Question for the dudes.
a. Do you think it’s attractive if a chick smokes mad weed?
b. Or if you’re just like smoking a bowl to yourself and offer her some and she just doesn’t wanna toke, do you think it’s her choice. Obviously it is but, would you be more open to her if she toked with you.
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@cristinelizabeth, a) of course, but that’s just from my perspective aha. As long as it doesn’t affect her personality/lifestyle in a negative manner. Some of the most interesting girls i have ever met were stoners, and they were chock full of ambition and enthusiasm stoned or not.
b) It all depends on the situation. Some people feel weird if they’re the only person high in a scenario, but I don’t think it should matter, it’s not like the other person is tripping balls and unable to interact with aha. But I will speak for most guys when I say that we would enjoy sharing the experience of both being high together much more, in comparison to being stoned by ourselves.
@cristinelizabeth, Those questions are unbelievably subjective. What if I don’t smoke weed for a reason, then no I won’t like you smoking. If I love smoking, then I’ll love you smoking!
Who in their right mind would love smoking and hate if their significant other smoked?
B. Yes, it would be somewhat unattractive if she turned it down. Not because of the fact that she turned it down, but because I would assume she likely had some unattractive conservative values. If she had a legitimate reason to not want to, it’d be fine.
a. No, I do not find it ‘attractive’ for a female (or anyone for that matter) to smoke copious amounts of marijuana. Should I?
b. I’m not entirely sure what this question is asking, as it seems to contradict itself, but I wouldn’t be any more open with a girl if she smoked or not. Marijuana has little to do with personality, at least to me. I see it as an activity and little more.
Hope this helped. Merry Christmas! :)
@cristinelizabeth, It doesn’t bother me and it’s definitely her choice, but I’m not really a huge fan…I had some really terrible experiences after the multiple times I gave it a shot.
Basically it makes me feel sick or just super tired. The only time I have ever actually been stable afterward was when I was took drunk to notice any extra effects.
@cristinelizabeth, Not at all. If a girl smokes once and awhile I’m totally chill with it as it represents an open mind to some degree. However, if she smokes ‘mad’ amounts I find that very unattractive as it represents an addictive personality. People may deny that being a stoner isn’t an addiction, but for the most part it totally is. Of course this addiction is mental. Also, I don’t want to be around someone who’s stoned whenever I see them and I’m sober.
@cristinelizabeth, “I think weed is smoked to feel like relaxed and it’s like a comfort blanket like it makes you forget about stuff that trouble your mind…”
I disagree completely with that statement… It’s the other way around, it makes you think more about stuff, not forget it.
And to answer your question:
a-I don’t see it as attractive or unattractive, depends on the girl. I wouldn’t like it if she smoked A LOT, but I have usually found that girls that have smoked weed are more open minded and I prefer that kind of girls.
b-I would prefer smoking with her, but it would be fine if she didn’t want to.
@cristinelizabeth, i don’t think it’s particularly attractive or particularly unattractive…whether she does or doesn’t smoke weed doesn’t matter much to me as long as it doesn’t dramatically affect her health and personality. For instance, it wouldn’t be too much fun to date a girl who gets cranky when there’s no weed around, or can’t have fun with anything without weed. And health, idk, wouldn’t be too much fun to be around someone who gets chubby from eating too much due to the munchies. I’ve quit smoking it myself, so I don’t think i would be purposefully looking for a stoner girlfriend. But if i so happened to date someone who smoked weed i don’t think that alone would be a dealmaker or breaker, it’s just one aspect of the total person.
However, smoking weed suggests some level of openmindedness and curiosity, which I think is a good trait. And I would like to have a girlfriend who would be willing to go on occasional psychedelic trips with me….someone who understands my desire for a little otherworldliness, a little magic and marvel.
I would much prefer a girl who suspends her belief in reality and adulthood, and can just be playful and carefree without necessarily relying on intoxication.
a) it doesn’t matter if you smoke weed or not, or how much weed you smoke as long as your the one smoking it and not the other way around, as long as you control it and be able to do anything you would do sober and even more, heck ill smoke one with you =)
b) from experience i can tell you that when your around people that are getting high and you don’t smoke with them you’re not involved in their trip.. and you might even end up getting bored, but again that’s from what iv seen.
bottom line, i personally like my gf to get high with me because we have so much fun and it makes a unique bond with the person after a while, but again alot of my gf dont get high and we still have a blast.
