jordan, any advice?
Day 10: With thanks to @ijesuschrist I had the sensation of leaving my body for the first time, just by being high/tired and listening to music. Mind. Blown. Will definitely be doing it again!
Day 11: Started the clear out I’ve been putting off forever.
Day 29: Ordered prototype shirts for RaveNectar (SO stoked to see these)
Day 30: Writing an article to submit to the likes of FastCompany, HuffingtonPost, etc. The goal is to be published by a major online news publication
WOOT 30 days completed! This has been an EXPLOSIVE month. Article about the experience coming up soon.
@ARCANUS, I like the terminology you used “take a mental axe and swing it toward my internal walls” something I should do often. :)
And to this general post…. That is awesome! True living, facing your fears. Once I have thought of something to do i will post it on here. Currently too many to choose from. haha. But yesterday,I told off a guy… telling him the way he was talking to me, and what he was expecting from girls was disgusting and disrespectful…. He only wanted sex, and when i told him I was a virgin and staying that way till marriage he had the balls to ASK ME if i would give blow jobs. i was appalled. This is a guy who talked to me as if he was interested, but wouldn’t take me out on a date, wouldn’t offer to pay for anything, and when I offered completely took up the offer like a little kid who was happy someone was buying him lunch. I told him to learn some respect and talk to girls more respectfully….and that he disgusted me. His answer …. “So were not fuckin?” annnd that was the end of it. I felt like a complete idiot, but my morals are what i live for and whether i give blow jobs is none of your business you’ll get to know me then we’ll see if that kind of things would happen or not you don’t just straight ask me something of that sort. Anyways. I told him off and he feels i hope ashamed. I deleted his number and will surely forget about him without any feelings attached.
What to do today: *In the process of deciding ;)
Day One: Let go of my ex. I told him my feelings, requested that we stop communicating unless we were talking about our child, and that’s it. This was easy and actually something I’ve been trying to get around to doing since he was under the illusion I still wanted to be together.
Day 4 & 5: went out and took action in my sales, read the secret, and worked more on my goals. As for the fear part, I’m contacting my ex girlfriend who I hurt pretty bad in the break to see how she is doing 7 months later. She will either hate my guts or she will be cool and all will be amended. We shall see!
Ok.. I can do this. Today can be my Day 1: I tried a new 70 min. Moderate level yoga routine but didn’t complete it. I’ll keep trying each day for 30 days until I can do it. The instructor provides moderations for difficult tasks so theres no excuse. This will cover all bases. There are poses new to me. I fear that I might be too old to do this. I’ve been putting it off for a while by doing easy routines.
I’m thinking… I could get a lot more items checked off my list if I give up Facebook and Netflix for the next two days. If I do that then I will be able to socially network, in person, Mon and Tuesday, by taking a trip north to visit my family. I miss them.
Day 1: Started a mammoth art project I’ve been visualizing. It took a huge chunk of the day and made a dense mess, but it is well worth it. However that’s the easy stuff off the ole’ avoidance list. God help me conquer the things I don’t enjoy…
Days 5&6: continuing clearing out 15 years of stuff from my house. Most of it is obsolete, broken. Things I just don’t use anymore are going to salvation army. Some petite size 6 women is going to be happy.
I’m not usually stopped by fear. I feel it though. Mind spinning… breath shortened..heightened anxiety. My horse, Maxwell, had a swollen watering eye lid. Putting drops into your own eye is hard. The body’s instinct is to pull away. Imagine if the body is 1500 lbs and the being doesnt understand english. He let me take care of him. Why am I always surprised by that? My fear subsided as I investigated further by shining a flash light into his eye and lifted the eye lid. No scratches or damage. Swelling is down and almost gone this morning. Probably a spider bite or a dust speck. He needs his eyes to survive. I’m so relieved it wasn’t serious. I love my boy Maxwell and apparently he loves me too.
Immediately after reading this, I decided to text my girlfriend, exposing my vulnerability in the midst of a HORRIBLE power struggle we have got going on right now.
Something which I am a little scared of right about now.
But thanks Jordan, this is a great great great post of yours. They’re always very good.
Glad to see someone firmly pushing the boundaries. Inspirational
Day 10: Went snowboarding in the mountains for the first time.
Day 11: Learned to carve on a snowboard.
I’m new to snowboarding. This trip to the mountains was only my 3rd time on a board and I have to say, at first, I was dreading it. I never used to like snowboarding, almost hated it in fact. The two times that I had went out last year were frustrating and difficult. Nothing but falling down and coming out sore, without any sense of accomplishment whatsoever. It honestly felt like it just wasn’t for me.
Stepping out of my comfort zone this year and going out to the mountains to try, at least one more time before giving up entirely, turned my viewpoint on the sport, and even some aspects of my life, right around. I can’t explain how incredible it felt to be up there. The fresh air, the way you would see the sun rising over the mountain top as you ride up a chairlift, the peace and quiet, it was beautiful.
The first day was definitely a bit frustrating, I will admit, but I just kept pushing, kept falling and kept getting right back up. By the time day two had hit I was already learning how to successfully carve on a board, something I’m told takes a lot of time and practice! But there I was, and I’ve never felt better.
Starting this challenge, I have to admit, the first nine days felt good, but never great. A lot of my first tasks were centered around breaking procrastination and getting things done that were piling up, but it wasn’t until I took on a challenge that forced me to step out of my comfort zone and go snowboarding on a mountain, even though I was dreading the experience initially, changed me. I see the value of this 30 day challenge in a whole new light. The happiness and fulfillment I was looking for was up there on that mountain, outside of my comfort zone, learning and experiencing something I probably never would have before.
If there’s one thing you can do during this challenge, I highly recommend doing something that doesn’t come natural, that does not feel comfortable in any way. Just go out it and do it, and you will understand what I am saying. It’s going to be hard and you’re not going to want to do it at first. If you have to, do what I did and find yourself someone, anyone who you can ask to keep you from turning back, to give you that push when you start to feel uncomfortable. Just do it. Live and learn from the experience to come.
After what I experienced up there, I can honestly say I will never forget how good that felt, flying down a run on my own for the first time, in control. I’m without a doubt, a snowboarder now. I will never give that up. I’m from western Canada, and I understand now why so many people here are in love with this sport. It’s so much more than that.
