She wants to fight with me
I don’t know what to do, I used to have feelings for this girl, but as time flies by we’ve grown apart, and now we don’t see each other anymore. Then she suddenly starts talking to me over the net, that she is hurt and that she wants to fight with me. But I don’t want to fight with her, I just had feelings for her, but it never came to it, because I was too shy. And now she’s mad at me for that. So now I just ignore her, and hope things will just stop, but I don’t know if I’m making the right decision to do so, or should I confront her? I mean, I don’t want to hit a girl you know, but I don’t know what she wants from me. Besides, I think I already moved on, so there is really nothing left to say, even if I had feelings for her in the past, but did not express it to her. She wants to try to be friends, but I don’t really see the point of that, because we don’t see each other on a regular base anymore, and I don’t know if I want to be friends with someone I had feelings for. Now she’s mad at me telling me that I’m a jerk and that I exploited her feelings and all that shit. I just didn’t want to hurt her, now she’s blaming me for hurting her. Besides, she hurt me too, but she doesn’t even understand how to just let go. She texted me constantly and did not just leave me alone. I told her a while ago I didn’t want to have anything to do with her just so she would back off, and now she wants to fight with me. Whats wrong with her? Why can’t she just leave me alone and get on with her life? What can I do about it? Should I confront her or leave it all together?
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Nothing you can do if she is the person I think she is; a full on nutter. She will take anything you say to mean either that you are interested in getting together again or that you are conspiring to hurt her maliciously.
I think you messed it up with her. She really liked you, she just wants contact with you, that says it even if she wants to be just friends with you, then she must really like you a lot to see beyond physical attraction. You should give her another chance really, I think she’s just mad at you because you stopped feeling for her what you felt for her, and she is still feeling the same for you. Maybe you should try to contact her in a gentle and genuine way or just be friends with her to see where that is going.
I think you should confront her. It’s obvious you both still have feeling for one another, which is why neither of you can let each other go.
You both fight and it isn’t healthy even to continue with a friendship.
I suggest perhaps writting her a long email getting everything out, than perhaps discontinue all contact with her. Even if it’s for a short period of time.