Sharing my tumultuous past with others.
AS the topic suggests, my past is filled with less than happy things. Things like rape and abuse. My question that I pose to you all is: should I share these things with the ones close to me? People like my best friends, my parents, my girlfriend. Some of these people already know some of my story.
If this information changes the way someone feels about you in a negative way, then there’s no need to spend one more minute with that person.
Talk away if it makes you feel better.
Insofar as people in your life “deserving” to know..well…I’d say deserve has nothing to do with it.
Number one should really apply to your friends and family. What has happened to you in the past shouldnt change your relationship with them, because its just your past right. Sadly people will treat you differently. Some of them atleast. Some wont even care. Not worth it if you dont have a need to tell them.
I would spill the beans though, if your story could help someone in a similar situation.
james these sad stories are perhaps not completely worked out by you . infact sharing them with those you love and trust is a good way for you to really put them behind you in a more real way.
|Brandon P’naantan Pinkney
if you are truly close to these people (and this is just me talking), you should tell them what makes you you, everything from the good expreiences to the bad, and if you are close to them as you believe you are, it’ll actually deepen that bond
|General Tits Von Chodehoffen
If you want to tell them do it. It can help you get build stronger relationships and deal with past events. But only do it if you feel comfortable.
Imagine if nothing happened to you. People will still look with prejudice. I don’t think it’ll make an essential difference. You must also think like that. What we were is what we are.
I approached it like this: “Love, I am an open book. I will never lie about anything. Who I am today, the you love is a result of all the good and bad that is my story. Love you, now let’s do it.
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