You flatter me!
Alas, I’m talking real-time situational context here. I feel like I’ve lost my charm as of late.
Bookstores. Coffee shops. Disc golf courses. Parks. Museums, galleries, concerts….
Go where YOU are happy being. You want to find a girl who you will share some interests with, right? However, as for losing charm…maybe you just lost some sparkle, and need to reboost your glow!
Best way I’ve ever met girls is at parties or bars/clubs. Everyone is already relaxed and chances are they are looking for someone to hang with. First time I ever approached a girl, I just walked up to her and told her I thought she was attractive. I’ve used this approach multiple times, almost always resulting in a number or at least a friend to dance with all night and party with after. This is such a simple and flattering approach, but how does the male HE population feel about it? Honestly, as a woman, it is the most effective way to get me interested, and, as I’ve found, vice versa. Thoughts?
Agree. Being direct is always the best policy. Eye contact is also lovely…
I’d say I’ve met the most people at work. A good work ethic is ridiculously attractive. And it’s awesome to have someone to flirt with during your shift. However, the situation can get itchy…
When it comes down to it, I think that the earth’s gravitational pull draws people together. It could happen anytime, anywhere. You just have to be open to it.
Are you ladies kidding!!!!! I am sure in “theory” to the two of you, it sounds great for a guy to approach you, say “he is attractive” and in full disclosure get everything out there…
In reality when someone does that to you… You are immediately turned off, there is no chase involved, and he/she is put in a vulnerable position.
You think you want some nice guy to come sweep you off your feet, but what really happens is an ass hole comes by and makes you follow him/her…
For me though, in real experience a goofy sort of introduction always works best. For example, a funny note passed or walking up to a girl with an umbrella on a rainy day.
I met my girlfriend now while we were dancing at Disney.
@ greco: I think that’s a pretty cliche description of what women want and how they respond to such advances from the “nice” up front guy and the ooooh! “bad guy”. Everyone reacts differently, everyone is turned on or off by different things, painting with that broad brush just smacks of Hollywood romantic comedy-isms. But hey, I’m glad you joined the discussion and got a (if somewhat heated) response from me! Peace and love at you greco.
@Mario I agree you can tell a lot from whats in a shopping cart.
When shopping and i see a attractive woman, the first thing i do is glance in their shopping cart, scanning the items that they have. I can come up with a few ideals about this person and its a great way to start a conversation. Like asking them a question about a particular item they have in the cart. I would say “How do you like Soy milk to regular milk?” or “Does that really taste like milk?” and from their i can gage if they want to talk or are in a hurry. I apply this at book stores and other places and have been successful in the past.The way i see it any place is an opportunistic to meet someone maybe not at that very instance. Such as in a gym while they are working out, but afterwards I strike up conversation about a sports drink they are drinking or something from their work out that caught my attention. As for clubs and bars I really don’t fair very well in those environments.