The greatest part about all of this is that the lessons I have learned from this experience are going to carry over into other aspects of my life where I feel like it’s time to step out of the comfort zone. That is perhaps the greatest reward of all. I’ve grown, and I owe it not only to those in my life who have supported and inspired me, but also this challenge as well. Thank you.
Mine aren’t crazy, but I’m glad I did them. :)
Day 1: Stood up out of the back window of a pickup truck my friend was driving (think Perks of Being a Wallflower) not scary but I normally wouldn’t have done it.
Day 2: I been meaning to re-read Lord of the Rings put have put it off. Finally did it.
Plan for tomorrow: I was nervous to read and try the next chapter/ example of my meditation book. The author made a note about how meditation may change your life and I never read past that. Going to get this done!
30 days of taking insane amounts of psychedelics…
not sure what else I have a grave fear of – public speaking?
Can you give an example? Are we talking about, like… dancing with tigers? Or… signing up for a seminar type of thing? I seriously can’t think of something I fear of doing on a daily or weekly basis… Talking to strangers maybe… I definitely want to become more fluent in that. I’ll delete this once I get an example..
Brilliant stuff, @manimal,
The thread I first started was just to get the ball rolling. I haven’t thought through this TOO much, but I now have some more ideas in addition to Jordan’s (thanks for starting an official thread @jordan,).
@filipek, I agree that it will take a lot of prep to map out 30 different fears, challenges or uncomfortable things to do in 30 days. That’s why I was planning on actually starting this in mid December (maybe the 15th).
As of now I haven’t been able to think of 30 things I fear either. So I’m considering of doing certain activities multiple times (after all I may ‘fail’ the first few times). For example, one thing I want to try is sing a karaoke song infront of a large crowd and get them to sing and clap along with me. Now, this is facing a fear but also has an extra little challenge to it (getting the crowd involved). I may or may not be able to pull this off the first time, as I suck at performing in front of people. But who knows, with some mental preparation before hand there’s a good chance I could do it. In either case, I could do this challenge once a week and try to improve each time.
So, as disorganized as this may seem, I’d say the best way is to come up with as many scary but realistic (and safe) fears and challenges as you can. The best things are things or skills that you’ve always wanted to be better at. In my case, I suck at performing and want to get better and more comfortable with being in the ‘spotlight’ without getting all nervous.
Once you get a solid list, we can go from there to figure out how we will map out the 30 days. You likely won’t come up with 30 different things. In that case we can pick a few certain fear challenges that you could try out multiple days and try to improve each time.
You can also rate each fear (easy, medium or hard). Then give the easy ones a value of 1, the medium 2, and the hard 3. We could then compete against each other and see who gets the most points.
Two days ago I walked into a cafe and saw this absolutely gorgeous girl. After a few minutes (with sweaty palms, trying to hide a nervous tone in my voice) I walked up to her table, sat down across from her, looked her right in the eyes and chatted for about 5 minutes. I’ll take 2 points for that, at least!
@jordan Datura, really? That’s not even a psychedelic — it’s a delerient. You’ll see shit that’s not there, have conversations that don’t actually exist. Is there a specific reason you want to try it? I’ve only read negative stories from people where they talked to imaginary people and ended up 3 days later in a hospital.
Maybe there’s some use that i’m not aware about and you can enlighten us? :)
Day 2: Inspired by another suggestion from this website, I added a Cold blast to the end of my shower. Most painful, exhilarating, refreshing thing I’ve done in a while.
Day 3: I forgave someone who had done a terrible and stupid thing to me. I ran into them randomly, and instead of ignoring or giving the evil eye, I became the better person and said Hi. It feels so damn good to get over grudges, and maintain positive relationships with people.
@jordan, nice photoshop
OT: I started my homework… yesterday. going to be a grueling 12 more hours today.
Yesterday I spoke my mind about politics. I don’t usually do this, despite my attitude on the internet. I tend to simply listen to people. But sometimes I want to say something – but fear the conflict that may ensue. I’m getting more confident in that regard.
Day 3: Cleaned my entire apt. along with laundry (give it a 2, was a HUGE mess)
so far I’ve posted something I was afraid to/insecure about, done something I’ve never done(died my hair), and now something I’ve been putting off
I’m thinking my next fear faced might involve my arachnophobia :)
Day 11: Wrote script for my first YouTube video
I’ve known for a while that video is my next frontier for spreading HE-like material, and I’ve been putting it off because I hate being on video. By the end of this 30 day challenge, the first one will be done.
Day 12: Admitting to Failure
This is kind of a catch-22. I didn’t do something for this challenge yesterday, causing me to admit that I failed. Normally I’m afraid of admitting I’ve failed, to the point of denial. So in a way I didn’t fail….hehe just kidding. I FAILED!!!! WOOHOOOOOO!!!!!
But today won’t hold any failure :)
Day 13: Comitting to a Raw Diet for 30 Days
I’ve been putting this experiment off for a while. People I respect swear by it, and I want to see what it does to my energy levels and mood.
@hstews, That’s totally worth that weak punishment! Congrats.
Day 19: Shot Q&A video that I promised to you all a whilllllle ago. I hate being on camera (but have warmed up to it since starting this challenge!).
@ijesuschrist, I’ve used the roots and the seeds in my 3 attempts. I’ll look into the leaves, thanks! I WILL make this work and will let you know when :)
@siantastic, thanks! I would love to be able to cut my own hair…we will see.
Day 11: Submitted my public health final for my first ever free online class! While I will probably apply to get my masters, free education feels so much more fulfilled. My free astronomy class starts this week.
Day 12: Made my own toothpaste and bought apple cider vinegar to use as a rinse with it. Another accomplishment for my DIY goal.
Day 13: Learning to read and fill my own car tires. It’s about damn time.
-Did my first ever Skype interview for my website. Coming out soon, stay tuned.
-Hired a freelancer for the first time
-asked some ‘mentors’ for some feedback
-emailed a bunch of inspiring people I look up to to try to get in contact with
Day 21: Started a routine of speaking my dreams out loud each morning
I had tried journaling before but writing it all down was a chore. It’s only been two days and my dream recall has already shot through the roof!
