Sexual attraction

3 years, 3 months ago

Call me crazy or weird, but in my life thus far I’ve noticed that I cannot get turned on by a girl (even if I find her very physically attractive) if:
a) I cannot connect with her emotionally and I don’t genuinely appreciate or admire something about her personality, values and traits.
b) There’s not enough sexual tension built up, or
c) I put pressure on myself and get anxious

1. Anyone have similar realizations or comments?

2. If you’ve had memorable sexual experiences, what are your insights on what make it great?

October 24, 2011 at 10:06 pm

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Profile photo of paul peden paul peden (@paul2) 3 years, 2 months ago ago

DHEA- dietary supplement, testosterone booster.
we are complex machines.. oil your bearings

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Profile photo of Jordan B. Jordan B. (@synchestra) 3 years, 2 months ago ago

I have some of these same issues so I can identify. I haven’t figured out anything yet but it doesn’t seem to be a biological problem…

@Paul peden
I don’t know if I’d recommend DHEA. There are many side effects to consider as well as possible benefits.

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Profile photo of Rain Rain (@rain) 3 years, 2 months ago ago

Sex with a new partner or someone with whom your sexual rhythm has not been established is likely to have awkward moments and mishaps and giggle inducing events…. that’s why foreplay exists… to learn, explore, teach… and foreplay is like your body’s warm up for the big performance…. you CAN still run the marathon without the warm up, but the ending will most likely not be what you wish, and the run will probably be rather mundane and unsatisfying….

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Profile photo of Paralleladigm Paralleladigm (@paralleladigm) 3 years, 2 months ago ago

I completely agree with rain. That was metaphorically brilliant btw (;

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Profile photo of Bryan Hellard Bryan Hellard M (@xyver) 3 years, 2 months ago ago

More foreplay. Work on that.
And listen to Rain.

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Profile photo of paul peden paul peden (@paul2) 3 years, 2 months ago ago

possible side effects: back acne, facial hair, deeper voice, rage.
being a man haha

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