Question for the dudes.
a. Do you think it’s attractive if a chick smokes mad weed?
b. Or if you’re just like smoking a bowl to yourself and offer her some and she just doesn’t wanna toke, do you think it’s her choice. Obviously it is but, would you be more open to her if she toked with you.
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a) Yes, as long as she does so responsibly (like, she doesn’t let it get in the way of achieving her goals).
b) It depends on the situation. If it were just me and her, and I were about to get high, I’d prefer if she joined, but it’s not a big enough deal to stress over.
a. No, I do not find it ‘attractive’ for a female (or anyone for that matter) to smoke copious amounts of marijuana. Should I?
b. I’m not entirely sure what this question is asking, as it seems to contradict itself, but I wouldn’t be any more open with a girl if she smoked or not. Marijuana has little to do with personality, at least to me. I see it as an activity and little more.
Hope this helped. Merry Christmas! :)
@cristinelizabeth, i don’t think it’s particularly attractive or particularly unattractive…whether she does or doesn’t smoke weed doesn’t matter much to me as long as it doesn’t dramatically affect her health and personality. For instance, it wouldn’t be too much fun to date a girl who gets cranky when there’s no weed around, or can’t have fun with anything without weed. And health, idk, wouldn’t be too much fun to be around someone who gets chubby from eating too much due to the munchies. I’ve quit smoking it myself, so I don’t think i would be purposefully looking for a stoner girlfriend. But if i so happened to date someone who smoked weed i don’t think that alone would be a dealmaker or breaker, it’s just one aspect of the total person.
However, smoking weed suggests some level of openmindedness and curiosity, which I think is a good trait. And I would like to have a girlfriend who would be willing to go on occasional psychedelic trips with me….someone who understands my desire for a little otherworldliness, a little magic and marvel.
I would much prefer a girl who suspends her belief in reality and adulthood, and can just be playful and carefree without necessarily relying on intoxication.
@facets, Sounds legit.
@optimystic, yeah the question was a scenario kind of deal, But I see that it’s just weed, but for some people weed is like a lifestyle haha. Murry Christmass.
@theskafish, Yeah I understand that now, I was just curious if a dude was a smoker and hung out with a girl who doesn’t really smoke anymore if he would be like taken away by it a little but. But I suppose if they did, then that’s their own problem right? yeah well I used to smoke mad weed too lol I just don’t find it fun anymore. I can think open minded without marijuanica lol (Adam Sandler reference) . . .
I think weed is smoked to feel like relaxed and it’s like a comfort blanket like it makes you forget about stuff that trouble your mind. Honestly I would rather a person that does that on their own, handles things with a sober mind, doesn’t that make you more level headed? To be able to address your issues head on, and to feel comfortable and relaxed with someone with out being stoned. I don’t necessarily mind if a guy smokes weed because, well mostly everyone does, and it’s their choice if they want to or not, I just wish we could be on the same level when he was not high . you know. haha
@cristinelizabeth, I used to find it unattractive, but since my mind has opened up a lot and now I find it quite enjoyable to share the experience with a woman. If she smokes mad weed and not cigs its a major turn on for me, but maybe I’m just describing my ex ;) she was cool. A girl who has the willpower to avoid smoking weed if its not right for her at the point of her life is also a huge turn on. So now I’m concluding it’s rad when a chick is just being herself.
@cristinelizabeth, i don’t find it fun anymore either….i’m actually pretty regretful of all the time i wasted in the company of people who only seemed to want to live their lives in a fog. Never was there any higher consciousness discussion, just mindlessness. I’m glad it’s over, I just wish it didn’t take as long as it did for me to learn my lesson.
Drink your gin and tonicah, but don’t smoke marijuanicah!
@cristinelizabeth, Those questions are unbelievably subjective. What if I don’t smoke weed for a reason, then no I won’t like you smoking. If I love smoking, then I’ll love you smoking!
Who in their right mind would love smoking and hate if their significant other smoked?
@cristinelizabeth, that’s an enormous generalization. I love smoking weed yet I can’t stand people who use it as a crutch. Using things to forget is what breeds addiction. Addiction = weakness.
In response to your questions, having a girl who smokes with me is always enjoyable. Yet I wouldn’t care if she didn’t. It’s her choice, I shouldn’t have any say. Same vice versa. If she smokes and I don’t, who cares?
To each their own.
“However, smoking weed suggests some level of openmindedness and curiosity, which I think is a good trait. And I would like to have a girlfriend who would be willing to go on occasional psychedelic trips with me….someone who understands my desire for a little otherworldliness, a little magic and marvel.”
@theskafish, nailed it with this one.
