I am addicted to all kinds of pleasure. I never want to do anything that isn’t instantly pleasurable. I smoke a lot of weed, eat a lot of food, sit on my ass, and masturbate a lot. Constantly, actually. It’s consuming my entire life, and I can’t stop. I’m perpetually horny. I’ve been told to put my sexual energy elsewhere, but I don’t have a clue as to how to achieve that. Advice, anyone? :)
according to hedonism, you’re doing everything correctly(:
minus the ‘sitting on your ass’ all of those things aren’t negative. just replace that with something you love doing, maybe exercising and gaining pleasure from the results or playing an instrument and getting lost in the music. sometimes pleasure isn’t always physical.
@lolivia, well then will power is the source of your problem. It is entirely YOUR choice to get high, eat, and masturbate. As much as it may feel like impulse, or something outside of your sphere of control, it is entirely within your control, as it is YOUR action.
The only advice I can give you is to be conscious of both your decisions, and the fact that YOU are the one deciding to behave a certain way.
@lolivia, Forget about making “something respectable” out of yourself, that’s just what uptight assholes come up with to make everybody in the world a robot because they are secretly pissed off they aren’t following their bliss. Find something you love doing and do it, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone, fuck what other people think. And if people around you are judging you either tell them to do one or do one yourself. Life is too short to get caught up doing what other people expect you to do. In short; smoke that weed, eat that food and master that bate. Final note, I don’t how much exercise you get but getting a bit more might curb that libido.
I have found myself in a similar situation before. My advice: get out into nature. Make it less convenient for yourself to instantly gratify. Will power is like a muscle… the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets. Start small though.
Say, for instance, you promise yourself that when you want to get high you will only do it out in nature. In order to get your high you must go hiking. If you get some pleasure out of the hike, then you will be more likely to go hiking for the sake of hiking instead of just to get high. While you’re out of the house you can’t masturbate nearly as easily either!
The thing that helped me? Writing poetry. When you write creatively you see a lot of your subconscious, which can be a valuable tool to helping yourself change.
Find something meaningful that you get joy from, and do it.
@lolivia, Well indeed you may be addicted to all thing pleasure-able. Maybe take a step back to see if you are really using these things to “self medicate”. I smoke every day all day and i masturbate a-lot too. I have cut down on the masturbation though for it is harmful to my relationship with my lovely girlfriend. The reason for that being is because i watched so much porn… and turns out it conditions you to need different women every time you get off. One women is no longer desirable.
Anyhow…i completely agree with @liveitloveit, i might actually take up that advice about only smoking in nature. In addition, the whole you have to make something out of yourself is a complete social construction like @chekovchameleon, said. You can do whatever you want to make yourself happy but idk if becoming a pornstar is the right choice though haha. If your sex drive is an issue im sure there is a guy/girl (whatever you dig) out there who has an equal sex drive and you guys would just be bangin into the sunset haha.
What i would say is, if all these things are indeed detrimental to your existence then to stop and engage in more healthy activities. However if you love pot, sex and food find others who do too. I love weed food and sex. I get my sex out with the GF because she understands that i have a very strong sex drive. I eat really good food as much as i can but i make sure that my health is priority by rock climbing and running as much as possible. AND las but CERTAINLY not least i smoke pot every fucking day. I love it.I love the plant, i love the high, i love the lack of socially constructed anxiety. With that being said if pot does become fully legal in CA i plan on becoming a professional in that industry because i love it and i want to do something i love.
Hope that helps? haha i tend to go off on tangents because of my ADD :D
@highideals, Problem is, I’m a teenager living at home. Looks like I’m going to have to engage in healthier activities. Which is what everyone tells me to do. But since fucking when do I listen and do the rational thing? = my problem. I’m a lazy, pleasurable bastard. Like how porn conditions you to crave multiple partners, nothing that isn’t instantly gratifying bores me now. I’m in a kinky porn hole and I don’t know how to dig myself out… Such great advice here; the problem is getting off my ass and doing it. I’m such a bastard………
@lolivia, Sounds like self loathing haha. well you can’t fix anything if you openly accept they way you are. “i am lazy” wont solve anything ask “why am i lazy and what can i do to change that” its most likely not biological. Chances are its a personality thing and you can condition one’s personality usually. You have admitted you have a problem ( i think) now you gotta go out and do something! If you are still living at home go hang with friends and engage with people it hard to masturbate around them.. unless you get down that way? hahaha
@lolivia, If your a teenager living at home I wouldn’t worry too much. Most teenagers living at home masturbate and get high as often as they can, or maybe that was just me. Trust me your libido is gonna change radically. In fact if your worried about these things you are probably more clued in than most people your age. Don’t worry, you’ll figure your shit out, I’d say 90% of the people on this website where in your shoes and don’t they seem like a jolly bunch :D