The Benjamin Franklin Effect

3 years ago

http://youarenotsosmart.com/2011/10/05/the-benjamin-franklin-effect/

The Misconception: You do nice things for the people you like and bad things to the people you hate.

The Truth: You grow to like people for whom you do nice things and hate people you harm.

Benjamin Franklin knew how to deal with haters.

Enjoy, HEthen ones. :)

February 19, 2012 at 7:16 am

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Profile photo of Martijn Schirp Martijn Schirp A (@martijn) 3 years ago ago

Great stuff, thanks!

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Profile photo of Jason Jason (@thinknowlivenow) 3 years ago ago

Great thread Sasho! I’ve read about this, and it definitely seems to be true. I used to be prone to letting people take advantage of my niceness, and I’d usually end up getting screwed in the end. Then, I was vehement about keeping negative people at a distance (to avoid the above), and I ended up isolating myself from a lot of people. Finally, I realized I can just deal with people on an individual basis, rather than grouping them together and assuming.

Now, I just have fun interacting with everyone I encounter!

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Profile photo of Peter Peter (@searchingforthetruth) 3 years ago ago

I haven’t finished the article yet but I really liked this part.

“Let’s start with your attitudes. Attitude is the psychological term for the the bundle of beliefs and feelings you experience toward a person, topic, idea, etc. without having to consciously think….

For many things, your attitudes came from actions which led to observations which led to explanations which led to beliefs. It is well known in psychology the cart of behavior often gets before the horse of attitude. Your actions tend to chisel away at the raw marble of your persona, carving into being the self you experience day-to-day. It doesn’t feel that way though. To conscious experience, it feels like you are the one holding the chisel, motivated by existing thoughts and beliefs. It feels as though the person wearing your pants is performing actions consistent with your established character, yet there is plenty of research suggesting otherwise. The things you do often create the things you believe.”

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Profile photo of Christian Christian (@christian92) 3 years ago ago

That article and that whole page is great. Didn’t knew it before, I think it’s time we make a link collection with good sites. To keep it structured there shouldn’t be any links to specific articles but to the main pages of good sites only.

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Ben Franklin was a smart motherfucker!

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Profile photo of Jason Jason (@thinknowlivenow) 3 years ago ago

This is why conscious awareness of thought and emotion is integral to progress!

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 3 years ago ago

The problem is strong minded people and people with humongous egos, it doesn’t work on them unless you’re some kind of manipulative nlp master.

Benjamin Franklin was great in many aspects though, you could learn a lot from that guy.

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Profile photo of Peter Peter (@searchingforthetruth) 3 years ago ago

I think it would totally work on people with huge egos. Just keeping feeding their ego, it will only grow bigger.

Hey Mister “..”, have you been going to the gym lately?

Psh, hes putty in your hands.

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 3 years ago ago

@manimal this just makes the manipulative master having a bigger ego. People with humongous egos have everything and nothing, hence stronger emotions in a not so healthy competition.
@Peter huge egos are not huge because someone fed them to be. They’re huge because they see more clearly what’s feeding them crap and what’s not. :)

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