Day 22: Caught up on a TON of emails/messages from strangers that I had been putting off
Not a very exciting day, but progress nonetheless
@siantastic, that’s awesome. I’ve gone out a few nights now without drinking. It’s tough at first cause of all the peer pressure (and people get drinks just by habit every half hour or so!). But once I tried it, I realized how pointless alcohol really is. You don’t need it to have a good time, it’s just a programmed social habit
Day 21: Started a three day fast with sleep deprivation + daily snow dives
Day 22: Spent my day on the streets, singing and playing guitar for people passing by. Couldn’t play well at all due to the cold (bullshit excuse.)
Day 23: Took a day off to spend all day doing boring ordinary couple stuff with the girl. I feel violated and now I have too much surplus energy to get some well-needed sleep. Never again.
Day 16: my day of no Internet went well but it was hard. Accidentally checked my emails once, and had to stop myself looking up the weather or bus times. But I got a lot more done before work that day. I’m tempted to have one no Internet day a week. It is a great thing, but a great time waster too.
Day 17: called in sick for work and there was nothing wrong with me. Really just wanted some time to myself. I meditated, did yoga, made some candle holders, and carried on with my house decluttering. I don’t even feel guilty.
@vernalsoul, The “work it takes to get there” is not really just the work that gets you there, it’s the result itself. The power/control IS the mind/will.
Technically, it’s all just a choice here and now.
Because the path and the goal are one and the same, the change is immediate, but most people don’t notice until they’ve had it for quite some time.
First off, I have to say this challenge is an incredible idea. I’ve already got most of my list completed. I’m really looking forward to killing procrastination for good with this list. I have a strange feeling that this will not be the first and only time I take this challenge…
Day 1: Sent a long overdue email to someone important who has been waiting far too long to hear from me. Feels good to tie up loose ends!
I hope it’s not too late to start this, but to be fair I only discovered this today. I have been kind of heading towards this kind of thing for a while now. Long story short. Made a big mistake. Got into a bad relationship. Lost my self. Curled into a ball (which I have been in for 2 years now). Too scared to leave. So…I went skydiving last week! So much fun (I was terrified of going but so glad I did).
So anyway, day one started yesterday. Got over my social anxiety and went to my new workplace xmas party…and got too drunk.
Monday…I’m scared to go to work. That will be my mission. To turn up to work and take the teasing in good faith.
Day 3: Started a 30 minute daily morning ritual. Committed to doing it every morning at least until the end of this challenge.
Here’s the video, which I found on this site: http://www.highexistence.com/videos/view/my-morning-ritual-how-to-be-productive-happy-healthy-everyday/
Hi Everybody! Wanted to give this a whirl.
Day One: Made and tried Wassail
Blogged about it here: http://galenvelonis.wordpress.com/2012/12/15/30-days-of-fear-day-one-wassail/
Day 2: I’m an audio engineer. I’ve just started my own business, and being that I have started to take on paying clients, it has caused me to look back and remind myself why I got into this business in the first place, because I simply love music. Before starting up this company, I took on a project of a very good friend of mine.I promised that I would do a few tracks with him free of charge, just for the love of learning and expanding my skills. Thing is, I never finished the project once I started my company and started booking paying clients. I always felt bad that I put it on the back burner and kept him waiting for his finished project, so today I mastered his tracks and sent them his way on a CD. The project’s done and it feels great to remind myself why I started doing this in the first place!
Day Three: Watch Alan Moore’s Latest Films and Started my Job Search:
Day Two: I have been putting off picking up my kids’ Angel Tree presents. So I got those. I also have been putting off finishing up homework. I got in contact with the va dude so now I’m on my way to getting that out of the way. Finally did all that. Now I can breathe easier. Almost forgot, I started walking again. So much shizzy-nit I’ve been putting off. Thank goodness I’m bipolar or I’d never get anything done.
Day 6: worked more at getting an electric engineer for my invention and I believe its paying off! My dream just may become a reality yet! I also walked alone on a huge hike, never have gone alone on a hike so it was an amazing and spirituel experience. Also worked more on getting into producing
Day Three: Today was the day of facing something that made me uncomfortable and was about facing my fear. Even though I am 34 years old, I find it so hard to speak up to my father. So today I did not let him put me down and pick on me. Every comment he spoke I countered and refused to let him use me as his verbal and emotional punching bag. Even though it feels like I didn’t do much, it is a step in the right direction.
Day 2: yesterday…spent two hours cleaning up construction material from my yard from several projects that were done months ago (when it was warm in Michigan). Yesterday it was 38 degrees and raining. I’m glad it’s finally done cause now… It’s snowing.
Today I made guacomole from scratch WITHOUT USING A RECIPE OF ANY KIND!!
it was very scary and i was worried about the outcome, but after some some chopped garlic salt pepper avocado jalapeno onion lime juice goodness, it turned out to be delicious
While I was doing the dishes, I got the idea to take out one of my old water pipes that I used to love and I gave it a thorough cleaning – it took some work, but now it looks like new.
I’m enjoying every day of this challenge
Day Five: Stayed in the house even though unwanted guests arrived. A lot of them. I don’t like to be around a lot of people,
Day Six: Controlled my anger about my dad’s favoritism of my middle sister to all of his other daughters. Don’t even want to go there.
Day Eight! I got my Christmas Tree!
@phanci3 thank you for the kind words. I’m ok. Just going through something. I should have planned more social breaks instead of spending so many days alone with sad memories. I’m going to visit my niece and her kids today.
Day 1(which just ended): – watch my old schools summer musical “children of eden” which for a highschool they did really well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxVUwRf82TY
- finish writing a means to an end letter to someone i love so i can finally move on
all while staying in my room all day.
Day 9&10. Still sortting and packing. Some rooms are now completely empty as I am giving, tossing, or packing things I don’t use.
The next generation should have it easier… Books, pictures, and documents can be digitized. They might still need dishes and clothes… Or not… who knows what changes the future will bring.
Day 12: more organizing and simplifying… Only one room left to sort out.
