I was wondering of anybody would like to share their view on physical appearances.
Physical appearances aren’t everything about a person, but they certainly say some things. They have an influence on if you land a job, or won the heart of that potential love. I believe maintaining a healthy appearance influences people to respect you more.
I don’t like how important some people make it to be when going all out with brand names and trends, but I do realize it is a big part of our society and influences all of our lives whether we want it to or not.
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I believe “good looks” come from being happy, confident and healthy. Especially confidence, if you truly believe you are attractive without believing you are better then others you will radiate a positive energy that others will pick up subconsciously and for reasons beyond themselves will find you rather attractive \m/
i agree for the most part with all of you. look are important because they are responsible for first impressions. but beyond that they aren’t (or shouldn’t be). were conditioned our who lives to look for attractive people (every hero from our childhoods is basically a model). also, evolutionarily, were programmed to look for symmetry and attractiveness because it is indicative of good genes for reproduction. but we aren’t slaves to our evolutionary basics, we have the ability to choose to look past first impressions.
personally i used to be wayyyy too concerned with my appearance, but since I have been living in korea, ive seen how overly important it is to people here and it makes me realize how little it really matters.
@mcr513, physical appearance does mean something, people make a judgment about the inner world of the person too. If you have nice features, you must be a nice person, if you have strong features, you must have a strong character. On some level it even matches the character of the person. And people do judge by cover, even if they don’t want to, it happens instantly, but sometimes people give other people second chances despite their looks, but that most of the time means there has to be an area in communication that overcompensates the “bad looks”, like for example intelligence, good communication skills, being hilarious funny or something like that.
If you mean good looking people are more succesful in life, it doesn’t mean they are more succesful, but they do get more opportunities to become succesful, but some people manage to screw up anyway, if they for example are too arrogant to relate to other people or too leaned back or think everything will happen for them no matter what…
I do think having a healthy appearance makes it more easier to relate to other people, because we like to get involved with people that have a pleasant appearance. But for just being with someone I think having similarity in character is making the communication process more easy. If someone is plain funny you like to be around funny people too, otherwise it could get boring or people don’t understand your jokes or something…
Physical appearances are governed by your left hemisphere brain. It deconstructs the body and draws borders of things – so you can distinguish the face from the body, the cheeks from the lips, the nose from the forehead, etc.
To really see physical appearances you need to silence the left hemisphere for a little bit. Not something you just “learn to do”.
Then you will see the insignificance of physical appearances.
“Physicality is observed, personality is understood.”
“Love is adopted in the mind, and housed in the heart.”
If these aren’t relevant, then shame on me. They were the first two realizations I had upon reading this thread.
There’s a reason why we have two eyes, and it is to see the world’s colors, people, landscapes, to protect ourselves etc… It is important to look good, but the problem is how industries try to get money out of it, they have to manipulate the senses, how many times have you seen a photo with a pejorative connotation of a blonde, tan, tall, sexy girl… rarely seen but how many times have you seen the little black, poor, dirty kid in a “famine on africa” advertisement. Nowadays everything is created or transformed, sadly, just to buy that new Ferrari…
Yeah one things people are pretty good at is snap judgements. But hey, don’t feel bad about it; we all do it, and once you get close to someone and start to see them on that personal level, then appearances won’t matter that much.
Personally, and when I have the…motivation/ decided to GAF that day, I’ll dress good, and subsequently feel good about myself. It’s like one of those upward cycles that require little effort.