Overrated?

2 years, 6 months ago

There are many things in life that are overrated. One of those things is love. We all somehow give it so much attention, perhaps even more than what we are supposed to, and here I am talking about romantic love. Other kinds of love, like motherly love, our love for books, music, a certain passion is a different thing. It is rarely overrated… but of course it could possible be for some people to have a similar love to their partner… But what I am trying to say is that love in general is overrated… What do you think? What are other things you find overrated?

July 19, 2012 at 6:20 am

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Profile photo of Beni Beni C (@beniandtheuniverse) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

Love is not overrated. We’re misled and try to find love in places where there most certainly is no true love but maybe a pretend love or not enough love or whatever. But LOVE? I was a skeptic for a looooooong ass time and falling in love is the most incredible feeling in the world. I hope I’m lucky enough to do it every day for the rest of my damned life.

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Profile photo of WryJester WryJester (@wryjester) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

All love is derived from the same place. It is a feeling that reflects one morals and virutes. It can be found in certain books, music, passions, or people, but is the same feeling. And it is underrated as it is the only true reason for anything.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

Romantic love?
Like what?
Are you just salty cause you can’t get no?

I love love, and that is where it ends for me.

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Profile photo of greenaisles greenaisles (@greenaisles) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

50 Shades of Grey *puke*

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Profile photo of Nick Nick (@janski) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

Love is one thing that doesn’t (shouldn’t) cost money, is healthy, natural, and there is an unlimited supply of it. It’s what we as humans live for and gives us the drive to continue on. Love by itself…I cannot imagine it being overrated.

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

The thing about romantic love is that people like to put it on display too much, not that it’s overrated. Showing off. I don’t even understand the reason people share how much in love they are with each other, like someone else is going to completely feel mutual love on their own. Doesn’t make any sense. When they start to worship a person, they really prove that love is blind and they blind themselves. Love is one of the most powerful forces, it drives people insane and makes them do crazy things with no limits. If they are in love, that crazy feeling when you cannot think straight. If it’s unconditional. Put any conditions and you fall into a trap of two people playing games of blame and selfish needs. I’m in love, that’s why I can’t shut up. *commits suicide*

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

I urge each of you to read this:

Americans have one word for “love,” while the Greeks have five: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/3991-five-kinds-love.html

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Profile photo of Matthew Matthew (@ojai) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

Love is a pretty big deal

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Profile photo of 1.61803399 1.61803399 (@drunkmonkmeth) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

love is good.. romantic love isn’t love at all though.

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Profile photo of Dan Dan (@danfontaine) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

The trend with romantic love in our culture is to get, and also it revolves heavily around social status – what other people think.
Love isn’t about getting; it’s about what you can give, and also it is a tool for self actualizing.
This chronicles why monogamy isn’t working today. People can’t stop thinking in terms of the other, defining themselves by the other. This is why couples get so sick of each other.
Monogamy isn’t completely natural but it can be done right. It’s about being a higher version of you through another person. Not on their merit but on your own.

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

Nothing wrong with love. Love is good stuff, if anything it’s underrated.

It’s all the attachments that are the problem.

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Profile photo of Matthew Matthew (@ojai) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

@mercurial, I agree with all you said. Nonetheless, love is a big deal and not overrated, in my opinion.

You’re right though when you say how it is every man for himself. There’s different forms of love that should be distinguished in this conversation; love for thyself when shit hits the fan and love for others when the shit hits the fan. In moments of fearing for our lives is when we are told the most about us. That’s when the biggest subconscious decisions are made and thrown right in your face. Those moments are very revealing because they show the level at which we care for ourselves in relation to others well beings aswell and just how willing we really are to sacrifice for love. Fear and love are like one hand washing the other. Take a situation like you said but with a loved one. If you simply fear you would run, take the flight response. If you love, you take the fight response in order to sacrifice yourself in someway for the others well being and security. Which is sort of funny because love and fighting aren’t the two words people like to pair together.

Love has clearly shown to be confusing to people as whole in this world. Pure love, though, that’s what we should focus on! Pure genuine sincere love.

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Profile photo of Kyo Zero Kyo Zero (@kyozero) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

In my opinion love is not overrated.Lust and the pursuit of perfection in love are overrated. Lust is fantastic only when you are experiencing it actively. then it fades and burns up so that you need it more. Love can exist in so many states. Intimacy can take the form of friends, lovers, whatever. I think the big problem with love is that people are actively looking for it. Love is not an ancient math theorem that needs to be solved. Instead you find love when you stop looking so much. That is love and I believe when it is done right it is way underrated.

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

It’s perfectly fine.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lesrrtx1Hc1qe0eclo1_r1_500.gif

“I’d like to have her right down there on the floor with the old in-out, real savage.”

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