@cristinelizabeth, that’s an enormous generalization. I love smoking weed yet I can’t stand people who use it as a crutch. Using things to forget is what breeds addiction. Addiction = weakness.
In response to your questions, having a girl who smokes with me is always enjoyable. Yet I wouldn’t care if she didn’t. It’s her choice, I shouldn’t have any say. Same vice versa. If she smokes and I don’t, who cares?
To each their own.
“However, smoking weed suggests some level of openmindedness and curiosity, which I think is a good trait. And I would like to have a girlfriend who would be willing to go on occasional psychedelic trips with me….someone who understands my desire for a little otherworldliness, a little magic and marvel.”
@theskafish, nailed it with this one.
“Drink your gin and tonicah, but don’t smoke marijuanicah”
But not at all with this one. It’s completely and totally subjective. You say it puts people in a fog. Subjective. It does no such thing to me or any of my friends who smoke. If it did, I wouldn’t smoke. Simple as that.
Alcohol on the other hand (a little more objectively) ruins the day after.
@cristinelizabeth, smoking cigarettes is more unattractive. I don’t smoke anything but I suppose I wouldn’t care if she smoked every now and then, of course not too much to where it’s all she thinks about.
a) Well I guess that depends on how she uses it and how dependent she is on it. Its unattractive if she needs weed to have a good time and if she only wants to get stupid high and basically do nothing.
b) Really I would be open to her either way its not a big deal (to me at least) if she wants to partake or not.
“I think weed is smoked to feel like relaxed and it’s like a comfort blanket like it makes you forget about stuff that trouble your mind” I disagree I personally don’t smoke weed to forget my troubles just to relax and I usually end up spiraling into a deep reflective state. So because of that I decided to give it up for a while.
a) If the intention is to embrace life under the influence instead of running or hiding from something, then not at all. Bring on the ganj.
b) This is interesting because I smoke marijuana and my girlfriend does not. I have offered her many times, she is completely open to me doing so, but somehow she just does not want to try.
I try to understand why. I have described to her the amazing potential cannabis holds to change one’s sense of self. How it opens the heart. Yet she wants not to partake.
To be honest, it hurts me that she doesn’t want to take that step. I see how she could benefit even from just one toke. I also wonder whether she trusts me or not.
So it does bother me. I don’t feel as if she’s completely open with me. From a selfish, stoner sense. It does.
@facets, Sounds legit.
@optimystic, yeah the question was a scenario kind of deal, But I see that it’s just weed, but for some people weed is like a lifestyle haha. Murry Christmass.
@theskafish, Yeah I understand that now, I was just curious if a dude was a smoker and hung out with a girl who doesn’t really smoke anymore if he would be like taken away by it a little but. But I suppose if they did, then that’s their own problem right? yeah well I used to smoke mad weed too lol I just don’t find it fun anymore. I can think open minded without marijuanica lol (Adam Sandler reference) . . .
Mad weed? No…like someone said if it is necessary for everything then that is no fun.
If she is totally opposed to it, but drinks alcohol, and won’t listen if it is explained…that’s a dealbreaker. But that’s just being ignorant and disrespectful about something I care about and that being a dealbreaker is not limited to cannabis. If she was teetotal then I wouldn’t mind at all that she didn’t toke. I would be awesome if she could get into a spiritual/trancelike place without it but I had to go down the cannabis route to get there though I know it is just one way of getting there.
Now and again would be best. I don’t think with my friends though, they are more like the first sentence and I would like those worlds a little separated. Just as I wouldn’t want her to come out drinking with us to the point of illness or whatever, I don’t like seeing the herb abused at all…but it appears that sometimes, especially at 21, excess is the name of the game. I can play along and handle it but I wouldn’t want to involve a cool girl in that.
Umm…yeah, that’s it. Super nice but not essential. Hypocrisy and bliss in ignorance is a no-no though. :)
Oh, me being open and around cannabis would only work if she didn’t smoke up with me and friends ‘to get high’ if you know what I mean. :\
@cristinelizabeth, A. its here choice how much weed she smokes i dont think it makes her more or less attractive
B. i mean i turn down weed all the time i mean sometimes you have just been just too high for too long and you dont wanna stop being so damn confused for just a sec and sometimes youre still catching your breath from the last bong hit
either way it dosnt matter just do what you feel like dont adjust your life to seem more attractive