Part of me (like a good 90% of me) wants to quit, but at the same time, I don’t.
Here are the reasons why I WANT to drop out:
1.) I feel like I’m not receiving proper education. I go to a public school- a really bad one at that. The American public school system really can be a pain in the ass and I’ve attended it for a good majority of my life to know the strengths and weaknesses of such an unstable system. One weakness is that the teachers don’t put in as much effort as they used to– meaning to say that back in the day (as my mom has told me) teachers would go the extra mile to make sure their students are learning and understanding the content. Nowadays, it’s rare to even find one of my teachers staying after school offering tutoring or after school help. One good thing about public school though is that it brings kids together– which may or may not be a good thing after all (you’ll see in my next point). It gives you a chance to meet new people and expand your view on the world.
2.) Distractions. It’s easy to get distracted in school. The majority of my peers spend a good portion of their lives skipping school, doing drugs, partying and just simply trying out new things. While all that is great, it takes the focus away from school. It’s hard to stay awake in AP Physics while nursing a hangover too.
3.) I’d like to think that I’ve already received the best of formal (“basic”) education. I’ve been in honors classes all my life, taken a bunch of AP classes, and succeeded at all of them. Truth be told, I don’t remember ever really trying (or wanting) to succeed because I find everything about school monotonous and boring. Now, I’m a junior in high school and I feel like I’m just wasting my time learning things that I don’t need to know in order to: graduate -> go to college -> get a job -> pay for college.
4.) I don’t want a conventional lifestyle, I’ve never wanted that. I was the adventurous kid that always disappeared whenever we went on field trips; once I was found a couple blocks away chatting with a street musician. I don’t want an “academic job” (jobs where you have to be “educated” in order to qualify for). I’ll be fine if I end up picking up trash at the beach for a living. The important thing to me is if I’m happy.
5.) I want to travel. And I know you’re going to say– you can’t travel without money, and you need a job for that which means an edumacation! I understand, but really the best places to go to are usually free, right?
Now, I know this was a weird, long list (it made more sense in my head) but bare (bear?) with me for a bit. The reason why I don’t want to quit is because I don’t want to disappoint my family. This reason trumps all of the points made on my list. But my family is also friggin passive-aggressive as heck. When I spoke with my family about this they said that they would be supportive of me but they won’t be happy about it. -_-
So anyway, any feedback (personal experiences/opinions/suggestions) on what you HEthens think would be very much appreciated.
Sorry if I am repeating anything that was already said but I have procrastinated long enough from studying for my finals:
1) I agree the public school system does suck, especially after sitting in a few days in the public schools system in Chicago after the strike. Every class had one book per seat in the class and the teaching quality was more towards shouting and less towards educational badass. As you said “One weakness is that the teachers don’t put in as much effort as they used to– meaning to say that back in the day (as my mom has told me) teachers would go the extra mile to make sure their students are learning and understanding the content.” Although I am not sure exactly how badly your teachers are slacking off; teachers do need to do what they can to ensure that every student understands the material, but to be fair the responsibility of learning does end up with the student and their desire to learn and asking for help. What really sucks about the system is that now teachers are basically hired to prepare their students to take standardized test, but why the hell do we want to standardize the future?
2) To be fair there are distractions everywhere not just school. You’ve just got to find a balance between everything.
3) Although you may feel you have gotten everything you can from the formal education system you have a year left of high school so you might as well finish up school and have it officially validated that you finished your formal education.
4) The point of college is to learn and master some sort of interest to make a career out of and there are plenty of options other than “academic jobs” based on your interests. Happiness is key though so in the end just do what feels right to you.
5) And if you want to travel, go ahead and travel. If anything you could look into a study abroad program for your senior year and finish your high school career in a new and exotic location, and maybe in a country with a better education system like Denmark, Norway, Japan, etc. There are also inexpensive ways to travel such as using couch surfing.
I do have a question for you: What would you plan on doing instead of go to school?
Hopefully this was somewhat helpful for you.
@koralime, I quit in the 9th grade and taught English in Turkey at two schools, acted in several plays and films, recorded two albums, was front person of two bands, traveled to dozens of countries, and then went to community college to get me GEs to go to film school. So high school’s bullish#t. You don’t need it. Take the GED test and you’re golden.
I was in your place last year, I took all AP/honors classes for as long as I can remember, adventurous, and afraid more than anything of dissappointing my family… Speaking from experience, hang in there. Your senior year is one hundred times better. Maybe even graduate early –but graduate! Earning your diplomma will suddenly make the past thirteen years of monotony worth it! You’re smart, but if walking on the beach and picking up trash doesn’t support the family you want in a few years, at least you will have a high school diplomma to fall back on.
