stuck.

3 years, 10 months ago

I’m a junior in high school. And I’ve recently realized that I hate about 80% of everything i do. And this website has made me want to change that…. but i’m afraid to. and not sure if i can currently. So.. i’m stuck. I know what i want to do with my life; pursue a career in music. But i’m now debating on which means i should take in order to get there… because I believe the only reason i want to go to college is in order to avoid disappointing my friends and family. And the only reason I "like" where i live is because I have no choice but to live here and have accepted it. And the only reason I like most of my friends is because I can’t find any that are more like me.

April 11, 2011 at 3:43 am

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Profile photo of Michael Michael (@thestarsallfall) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

thank you for your response- it verbalizes a lot of the things currently going through my head. yes, music is what i live and breathe for, and it does makes me genuinely happy. The problem is, with the crazy amount of other things going on in my life, and the phenomenal addiction i have to procrastination, I do not get do play my guitar or do other music-involved things half as much as i’d wish. What with school and all… I’m not exactly too happy with myself. =/

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Profile photo of Matt Matt (@mrgeetah) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

Honestly, I would say go to college and study music, or at least take some music classes. You’ll meet some great people, and if you take music classes you’ll learn a lot of theory that you can apply to your guitar playing. Really, I’m only in college to learn about stuff I like. I’m about to enter my third year next year and I still haven’t declared a major.

Also, you’ll probably have a hell of a lot more free time in college. Meaning more time to practice guitar while you don’t have to worry as much about having a place to live and food to eat.

But if you really and truly believe that you don’t need to go to college, then if you do go you won’t get anything out of it. So if you’re sure college isn’t for you, then I say follow your passion and go be a musician!

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Profile photo of Matt Matt (@mattattack) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

Man, I am you 4 years into your future. I tried college and I hated it. I didn’t meet anyone of interest to me, and I didn’t progress at all in any of my creative interests. I feel it held me back because I enjoy learning things on my own instead of from a teacher. So I dropped out last year and with all of this extra time my creativity has gone wild and I am doing my best to pursue being a musician for a living. It all comes down to what you love doing and what you think is best for you. At least you are thinking about this now when you still have a year of high school left because now you will have a lot of time to sort things out. good luck, you will find what you are looking for soon!

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Profile photo of astrid astrid (@zoya) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

Dude, I feel you but without sounding like an ole fart, get an education first and then follow the music career…. just in case you change your mind and need a fall-back option.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

@thestarsallfall…part of being a teenager is to discover what and who you want to be…you can do both go to college and play your music…it just takes some creative time structure…which means to find a balance in your life…you can begin now btw…just sit down and figure out how do you want to spend your day/night…school…family…social…music…then set aside time for each aspect of your life…this does take away from being free…but; for now it gives you structure which you can build from :D

good luck :D

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Profile photo of Chelsea Chelsea (@cambria) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

@michael

hey, i can relate to you about high school, for me it was for me just a rut i was stuck in..
but you have to realize that sometimes you have to search for people like you (because at least for me their far and few :) another thing is maybe know one can relate with you because your on a different level of thinking..

And about your music,
what do you want from your music?
what do you get from your music?

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Profile photo of Nick T Nick T (@toom27) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

Hey Michael,

Just being real…college rules. I’m a freshman this year and couldn’t be happier. I moved to Georgia from Mass because I felt like going on an adventure, and year one was a total success. If you have the opportunity to go to school, and more importantly to go to a school someplace you’re happy and can live at away from your fam I think all the other stuff will fall into place. Hit me up with questions if you have them.

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Profile photo of Nemo Nemo (@nemo) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

@Michael – if there is one thing I know for sure in life is that you will never be truly happy as long as you are living your life for other people. You are blessed already because you know what you want to do in life and if that’s your passion then do all you can to achieve it!

Why don’t you take up music in college? College can be a great place to meet like minded people who share your tastes and interests and from there you’ll get help on what to do next in your career.

In the meantime, take music classes, join a club it’s the best way to find like minded people!

It’ll be hard to meet the disappointment from your parents and friends but you know what? It’s tougher meeting disappointment from within yourself. When you are happy and your parents can see that, they’ll come around. But deal with them gently yet persistently- don’t get into waging wars with them (this takes away your energy and away from your goals!) but simply insist you are following your dreams and it would be great if they can support you- whether it works or it doesn’t, hey, they might surprise you if they know you’re really serious about your music.

It’s not easy standing up for what you know is right for you but one thing Michael- the world is full of people who will say that you can’t, but BALLS to them! Remember the only way a person can make you feel crap, is if you let them.

Stay positive, determined and love your way through life and BAM nothing can stop you!

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Profile photo of Anna Anna (@odenserocks) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

@michael
Life is not always black and white. I have a lot of friends who think differently from me and it makes me love them more just for that fact.

I also think that the right college is a good way to focus on your music. Find a school in another city that offers an education based on your interest. You will discover new friends and most importantly: yourself!

You can fight procastination by visualizing your time: Make a table and fill in your daily activities, like school, hobbies, etc. Once you have filled the table you will be able to see the holes you can use to invest more into your music. It is all about prioritising. If you REALLY want to make music, you will find the time and the people to do so.

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Profile photo of Duke Mabirou Duke Mabirou (@dozmaster) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

I think you should go from the bottom up. You’re worrying about what you’re going to do later without really knowing what you’re comfortable with doing now. If you hate 80% of what you’re doing, then here’s some advice: Stop doing it. Just stop doing the things you don’t like and start doing the things you do. Pursue your happiness and comfort in your own way, and find what really drives you. The answers will come from there.

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Profile photo of snakehawke snakehawke (@snakehawke) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

ten years from now, you’ll never remember this time and it will probably be so totally different from what you could imagine, so just go with the flow…find more successes…and fight the need to please other people as best you can. Awareness itself will heal a lot of issues and you seem to have fairly good awareness of your situation…..when you feel stuck ‘do something’

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Profile photo of Alex Eastman Alex Eastman (@alex) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

I get you micheal. I’m 16 and a sophomore and only have 3-4 friends like me and only live and want to live in Indiana because my friends and family are here. I don’t know what I want to do in life though, but I hope to find out soon.

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Profile photo of Phil Phil (@phil) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

Yea i’m sorta in the same place…and all i can work out is that people all give different advice…yet its all somehow very similar. I also think that no matter how good or bad the advice is…you wont follow it >.<. I dont think the human mind has the capacity to follow such life altering advice that someoone else has supplied. You may stumble upon a similar outlook, but you will never 100% follow it. And if you could, well, wheres the fun in that. Therefor i can only conclued…that life is something that only you can figure out. Only you can find the path destined for you. Thats something that I, at this very moment have realised.

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Profile photo of m. m. (@mjmf826) 3 years, 10 months ago ago

@ snakehawk: i think your perspective is priceless on this forum. You’ve lived everything our generation is struggling with right now! Thank you :)

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