Day 13. I met Bob Doty many years ago. I admired him very much for the service he provided to the community. He led a team of prison inmates on work release to maintain the local cemetery, shoveled snow from the driveways of local elderly, took care of his wife until she died from Alzheimer’s. He did this all very consistently with deep conviction. When my life got rough he called me many times to wish me well. I liked to visit with him and felt some comfort in knowing that someone was wishing me well. Today I started my new years resolution early by volunteering within my community. Bob passed away a few months ago and I want to help fill his shoes in the community. I think he would like that idea.
Well figured that this would be a good way to start off my 2013 year. So here it goes, today I wrote two blog posts that I have been putting off for about a week now, and am trying to have a rubberband around my wrist at all times for the anti-negative challenge. Every time I have a negative thought, simply snap myself…nothing like a bit of Pavlov to start the year out right!
Well, last year i ended a 11yr relationship, stopped smoking after about 15 years of inhaling a packet a day (sometimes more) and added a exercise regime of sorts to my daily routine.
A friend asked me just before New Years what my resolutions were, I considered all I managed to accomplish last year and thought i’m gonna give myself a pat on the back and a bit of a break this year. I’m not going to worry about anything much except sustaining what I have managed to gain for myself and learning to love myself.
This year is going to be about as much fun as I can safely handle, and never saying no to a new experience (…….obviously within reason that is!!) – BRING IT ON
@brentman, Hey man, how’s it going so far?
I’m new here on the forum and I have to admit – I was pretty depressed couple of hours ago, when my sister reminded me of HE.
I had a lot of challenges since I moved to Paris three months ago for a student exchange program.. I had to do everything alone. Find my place, meet new people, do a lot of administration, take care of myself and apartment (never lived completely alone before). AND – I had to start speaking french, what was my biggest fear since I started to study it 3 years ago… I even went on a 5 day trip with a group of 9 french that I barely knew, just for challenge (which was great experience btw!). But I guess I just got used to my life here…I stopped feeling like my life is made of challenges, I stopped being excited about everything I see and everyone I meet.. and I just started to feel wrong… I started to be more demanding with people, what led me to my old i’m-too-sensitive-and-depressed-and-fucked-up self… but that’s a long story.
But I came here and realized – I can try to make them up, new challenges, every day. I don’t have to wait the life to bring them to me.. If this started to be my new ”comfort zone”, then I should just step out of it!
Sooo – I’m starting tomorrow. First challenge – Skype with Jordan.
(Skype used to be my 2nd biggest fear, also 3 months ago)
(but not anymore…if I talk to people I know)
(but I don’t know Jordan, so I’m really afraid. again)
P.S. sorry for my English, I never really learned it in school so…
@martartar, it’s going pretty good; a lot more difficult keeping up with the practices than I had imagined!
So far I’ve only tackled a few of the ‘real’ things I’ve set out to do–I gave my first public speech in a very long time today and it went pretty well! I”ll be attending my first Toastmasters meeting next week in my pursuit of facing my public speaking ‘fear.’
As for your nerves skyping with Jordan, I felt the same way as I’m inexperienced with skype and knew that he has accomplished so much and didn’t want it to go ‘bad..’ as if it could.
Jordan is very easy to talk to and was really helpful to me, especially because he was in a very similar situation as me when he was my age. Like I said, you’ll get nothing but great advice and insights in your conversation with him!
@luigiblue, that’s awesome!!!!! I hope to embark on something like that someday…huge props to you for taking the initiative to travel and serve somewhere like that.
Yesterday, I found no one to parkour with, so I went by myself. I finally faced my fears and managed to do a kong over a lunch table! I was so excited, that I tried a different move that came naturally to me over the same table, and it worked as well!
I was so excited that I was able to do these moves, that I tried to do them in succession. I started on tables that were far apart, and then moved onto tables that were spaced right next to each other. When I got that, I decided to go for it. 6 tables in a row. And I managed to make it. Twice.
I will do this again tomorrow, or possibly later today.
Day 1 – sent a honesty letter to a person I was in love with but never dared to say it.
I also finally put up a poster about organising a bookclub at my academy. No one answered still, but at least I did it.
After taking up this challenge, there have been major changes in my behaviour and life. There is now a greater confidence about my abilities as well. I was postponing certain things and procrastinating a lot before. It has started vanishing. I am more proactive now.
Major changes which I have brought about in my regular schedule is that I have started to get up pretty early in the morning 5:00 am, doing Yoga, getting more focussed on work, staying off from the unwanted load of information. ( I have stopped being active on facebook. :-)) I am seeing a change from inside out. That’s all within 15 days of it. Thanks @jordan for starting this wonderful thread.
@illusion, Åh, en svensk. Vad trevligt. Håll ut. :)
This thread is so inspiring. It has made me improve a lot. Respect and love to you all.
I’m really planning on going hardcore now in november with as many challenges I can come up with.
Cant somebody stop the spamming ? Why should it be in here ? Start making cash right now, we heard it and you can click on a lot of pages to do that. We know that now.
Oh, but that is really good things to do.
@charlycerone, Oh, but that is really good things to do. From calling a long time ex (Hm, I have 5 ex, I have talked this year with all of them, one of them live in the same building as I do and 2 other I have my 2 children with so I meet/talk to them rather often. So I contact the last two), building furniture for my apartment (Okay, thats hard, I do it when I am home), drawing a portrait (I try, but I draw kind of abstract), write a short story (I have write a lot of short stories and now a long story), cook new meals (also when I coming home, garlic soup. Meesaka and salmon/spinach with 3 kind of cheese (melting in oven) is my own dishes), feast (Okay, I do a come-home-party that would be a challenge), meditate (I do it now and then), follow some of the advise that i get from many post in this page (that I do), a day w/o money (easy, I normally not buy anything most of the days in month), a day w/o internet ( okay, then you don’t see me in one day), visit my grandpa (my grandpa is dead, so going to the grave like 6 hour from where I live in Sweden, probably snow there now), fix things at home (I have try to minimize to have so few things as possible).
I realized that two backpacks of things, most toys were too much for a 1.5 months Thailand trip
I think furniture, feast and portrait is the hardest. So I do them when I am home and have all things I need. =)
Does that count to put up 10 shelves and use a shelf to make a living room table ?
