The Illusion of Good Fortune

2 years, 2 months ago

So there is a kid at school who is all about throwing parties and having fun. He told me to come and I said,” Yeah sure. Why not.” But that got me thinking….should I not? There is going to be underage drinking and weed there no doubt; some Juciy-J is definitely going to be playing. Maybe his house gets too loud and the police come out. Then I’m fucked!

Let’s take a step back. Where this upcoming question initially came from was when my English teacher yesterday was talking about cyber-bullying during our class. Near the end of the class, we had drifted a little bit away from the subject of bullying, and my teacher concluded with saying:

“I dont know why it is, but I feel like your generation of teenagers feels as though bad things won’t happen to you guys. You guys know bad things CAN happen, but most of you guys brush it off and say that it CAN’T happen. And thats just not true. My daughters have a very rare genetic disease where they don’t grow as fast as other kids. I certainly believed that my kids would be healthy when they were born. But they weren’t. The point is that bad things CAN and WILL happen to you guys, even though you feel as though it seems nearly impossible.”

Now, the question is….why are people inclined to take such drastic risks, especially in their teenage years such as partying and drinking underage, when their entire future could potentially be ruined??
Im not saying it’s a bad thing, but I believe that my generation especially believes that the worst COULD happen, but WON’T happen. It’s like they take on this ILLUSION that they are safe from all crimes; like they form an invisible bubble around themselves subconsciously to MAKE them able to go through with something they know could go horribly wrong.

Any thoughts??

December 13, 2012 at 6:51 pm

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Profile photo of Kimo Kimo (@kkainoa) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@whotheneighbors, Your stance is cautious, but that’s much better than being naive! Risk vs. reward will be a recurring theme in your life, so it’s a good idea to take a step back to evaluate things before jumping right in. I agree that our current generation is probably a bit more likely to take risks such as these. Maybe it’s because people nowadays don’t have to work as hard for such wonderful things, so they appreciate them less?

So far as this party goes…
Why not? You’re right to think that you most likely won’t get caught. You probably don’t have better things to do (no offense at all).
On the other hand, yes, you will (most likely) have plenty of time to party in the future. Just don’t scare yourself into not going. Man, I guarantee there will be at least one chill ass person at that party if you’re willing to look for him/her.

Profile photo of Starry Eyed BLiND. Starry Eyed BLiND. (@cristinelizabeth) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@whotheneighbors, Each generation has it’s own problems to face. Teenagers have been partying hardcore since the 60’s. Back then they used to do mad more drugs, you think our generation is bad I think the older generations went through a made rage through the 80’s, I think our generation just think they’re all bad ass. Yolo. The party never ends my friend. You won’t escape the party generation until you’re out of college. I had my party days start at 14, by 11th grade I just got tired of it. But I still go out rarely, when I really feel it and I’m going out with my close friends. Do what you want, and let them do what they want. young wild n freee. If the cops come just run lol. they will just make you dump all your alcohol

Profile photo of sundar sundar (@oneomega) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

there’s always optimistic and pessimistic approach to everything. You cannot just sit in your home just because there’s a possibility of an accident happening on the road. i ‘m not suggesting you should justify every bad thing you do with an optimistic/reckless/carefree attitude. sometimes you gotta take a leap of faith with everything you do and believe in. i say there’s nothing wrong in having a little fun. people talk about underage drinking and irresponsible behavior. you cannot expect someone to act and drink responsibly after they turn 21. i believe It must be cultivated from the young age.( of course i ‘m not saying we should teach teenagers to drink ‘responsibly’. i mean like we should teach our kids to eat chocolate with limit even though they’re are tempted to eat chocolate from young age). i accept that your point about the worst happening. but don’t miss the best just ’cause there’s a possibility of worst.

Profile photo of DaJetPlane DaJetPlane M (@lytning91) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

What good is having all of the money if you never spend any? If you invested all of your time in prolonging how much time you have, hardly anything would happen, making the time you’re collecting worth nothing.

It’s the same thing as saying, “It is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all,” only applied to the entirety of life. There can be no progress without risk, nor genuine experience.

Profile photo of Givan Givan (@liammcfeely) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

If your worried specifically about being caught at this party, don’t be. You won’t be the most drunk person there so you won’t get caught for anything.
@whotheneighbors, About the question in general, I realize bad things can happen, but if I live my life expecting the worst thing to happen always I’ll be very disappointed with my life. I am optimistic about most things, which includes what I think will happen. Obviously some bad things have happened to me, but I feel like they have all been results of a bad decision on my part, and things I have learned from. Also, I feel that choosing to party as a teenager doesn’t make me detrimental to society, and will/should not impact my future, so I’m willing to take all the associated risks of partying.

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