“Drink your gin and tonicah, but don’t smoke marijuanicah”
But not at all with this one. It’s completely and totally subjective. You say it puts people in a fog. Subjective. It does no such thing to me or any of my friends who smoke. If it did, I wouldn’t smoke. Simple as that.
Alcohol on the other hand (a little more objectively) ruins the day after.
Mad weed? No…like someone said if it is necessary for everything then that is no fun.
If she is totally opposed to it, but drinks alcohol, and won’t listen if it is explained…that’s a dealbreaker. But that’s just being ignorant and disrespectful about something I care about and that being a dealbreaker is not limited to cannabis. If she was teetotal then I wouldn’t mind at all that she didn’t toke. I would be awesome if she could get into a spiritual/trancelike place without it but I had to go down the cannabis route to get there though I know it is just one way of getting there.
Now and again would be best. I don’t think with my friends though, they are more like the first sentence and I would like those worlds a little separated. Just as I wouldn’t want her to come out drinking with us to the point of illness or whatever, I don’t like seeing the herb abused at all…but it appears that sometimes, especially at 21, excess is the name of the game. I can play along and handle it but I wouldn’t want to involve a cool girl in that.
Umm…yeah, that’s it. Super nice but not essential. Hypocrisy and bliss in ignorance is a no-no though. :)
Oh, me being open and around cannabis would only work if she didn’t smoke up with me and friends ‘to get high’ if you know what I mean. :\
A. Seeing an activity consume a significant portion of someone’s life that isn’t ‘productive’ is rarely an attractive quality, so if a girl smokes a lot of weed to the point of excess or even dependency it’s an unattractive quality.
B. I wouldn’t mind if she accepted or declined the offer, as it’s not a significant enough part of my life to matter. However, If she accepted after having never tried it before I would infer an openness to new experiences and some sense of curiosity, both important qualities to me that I would find appealing!
@sisyphus, i was just joking around…@cristinelizabeth, mentioned the adam sandler hanukah song so i just added the lyric. I don’t hate, nor do I preach, to people who choose to smoke, in fact I’m all for legalization and for the idea of dealing with weed rationally instead of treating it like witchcraft. It’s just not something I’m interested in anymore, myself. All it’s done for me is make me laugh at nothing, eat too much junk food, and be all too satisfied with melting into a couch instead of having experiences. It makes me too comfortable for my own good.
A: Depends what you mean by ”mad” weed. If by that you mean I can notice a significant difference based on whether or not she has weed available to her, then yes it’s very unattractive. But that would apply to my guy friends too, if you become dependent on it then you have a problem. But if a girl just likes to smoke here and there? (even if it’s daily) Yeah that’s alright, I used to smoke weed myself and see no problems with it.
B:Of course it’s her choice, any guy who judges a woman based on whether or not she smokes is being way too superficial in my opinion.
@cristinelizabeth. The question that you are really asking is “Guys do you smoke weed?”
I’ve gotten everything that I needed from weed. I’m better off without it. I’m not attracted to drug reliance. I am attracted to curiosity and passion. Needing a substance in order to relax is not desirable.
1. I think it is incredibly attractive if a woman smokes mad weed. Well, insofar that they can maintain a healthy lifestyle. I tend to make a point of seeking out women that do smoke “mad weed” as I can relate to them much more than a non-smoker. So props to you :)
2. Generally I wouldn’t blaze if I’m with the company of others that will not be participating. I find it just creates a barrier and limits openness and conversational topics. Being on two different wave lengths so to speak. To relate more to your question I think it would entirely depend on the context of the situation and your prior relationship with the person declining the weed. When I was with my ex I would smoke weed at times when she did not, and vice-versa, and it was never a problem. But I think that’s only because we were the best of friends.
@cristinelizabeth, “I think weed is smoked to feel like relaxed and it’s like a comfort blanket like it makes you forget about stuff that trouble your mind…”
I disagree completely with that statement… It’s the other way around, it makes you think more about stuff, not forget it.
And to answer your question:
a-I don’t see it as attractive or unattractive, depends on the girl. I wouldn’t like it if she smoked A LOT, but I have usually found that girls that have smoked weed are more open minded and I prefer that kind of girls.
b-I would prefer smoking with her, but it would be fine if she didn’t want to.
a) Well I guess that depends on how she uses it and how dependent she is on it. Its unattractive if she needs weed to have a good time and if she only wants to get stupid high and basically do nothing.
b) Really I would be open to her either way its not a big deal (to me at least) if she wants to partake or not.
“I think weed is smoked to feel like relaxed and it’s like a comfort blanket like it makes you forget about stuff that trouble your mind” I disagree I personally don’t smoke weed to forget my troubles just to relax and I usually end up spiraling into a deep reflective state. So because of that I decided to give it up for a while.