I also need feet on my bed. And a long bench for writing material and so on at the wall. =)
Yeah I agree with@ijesuschrist : this could use a bit more direction, a little guide rail to put us in the right direction.
I don’t have many fears that can be acted on. I fear something happening to my family and dying before I’ve realized my dreams. That’s about it. Been in too many brushes with death to fear him and I ain’t afraid of no height or spiders haha.
Nice list! Except I don’t have fears of any of those things… like I wouldn’t say I’m afraid of trying these new drugs or that I’m afraid of bungie jumping (been skydiving). Maybe I just don’t have the money or I don’t want to. But I’m just being the devil’s advocate, this is a good challenge for those that are in need of leaving their comfort zones.
Just my thoughts.
@jordan, Starting when I wake up later today. I’ll have to speak to my professor. I am foreign, shy and insecure about my project, and he is important and busy. I’ve been putting it off for two days, since I couldn’t find him. I’ve been procrastinating and building anxiety. I just need to get it over and done with. So that will be my first challenge. I’m gonna grab a mental axe and swing it toward my internal walls. Thanks for the great post.
I’m totally up for something like this. I actually wrote a long diatribe about my feelings on fear, and how one could attempt to overcome all fear, and maybe I’ll put off posting it until tomorrow and that’ll be my first “putting off” thing, hehe.
And I just had the idea to try and alternate each of the three daily, like: fear, then putting off, and then never done, but not necessarily in that order.
Would it be a cheat to list something I did a couple of weeks ago? We went ziplining. The first one was 3/5 of a mile long and 350 feet above the ground. After a few of those, we weren’t afraid at all. It was exhilarating.
I love this challenge. Not sure what to do yet, but this looks fun.
Day 1 (today) : Be a lazy indulgent piece of shit. Gives me the shivers just thinking about it. Maybe I’ll even have some bday cake, though it will probably wreck my guts. And if there’s anything I hate it’s stomach pain.
Let’s see how it goes.
Great timing, a good challenge to start off my new year.
Oh, and proof of completion (such as pictures and/or videos) are encouraged. This will make it a lot more fun, as well as embarrassing, for the people involved.
Plus, this could quite easily be a lifechanging experience for many and you’ll likely want to look back and reminisce on it. So tell your friends about it and ask them if they’d like to join you. If not, maybe they could at least cheer you on and take pictures. Have them do at least some of the easier challenges with you and then maybe they’ll get more inspired to do some harder ones.
@feren6, Please keep this discussion to reporting on the challenge. Check here for your answer: http://www.highexistence.com/topic/datura-flying-ointment/
Been reading this site for so long and have had many times that I wanted to comment but haven’t partly because I have trouble turning my thoughts into words because of indecisiveness and also because there is some company out there recording all our moves on the internet and might be used against us in the future.
I found this place at what seemed like a perfect time when I felt like I was entering the phase @drquantum so clearly described here or maybe I entered it because I found the site!
And this comment feels great
@antlob, I am using a tent because it’s literally freezing here at night. Canada is so cold compared to California its ridiculous. Going out now, goodnight!
Safety first! I’d like to mention that if someone really tries to face all of their fears in a month, it may lead to complete turning point in their lives, so take it easy… and really check out your stress levels, facing a fear EVERY single day could be riskier than you think and some stuff just takes more time to adapt to. I still can’t believe that for two months I spoke in front unfamiliar group of people and improvised, did fairly well, learned how to cook almost everything I could think of, made a hundred new contacts, and now I’m basically losing myself and my new lifestyle of living on my own. I’m starting to feel the need for some kind of entertainment or I’m afraid I’m gonna break down dramatically.
Day 1: Not being afraid of losing my mind.
Day 1: 30 second cold burst at the end of my shower.
This was tough! I’ve been waiting a while to do this because NZ isn’t exactly warm until the last month of so of summer, but i woke up last night itchy from the heat so i decided today was the day that i would start this challenge and the shower thing!! Hopefully by the end of the fears challenge i can tolerate a whole shower in the cold! I feel so energetic right now. This is definitely a morning i could get used to ;D
@siantastic They are fantastic! I feel myself getting stronger every day, and they make waking up a Lot easier. I’m starting to hit “snooze” less and less.
Day 4: Smoked weed, and had a really good trip. This is sort of a first. I tend to have some hidden anxiety, and it comes out when I smoke. I hate that because I know weed can be an awesome thing. I have a feeling my new habits of doing tibetan rites and meditation are letting me finally let go of some of that inner anxiety…leading to a better weed experience ;)
Day 5: Allowed myself to be “doted” on. This one may seem weird, but I can be pretty self deprecating so attention and tenderness make me uncomfortable. I want to learn to let go so I can LIVE fully and enjoy all moments, especially emotional ones.
@thomaschong, TIHKAL has this to say:
(with 20 mg, orally) “This substance proved to be quite unlike psilocin and bordered on the bizarre. There was a latency period of about three hours after ingestion before the onset was noted. Visual disturbances were minimal; no alteration in colors or objects occurred. The nature of this compound was characterized by the heightening of the intellectual process, but not to the extent seen with psilocin. The entire experience was more ‘stimulant-like’ rather than hallucinogenic. A very unpleasant ride. Have no desire to go deeper or, indeed, to look at the other cyclic analogs.”
which… mmm.. ??
@nisrom, Great, well I’ve only done one day so far but looking forward to feeling the benefits. I have a little anxiety too, so fingers crossed it will help.
Day 2: Tried Thai food for the first time.
Day 3: Did the 5 Tibetan rites.
I know mine are a little lame and I’m not challenging myself too much. For me this is definitely going to be more about trying and doing things I’ve never done before. So far I have already established that Thai is my new favourite kind of food!
@jordan, A wise man by the name of Michael Jordan once said, “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”
Today I finally manned up and asked my boss about doing a Remote Work Agreement (working remotely from anywhere with internet access). He sounds like he might consider it.
For those who are employed and you’d rather work from home or even travel the world while still maintaining your job/income, you should DEFINITELY check out these websites:
Thank me later!!
