There are many things in life that are overrated. One of those things is love. We all somehow give it so much attention, perhaps even more than what we are supposed to, and here I am talking about romantic love. Other kinds of love, like motherly love, our love for books, music, a certain passion is a different thing. It is rarely overrated… but of course it could possible be for some people to have a similar love to their partner… But what I am trying to say is that love in general is overrated… What do you think? What are other things you find overrated?
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Love is not overrated. We’re misled and try to find love in places where there most certainly is no true love but maybe a pretend love or not enough love or whatever. But LOVE? I was a skeptic for a looooooong ass time and falling in love is the most incredible feeling in the world. I hope I’m lucky enough to do it every day for the rest of my damned life.
The thing about romantic love is that people like to put it on display too much, not that it’s overrated. Showing off. I don’t even understand the reason people share how much in love they are with each other, like someone else is going to completely feel mutual love on their own. Doesn’t make any sense. When they start to worship a person, they really prove that love is blind and they blind themselves. Love is one of the most powerful forces, it drives people insane and makes them do crazy things with no limits. If they are in love, that crazy feeling when you cannot think straight. If it’s unconditional. Put any conditions and you fall into a trap of two people playing games of blame and selfish needs. I’m in love, that’s why I can’t shut up. *commits suicide*
I urge each of you to read this:
Americans have one word for “love,” while the Greeks have five: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/3991-five-kinds-love.html
The trend with romantic love in our culture is to get, and also it revolves heavily around social status – what other people think.
Love isn’t about getting; it’s about what you can give, and also it is a tool for self actualizing.
This chronicles why monogamy isn’t working today. People can’t stop thinking in terms of the other, defining themselves by the other. This is why couples get so sick of each other.
Monogamy isn’t completely natural but it can be done right. It’s about being a higher version of you through another person. Not on their merit but on your own.
@mercurial, I agree with all you said. Nonetheless, love is a big deal and not overrated, in my opinion.
You’re right though when you say how it is every man for himself. There’s different forms of love that should be distinguished in this conversation; love for thyself when shit hits the fan and love for others when the shit hits the fan. In moments of fearing for our lives is when we are told the most about us. That’s when the biggest subconscious decisions are made and thrown right in your face. Those moments are very revealing because they show the level at which we care for ourselves in relation to others well beings aswell and just how willing we really are to sacrifice for love. Fear and love are like one hand washing the other. Take a situation like you said but with a loved one. If you simply fear you would run, take the flight response. If you love, you take the fight response in order to sacrifice yourself in someway for the others well being and security. Which is sort of funny because love and fighting aren’t the two words people like to pair together.
Love has clearly shown to be confusing to people as whole in this world. Pure love, though, that’s what we should focus on! Pure genuine sincere love.
In my opinion love is not overrated.Lust and the pursuit of perfection in love are overrated. Lust is fantastic only when you are experiencing it actively. then it fades and burns up so that you need it more. Love can exist in so many states. Intimacy can take the form of friends, lovers, whatever. I think the big problem with love is that people are actively looking for it. Love is not an ancient math theorem that needs to be solved. Instead you find love when you stop looking so much. That is love and I believe when it is done right it is way underrated.
It’s perfectly fine.
“I’d like to have her right down there on the floor with the old in-out, real savage.”