self love and self-acceptance.

2 years, 6 months ago

Where does self-acceptance come from? How can one truly love oneself?
How can one feel good about oneself no matter what? and how can one feel be one’s best companion?
I believe that most of us realize that self-love and self-acceptance are very important, but for those who were not brought up in such a culture, it is hard to learn these principles and actually apply them in everyday life.
What do you think are the best ways we can build self-acceptance and learn to love ourselves?
Could you share some resources with us? Books, articles, videos, music that have helped you in this matter?

October 3, 2012 at 7:00 am

You must sign in or join to reply!

4
Profile photo of FindYourGreatness FindYourGreatness C (@jpete011) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

You can only truly love yourself once you get to know and truly understand yourself.
Most people in society now a days are so busy talking to friends, facebooking, searching the web, doing homework, worrying about peer pressure, watching TV, listening to ads, wasting time, etc. that they have no fucking clue who they are. They’re so focused on external things that they have no clue about what’s within. But in reality, that’s all you really have. All the other stuff is just distraction.

So try cutting out the things that don’t matter, the things you don’t need. Toss out your TV, stop pursuing material things, worrying about what your peers think about you, get off facebook, and just sit still and be quiet.
Observe your thoughts, write them down, and decide if they are positive, necessary thoughts or if they are just a complete waste of your time. If they are a waste of time, cut them out. Whenever you find yourself thinking them again, will your mind to focus on something else in the present moment.

The more you cut out the bad, meaningless, pointless stuff in your life, the closer you will come to understand yourself. Cut out all the illusions, peal the ‘onion’ layer by layer until you get to the core, YOU. Get to know the real you, and from there you’ll learn to love yourself.

Meditate everyday for at least 8 minutes. Write your thoughts down and reflect on it whenever you get anxious or uncomfortable.

[Hidden]
1
Profile photo of Hitomi Hitomi (@kidvisions) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

@jpete011,
“But in reality, that’s all you really have. All the other stuff is just distraction.”
I think this is idea sums up everything really. Well put! Thank you.
Thank you for your post! Very helpful

[Hidden]
1
Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

“Where does self-acceptance come from?”

-The subconscious mind. Mostly the ego.

“How can one truly love oneself?”

-Forget about the how, just do it. If it needs a how it’s not truly love.

“How can one feel good about oneself no matter what?”

-Just choose to feel good. Believe it or not, but it’s really that simple. That’s actually all there’s to it. Just feel good, right here right now, and keep doing it. If you rely on exterior shit to give you feelings, well then you’ll never have any lasting happiness.
An easy way to start making this change, is to simply think more positively, that’s right it’s that simple. Try it, you’ll like it.

“and how can one feel be one’s best companion?”

-I do not understand this question.

“What do you think are the best ways we can build self-acceptance and learn to love ourselves?”

-It’s NOT about building self-acceptance. It’s ALL about REMOVING the shit that’s getting in the way.
Simply put, your mind is already “perfect” at the core from the start, but throughout life we put on layer after layer of crazy bullshit on top of it, blocking it off. Self-acceptance, just like love, courage and joy, is the “clean default state.”

So to get your self-acceptance back, just remove that junk data from your ego.

As for self-love, it doesn’t really exist. True love is just love, it’s not love for the self or for another individual or for an object or event. True love is all-encompassing, it has no target.
You cannot love another without loving yourself, and vice versa, you do not love at all if you do not love yourself.

[Hidden]
1
Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

@jpete011, Oh my god it’s the funky shit!

Great post, man. Really hit the nail right on the head.

[Hidden]
1
Profile photo of KellyM KellyM (@kellah) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

@kidvisions, for me, the biggest thing that helped me was discovering my uniuqness. once i realized that everyone has there own strengths and weaknesses, I also realized that I wouldnt want to be anyone else. Accepting yourself is a big thing too i think

[Hidden]
1
Profile photo of B B (@bleffyy) 2 years, 6 months ago ago

love this

[Hidden]
Reply to this topic
What can you accomplish in 30 days? Join our site-wide challenge. Challenge Yourself

More Posts Like This

1

Profile photo of SwanSongRebeL What Is The Universe Expanding Into?

Come on, admit it, you’ve had this question. “Since astronomers know that the Universe is expanding, what’s it expanding into? What’s outside of the Universe?” Ask any astronomer and you’ll get an...

2
1

Profile photo of Zane Spaying and Neutering?

Just curious to know your take on it. Do you feel it is necessary? For those opposed or for it I’d like to here the reasoning behind it. Thanks.

17
1

Profile photo of Tone Tone Reputation Anxiety

I feel anxiety when someone builds my reputation up. If I have a really solid interaction where the person compliments me and I can tell thinks highly of me, I don’t want to ruin this newfound image I’ve...

0
152

Profile photo of Melissa You Are That Person

Whom someone else dreams of during the night. You are that person someone longs for to be at their side, at all times, caressing their soul with your sincere affection. You are that person whose laughter elicits a...

77
38

Profile photo of Melissa So you've woken up – Now what?

Question: “What do you say to people who have woken up but can’t leave the system because of family and friends?” This and those like it pose a very broad question since we’re all different and need to be led of...

22
1

Profile photo of SmokeUP1 Blaming The System Is a Lazy Person's Way of Thinking

Raise your hand if you’ve ever blamed “the system” for why you can’t just travel the world, do whatever you want, go wherever you want, and live for free. *Raises hand* There was a point in my...

1
2

Profile photo of frazdizz Happiness?

Is nirvana remotely possible for human beings? I’ve often been thinking about how happiness can become an everyday thing… and most of the time, it seems utterly impossible. How can someone be ultimately...

9
2

Profile photo of Daniel Barenboim Immortal

Perhaps I have lost my mind but I no longer see the difference between humans and the idea of God. Before you tell me to pick up a bible and grow a brain. Understand that I have read the whole bible and do not have any...

0
1

Profile photo of Belle Lexi Friends to share my experiences with

I want to get to know people and hear what they have to say. You don’t have to be physically present to develop a friendship. A friend is someone who is wiling to put what their doing down to listen and focus on...

0
6

Profile photo of Enriched Panda Happiness..

It seems to me, that what we as a people desire most in this life is happiness. We are constantly without end seeking out that good feeling inside of us that keeps us as a species trucking forward. There is something...

3
1

Profile photo of josephm Life decisions

I was thinking the other day and realized how much of our younger and teenager life makes a difference later in life. It could just be a mess up In high school and just change that individuals life in a negative way....

4
1

Profile photo of josephm Jaw Still Trembling Two Days After First Drug/MDMA Experiences?

I took one cap on Sunday with my partner of MDMA that was tested (to at least being MDxx); I had some jaw tremors. On Monday I took one more, and I had such jaw shakes, body shakes, and pale skin, that my partner said he...

6
1

Profile photo of ethan chua My experiences with Stimulants

Two months ago I cam across this thing called research chemicals. I was very interested so I researched on it for about two weeks straight. First thing you should know, there is a lot of information out there and some is...

2
24

Profile photo of Garima [HE 30 Day Challenge] April 2015 – Project or Skill

Hello good people! This month’s challenge is going to be different from the others in two ways: The nature of this challenge will allow you to actually show your progress throughout the month, making it more useful...

95
1

Profile photo of josephm get to it

live along the guidelines sing the song that finds time ring the gong that signs blind hope is gone im hindsight life is but a light fight blight versus might connection is my stripes convection recollection add some goo...

0