So I started on my 19th birthday this past saturday. I’ve always been afraid to defy my parents (which isn’t the worst thing) but I decided I wanted to have some fun and deal with the consequences later! So i threw a huge party in my house since they happened to be out of town the night of my birthday… It was the best night of my life! Yeah I’m grounded from my car for two weeks but it was totally worth it! I will not be doing it again, but it was such a strange, refreshing experience, and it opened me up to a lot of people, and allowed me to loosen up. Then on sunday, I decided to do a photo shoot as my family has always told me i should model. I go today to check out the photos! I’m excited at the turn my life has taken after the devastating end to my two year relationship…. Everything gets better in time when you have an open mind! Tomorrow I am going to get a midi and start recording my piano music… I’m so glad I started participating in this, even though i’ve already missed a couple days!
@ijesuschrist, When I ingested 120 mgs orally, I found that that period was more of a door to a bright hallway, with more of it taken, it amplified the unpleasing effects, but also brought on incredibly realistic, global encompassing hallucinations, sure the leadup and comedowns are pretty bad, but the peak is incredible. Compare half a hit of LSD to 6, think of it in that sort of respect, there’s no point in doing a small bit, but if you can find enough, a large dose is pretty incredible.
Yesterday I finally showed some people my website and got feedback on it.
Today I stopped delaying and asked to interview someone (from a long list of impressive people I’d love to interview).
@jordan, Joe Rogan is coming to my city in two weeks and I want to meet him (its on my bucket list)! How can I get this done??
He’s having a show but its pretty expensive to attend. Did you buy tickets when you saw him or just wait around for him after the show?
Day 2: Learnt to whistle with my fingers… Stupid, but i’ve been wanting to do this for so long. Been putting it off!
Day 3: Turned up to an event that i knew i wouldn’t know anyone… Definately pushed my comfort zone boundaries. I’m usually pretty confident if only i know one person in the room.
Day 6: Agreed to do something called the Big Sky Challenge during my upcoming snowboarding trip. I have to complete half of a list of 36 insane or fear-inducing “dares.” Haven’t decided which ones I’ll try to do yet…
Day 7: Yet another thing inspired by this website that I have been putting off… I decided to add meditation to my morning routine, after I complete the Tibetan Rites. It was….difficult. As soon as I get up in the morning I have a to-do list already running in my head. I constantly visualize what I want to happen or what I need to do during the day. I consider it a productive thing….but then it seriously interferes with my meditation. Maybe it will get better with practice, but I might consider switching my meditation time to the afternoon.
Day 14: Datura / Flying Ointment
@jpete011, We showed up w/ no tickets just knowing we were going to get it. Tried using our expensive cameras to get media passes, which didn’t work, but then we saw someone we knew outside scalping tickets who gave us some for free! After Joe waited at the merch table and talked with every single person who waited in line to see him. Super chill guy.
Day 4: Swapped Gyms. Something i had been putting off. My old gym had a really negative energy to it.
Day 5: Learnt a new piece on the piano.
@jordan, To do a backflip was on my list of things to learn this summer! Let me know how you go with that video dude!
Alright, Day 1: I went indoor caving. I’m a little claustrophobic about certain things, so this was something I fear. Obviously it was man-made (at a rock-climbing gym), but it was EXTREMELY tight quarters in the pitch black dark. I had my first near psychological panic attack & started to turn back almost immediately…when my son in front of me told me to grab onto his foot and that it’d be okay because we’d be together (thank god for him!). After awhile I saw some light, and told him I was gonna go that way & bail out…and it ended up NOT being an exit! So I was stuck in there alone for awhile anyways. :)
Day 6: cut my own hair. It’s amazing what you can do by watching a YouTube video huh.
Day 7: took my camera out. Wanted to try my hand at photography for a while.
Still doing the Tibetan rites, and man they’re harder than they look. I do a fair bit of cardio but turns out my core muscles are WEAK. Took me a while to realise why I woke up with sore stomach muscles this morning. Feels good though, I know it’s working.
@siantastic, tibetan rites?
@jordan, You should join our p90x group… and when will you post or explain about datura? Did it even work?
I want to go hiking today. I haven’t really left the house since thanksgiving, and part of me wants to stay in and continue that. But I shall fight the apathy and go on a hike in the alpine!
@ijesuschrist It’s yoga, and you do five exercises but build up the repetitions. I’d post a link but can’t from my iPad for some lame reason. If you’re at all interested I downloaded an app with the videos of how to do each one. The apps simply called ’5 Tibetans’.
@siantastic, what video did you use to cut your hair?
Day 8: Made a cowl for my grandmother’s birthday. I’ve never completed a project like that….I started getting hand cramps! I’m really trying to be more of a DIY-er and less of a consumer. I want to live a sustainable life!
Day 9: Bought my ticket for SKYDIVING (Black Friday special price). Season is closed now, but I can’t wait until it opens in April. This will be another cross off my bucket list!
Day 10: Went on a long walk with my stepmother. I hate walking, so this is a first. I decided to say yes because of my whole creating more positive relationships with others thing. It’s hard for me to get close to her (my fault). Unfortunately, I found out I still hate walking (particularly for ‘exercise’). I think it’s something about the frustratingly slow progress you make.
@nisrom, The videos called ‘how to cut long round layers at home’, and it’s a girl called farahdhukai. Sorry cant post a working link. I took a couple of inches of the length myself, just by sight.
Aw man, sky diving, really wanna do that. It’s going to go on my list for next year too!
@ijesuschrist, I haven’t managed to make a strong enough salve. With the latest and greatest I just felt weird and woke up one time in the night thinking I was on my laptop. Bizarre but no where near what I’m looking for. I’ll be making another batch soon with even more seeds.
@tine, What activity?
@siantastic, I love it! Eating has become so much more of a present, conscious activity. Eating even very simple dishes is now incredibly enjoyable.
@jordan, you use seeds? They have low content… I thought the leaves were where its at. [Looks like most people use seeds - didn't know this]
I’ve heard people eating seeds before bed to increase lucidity.
I just did some quick research and the smaller the plant, the more scopolamine will be present… and less of the hyoscyamine, a similar compound.