@koralime, drop out of every college in the country if you want to (Tell ’em I sent ya), but don’t drop out of high school. Society will brand you as the type of person who can’t/won’t finish even the most basic responsibilities in life. Worse yet, you will eventually brand yourself that way. Keep going to school. Even if it’s for the entertainment value. Or just to have something to talk about on Dr. Phil someday :) You’ll be glad you did.
@koralime, Your still young and have plenty of time to travel and explore when you get out of highschool and even college. It sounds to me that you are blaming the teachers for not giving you the best education without taking yourself into account. If they are not hard enough or teaching you the stuff you don’t want to know, then go to the library and do independent studying. That is where I learn the majority of things throughout my life so far. We all know highschool sucks but millions of people have already graduated and millions of more will. You will need a highschool education for college and that is where you will be able to start taking more interesting classes while having the oppurtunity to be more independent and start to get a real idea with what you want to do in life.
@, I totally know where you’re coming from. It always comes around junior year. But hear me out for a sec
1. If you don’t feel like you’re receiving a proper education, you should actively pursue a proper education for yourself. Just like @xyver said, this doesn’t mean subscribing yourself away to a lifelong monotony of college-work-pay for college sort of thing.
Actively pursue what you would consider a “proper” education for yourself–you be that architect of that.
If the answer to your “proper” education is a private school, apply to one, and apply for a scholarship. You don’t have to pay if you aren’t able and you apply to a generous institution.
Or maybe you could supplement your public high school education with some free courses at a nearby community college.
You could supplement your public high school education with an internship where you learn a trade you are interested in.
Just because what you’re given isn’t sufficient to your liking, it doesn’t mean you have to be complacent with it–just go out and get yourself what you want and need! You will start to find others pursuing the same path who are motivated and interested in acquiring knowledge and excited to experience many things.
And–best option yet–if you want to receive and education and are itching to travel, just study abroad. It doesn’t have to be expensive if you look in the right places. The US Dept of State offers full fellowships for high school students to study and live with host families in certain nations–search NSLI-Y on google and check it out. I studied abroad during my junior and senior years of high school and learned and experienced more than I ever could have imagined.
Good luck :)
Pretty obvious really isn’t it, at this point in the conversation I mean…just stay in school and graduate ? Of course …beyond that…how about doing a re-frame of your perspective on it…it’s so great to have a routine time and place to go and social connection etc…just make it your story…so you do whats needed to get good grades and beyond that you study and master whatever you want…a school can be boring and teachers complacent and all that but the bottom-line is you create the experience you’re having…you have all you need to use the resources of the school to create whatever you want…who needs a teacher who doesn’t care to stay after hours for tutoring etc….you could arrange a time and place for you and others to meet after hours to tutor each other and gather resources for study and mastery of subjects that a boring teacher would only make boring while you and others might bring it to life and inspire people to learn and feel energized about all there is to know …seriously the whole idea of where boredom comes from and what it is….just be where you are, let it be now and use what is present…I think you are bit stuck in the “anticipatory mode” regarding your life…right now is different from what will ever be again…and not all the changes will be freeing …some will be burdensome and limiting compared to the freedom you have now…to do whatever you want…
the usefulness and necessity of a college degree is certainly debatable, seeing as how it doesn’t guarantee a well-paying or interesting job and does guarantee a very high expense. but your high school education is free, unless you count the opportunity cost of the time you are spending there. still, I think it’s good to stay in school because in hs, you have some freedom to explore your interests and find yourself without tuition bills breathing down your neck. I feel it should really be stressed that people need to find themselves in the hs years, college is too late – that was my experience anyway. plus, if you don’t have a high school degree you will be royally screwed in the job market – even if you want to start your own business or get talented at something where you are the boss, you need to build up some money and work through the practice years, all the while you’ll also need to make money to exist.
long story short – do yourself a favor and finish high school. i think you’ll be glad you did, no matter what you decide to do or be later on.
1. You still have this free opportunity, which many do not have.
2. That is no excuse, and you are aware of it. Distract yourself with the interesting bits.
3. If you do not receive a formal Public degree, it can seriously hurt you in the eyes of the ignorant on the outside.
4. Travel once you are a free adult. It will probably feel a whole lot more liberating, rather than the fact that you left just before the finish line.