Relationship that I never took a leap on (what now?)

3 years, 9 months ago

Wow, okay so. When I was a freshman in high school I had a major crush on a senior who I knew had a thing for me all year. We were both so shy back then that nothing ever became of our crushes. I have thought of him often in the past four years (I just graduated). I know I have changed so much since then, I’m a whole new person and apparently he has become one too. I have tried to find him through facebook but it was never successful until just a few moments ago and go figure he’s living in fucking south korea!!!! Sorry for my cursing but seriously after all this time and he’s on the other side of the globe!!!! I don’t know what to do now. Do I add him???? I’m so speechless I need some other opinion. I mean I haven’t heard from this kid in four years!!! but our crushes were extremely intense between the both of us and we were stupid and naive. So I need help… where do I go from here?

June 9, 2011 at 6:37 am

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Profile photo of luigi luigi (@luigiblue) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

To Be honest, it seems as if you already have your answer. :)….. Yes add him, everything led up to this point for a reason and clicking that request button could change things for the better or everything could stay the same. Either way it is worth checking out if you have had this past with him and haven’t been able to find him until now.

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Profile photo of Bobby Bobby (@bobbylloydxd) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

just show up on his door in south korea and pretend its a coincidence

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Profile photo of Morgan Morgan (@m17lee) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

LOL! you both made me laugh. Thanks. I guess you are right luigi. I guess I do have my answer, i just have a tendency to scare myself out of things.

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Profile photo of Nemo Nemo (@nemo) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

Add him, add him, add him!!!!! Then see what’s been upto. Then book your flight to Korea!

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Profile photo of Michael Michael (@mklrivpwner) 3 years, 9 months ago ago

You could always send him pictures of your bulging underwear.

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Add him and see if he’s still cool

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“Sorry for my cursing…”

Never fucking apologize for swearing

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Profile photo of Alyssa Alyssa (@alyssarachael) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

you def gotta add him and let the fates (or facebook fates?) decide where to take it from there! at the very least it’ll be fun to potentially catch up and such. Or take Bobby’s route; either way :)

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Profile photo of Martin Walsh Martin Walsh (@kakistos) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

depends really. are you satisfied with the relationships you’ve been having lately? would things be better to just move on? i know i’m a seriously different and in a lot of ways much better AND worse person since 4 years ago. ignore bollox like “happening for a reason” if you live that way all the time you’ll never get anything you actually want. romanticising what could potentially be a very painful experience doesn’t do anything but justify your self inflicted pain. relationships are hard. long distance relationships are a fucking nightmare. i mean, if this is really special to you… tbh you wouldn’t have even had to ask.
that said my advice would be to add him and talk. be friends or something. feel shit out. get to know eachother again, but you’re no doubt going to be dealing with a very different person than the one you knew and as such holding on to that old image you had of that person will be completely inaccurate but still colour your new image. but if things are good with you and you feel its worth the pain and suffering that you would no doubt be going through with a relationship then well… its worth it ya know?

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Profile photo of Michael Michael (@mklrivpwner) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

@General Tits – Come on. We don’t need that kind of fucking language here.

I say add him, strike up a convo. Maybe he’s already moved on? Maybe you find out that you’ve evolved into incompatible people, maybe you strike it off, start a romantic relationship and you move to S Korea?

But you’ll never *know* unless you DO SOMETHING!

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Profile photo of Morgan Morgan (@m17lee) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Okay, I’ve added him. Now just to wait I guess.

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