@jordan, Good job :)
I was having a difficult time with shyness… like I couldn’t talk… so I started practicing freely speaking (journaling) in front of a camera and it really helped bring me out of my shell.
This challenge is so fulfilling. Thank you.
i think way too many people here think psychedelics are “it”. the thing with psychedelics is that when you’re high you experience all kind of amazing stuff but it doesn’t make you any smarter afterwards. personally i feel it’s better to skip drugs and experience more with meditation, it leaves you happier and you don’t have to go through the hangover. meditation will in the long run help expand yourself on a much higher and different level than drugs.
I just found this today and I can’t wait to get started tomorrow. I read through some of the posts and it reminded me of things that I have been putting off doing for years. It has become such a habit since I graduated high school that I’ve gotten used to putting my needs and wants last. And yes, that’s on my list of things I will be doing in the next 30 days. Very exciting and thanks for the idea.
Day Two: I cleaned out my inbox of e-mail, which I’ve been procrastinating on. God, that was tedious, but it needed to be done.
Also, I updated my couchsurfing and meet up profiles.
Blogged about it here:
Started this yesterday with the new year. Have a few rolling goals such as sober and no sex for two weeks so my only “highs” will be coming from within. Should be interesting. Bought a plane ticket for an event in April and will signing up for a voice lesson. Also, started a blog to talk about the experiences. Jump head first into 2013!!!
I have a challenge for myself that I think some of you may enjoy doing too. I call this a challenge because with this busy, stressful, school filled, job filled life we all live, it is hard to do this. And it is winter! We all want to stay inside! So I say, screw that! :)
Read about it here!
@alexmayle, I live in Washington. Great state, love it here! And thank you for the kind words mate. My dream is to be paid for my photography to help me travel and such. Only started less than a month ago, so maybe I do have a future in it, who knows.
Days 14 -26. Wow. What a difference. I simplified by clearing out 15 rooms in my house! Including every drawer and closet. I put it off for a long time because it was a monumental undertaking with emotional ties It’s done now. I’m fixing up or replacing trim and doors. Windows are scheduled to be replaced in 6 weeks. Then it goes up for sale. It’s time for me to move on and start over. I live in only one of the 15 rooms so needless to say. I am downsizing. I hope a young couple buys my house and has a wonderful family and life here. 30 days to launch a life restart. :)
I know the rules are to do just ONE thing a day. but i can’t help it. i’m ambitious. so here’s Day One (Today) ::
1.Give up FB/lazy TV for the whole challenge. I’m gonna be doing a lot, so I need my time!
2.Start building the foundation for a fitness/lifestyle website. Extremely stoked for this!
3.Check out Couchsurfing. I’ll be uprooted in March, so might as well be prepared to travel.
4.Fill my Ipod with audio learning + awesome music. Not a minute wasted!
5. Start an integrity challenge…no lies, not even white lies for 30 days. period.
6. Donate all the stuff I have waiting in my closet
7. Begin a Vlog! More on this tomorrow.
Day one went fabulously! So glad I found this guidance! I already feel better after day one! I’m going to try my hardest to keep it up daily! Infinite love to all the beautiful people attempting to make each day better! <3
This is wonderful! Day two went great! I did something I have been fearing for years but knew I shouldn’t be! I already feel like a stronger more put together person! I just want to keep going! I did a few things I’ve been putting off for the longest time! Loving this and the good vibes I bring to myself! Circles of love to all the beautiful people sending good vibes off!
Day Four! Did a few things I’ve been putitng off for pretty much an entire semester! Felt good! Felt great actually! This whole challenge is truly mind blowing and I am bless and grateful I found it! To all those considering or particpating, Dont Give Up! Blissful wonders through the soul! Just imagine who I will be by the end! Cannot wait! Keep the good vibes flowing! <3 for all
Love this challenge. I have been reading through this for a few months now but I haven’t contributed until right now.
Few challenges of fear I have chased this month:
1. Plan a trip to Africa to help build homes and experience an under-developed country to the fullest. (That means living in the bush in a hut, no running water, toilets or electricity.) This is fully booked and I leave March 2nd. Very excited and scared.
2. Being a regular at the gym I see a lot of the same people everyday, I noticed that no one ever talks to each other so I took it upon myself to connect with every other regular there. This has actually turned out to be amazing, met some great people with great stories.
3. Approach any girl that makes eye contact with me….not to ask for numbers but to just have a simple conversation and say hello.
@brentman, you were right Brent, Jordan is great! It was really nice to talk with him. And since then I keep getting signs that I’m on the good way…it’s unbelievable.
I have big big plans for this week :)
Congrats for your public speech!
I imagine it’s hard to do your daily practices, especially to start with all of them at once… I think that ”smile at everyone I see” is already a big start…
@luigiblue, Bon voyage! :)
@bookheadedcellist, I hope it goes well! Good luck!
This sounds like a great idea, I am going to join you, technically it started yesterday when I told my best friend I needed space from them. But let’s make that day 1. Tomorrow I am going to speak to her face to face about it, another thing I fear more than anything. But I am not sure I should count it, so I will think something else up for day 2.
Day 3 – finally made a 8tracks eclectic-on-your-own dance mix.
@jordan, This is an amazing idea! I just spent the past hour or so reading this whole thread and am now extremely inspired. As I’ve been reading I’ve been jotting down things I need to get done and various fears I have to face myself.
I have a decent list built up and cannot wait to start this tomorrow. Will keep checking in here after every few days or so.
Good luck to all!
Go with peace :)
Day 2 fully committed to HE’s self love article. Day 3 finished my Comp Sci project well before the due date and to the best of my ability and I spoke to my friend face to face, awkward day to do it with it being valentines day and all. But it went really well.
I am going to start this challenge, but, coming to this page from the original post, it seems like this ‘discussion’ page won’t be very helpful for purposes of the challenge, as it has just been filled with all sorts of random comments and ideas. I do love the original post, though!
Just joined, from Sydney, Australia. Introduced to this site by a lovely friend from Norway. Today’s overcoming Fear exercise is turning on skype, and have conversations with members of extended family. Something in these sort of conversations get overridden by anger and life being sucked out. So, here goes. Thanks!!
Day still starting here, so will wait for something I have never done before..thinking of lying in bed and reading a novel….that is something which seems anathema to me at the moment.
Today starting this challenge, this is btw the first one, I never have joined a online conversation before.
Incredibly motivated to do this challenge, especially the days I’m confronting my fears. I already feel the fear coursing through my body
Sorry, English isn’t my first language.
Living in Thailand for 16 days now. I’m free from my season depression (October til April in Sweden). What a relief.
So up for this challenges.
In Thailand I have tried to eat the same food as the Thai people do. I am pretty tired of rice soup and rice/chicken/egg. We eat that almost everyday here.
Then my friend here wanna be nice and bought some Skippy (peanut butter?) and bread. Another thing I cant really eat, but I at least try it til the jar is empty.
So the Thai food and Skippy will be a challenge for me.
So isn’t that a challenge for anyone more than me in here ?
To never choose food for like say a month (for me 42 days). You must find someone else who decide for you and as it is for me, a person who do not know you.
Or ask a random person what they will have for lunch that day and cook the same.
Then when I come home I rather call my doctor again and hopefully get some sun therapy or what ever, because I wanna be able to think and not be in a lot of pain from October til April. But last time the doctor say there wasn’t a cure for my health problems.
My best challenge til today was when I lived 1 week as a homeless in French (September is beginning to get cold there). First days was the worst, then I as always felt free. It wasn’t meant to be that way. Long story.
If someone feel it would be a challenge to live almost in middle of Sweden in a small town, learn Swedish, eat Swedish food and make new friends. I’m glad to have a room for free for some days/weeks if someone is up for the challenge. Or a small apartment with very colorful walls. One thing, I don’t like alcohol or drugs who is illegal.
In December we celebrate an alternative Christmas. Last year 24 December.
13 December it is Lucia. w
Or maybe “Happy new year”
@illusion, ”If someone feel it would be a challenge to live almost in middle of Sweden in a small town, learn Swedish, eat Swedish food and make new friends. I’m glad to have a room for free for some days/weeks if someone is up for the challenge.”
I am actually doing that, and damn, Sweden is sketchy. I am from southern Brazil, so I just hope I can survive the upcoming winter.
Men det går bra.
Today its was a challenge just to be me.
But I understand today that this gonna be a living on a low budget month. Must be better to work, that’s for sure. Or at least believe in my self.
I look at the Rave Nectar and find one who was really inspiring for me. So when I get money, I will buy it !
I took one of my hardest challenge ever for 2 year ago. I went to an art school for 1 year, just to learn the basics. For me that’s was a big challenge because I grow up being told that I cant paint, I cant draw a thing and it really make me feel low (specially when my dad keep telling me that and praised my cousin) and also my near friends was against my school choice (but you cant even draw!). So I went to that school for one year, one of my best years so far. There my kind of paintings was totally okay and they praised me for being me and for painting the way I always have done. A lot of tears, a lot of going against my father feelings and so on til I was on the end of the year. Now I can tell people, yes, I have done that thing, I like it without trying to hide it.
So when I saw one Rave Nectar t-shirt with my own kind of art, it is a must have =)
@zachrie, Tack ! Jag försöker hålla ut, men nästan panik idag då jag insåg att pengarna som jag har nu ej kommer räcka. Men det löser sig på något sätt =)
Hope you find a lot of inspiring challenges to do !
Why not buy a Rave Nectar t-shirt ?
Challenge my self to write in English, a novel of 50 000 words !
But I will “cheat” a little and write it first in Swedish and then translate it. Hopefully that will work and I will have it complete til the end of this month.
This post and challenge are very inspiring to me. i am an absolute procratinator and i think something like this will help me change that, at least a little bit.
i started today making a list of things that im afraid to do, that i have push for later for a long time, things that i didnt do in a long long time and y really want to do again and a lot of things that i never did in my life and i like to try.
the list has become gigantic!
i need way more than 30 days, but 30 will be the first part, and i really hope that this get me to do all of the stuff i have written down and much more.
Im exited and thats really rare on me :)
sorry for my english
and many thank for the inspiration.
@charlycerone, Cant you post that list here ? If you take away the private parts maybe ? So we other people can get some inspiration ? =)
I maybe can try to do all things on your list ? Help each other ?
Today I have eaten rice soup for many days and no, its not my taste. And that weird peanut butter I now have found on a cracker and its taste better than on the sandwiches I eat. So maybe the peanut butter should be on crackers/bis and not on toasts?
And yesterday I eat pizza, here in Thailand. It does not taste like Swedish pizza, but okay. Maybe just because I miss cheese so much. Its easier to be w/o sex/hugs than w/o cheese for me, that is fun to think about.
My challenge is only to face the fears that appear everyday! Asking random people to make out with me and doing other stuff that “normal” people fear to much to do. I particularly love the feeling of doing something bigger than the others and what we simply need to do this are some real “balls”.
@illusion, jej i wont post my full list, but include: from calling a long time ex, building furniture for my apartament, drawing a portrait, write a short story, cook new meals, feast, meditate, follow some of the advise that i get from many post in this page, a day w/o money, a day w/o internet, visit my grandpha, fix things at home, etc,etc,etc.
this arnt tings that im afraid, some are just thing that i want to try for a long time and i didnt, or that i miss much doing.
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Dare you challenge yourself?
Listen to music and try to at least write some words in my novel. Then I realize that I need to learn more English. A new challenge.
And I get new food today, home made liver pate or what you call it. I dont really like home made such of things, and I am still not sure that I like thai version of it.
@martartar Yes, I am talking about NaNoWrimo.
It is hard to say, how it goes for me. My goal is to write 50 000 words this time. But because I have my daughter I don’t have time to sit down and make the whole story complete.
I have a village I write small stories about instead. 30 000 words so far.
But today its getting harder because my daughter’s school is closed both Thursday and Friday. So hard to have time to just sit down and write. Internet is not so good here either.
Because of my asperger, I need more time to rest and sleep too.
@vskren, My daughter is 4 year old. And sure, she come up with great stories and have a very good imagination. But it will not help me make enough words every day.
@martartar, Its my first nano and I cant finish it I think now. To my pain because of the weather and because of my daughter not have school or babysitting for around 4 days. =(