The serious one.

3 years, 3 months ago

Soooooo I like this girl a lot. I was in a long term relationship (4.5 years) that didn’t end my way and that ended about half a year ago. I was thinking I was over it so I’ve just been doing my own thing and this girl just kind of dropped in my lap and was like "hey, I like you" and I feel the same way. I like her a lot. Like stupid a lot. But I keep finding myself inadvertently distancing myself from her so I won’t get hurt again.

I really like this girl and don’t want to screw the pooch here, but at the same time I feel like I need some input because it’s so soon after the last break up. What do you have to say?

Also, if you feel like you need to know more I can fill you in.

January 14, 2012 at 12:01 am

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

@thecatspajamas, Live in the moment man. You worry about the future when nothing is certain. You’re afraid of getting hurt? That’s part of life whether you like it or not. Invite her out to eat, take her to the beach, go dancing, live life and enjoy it. Nothing lasts. Who cares if you “mess up”, are you perfect? No and neither am I or any human being for that matter. Most people grow old and when they do they regret a lot of things in life that they wish they should of done. Take a Chance, life’s like a game what’s the point if you don’t play?

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

@thecatspajamas, Do what feels right. That’s all there is to it. You’ll never have regrets if you live this way.

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Profile photo of Name Name (@jmlasota) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

You can’t have the crest without the trough. And if you deny yourself the trough, you’ll never have the crest. You trying to surf? You’re already in the Ocean.

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Profile photo of Panthalassa Panthalassa (@mamacoya) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

Always always always take a chance on love!!!!!!

something awful might happen- but you dont have control over that!

everything ends
but now is the time to be thankful for the gift the universe is handing you

dont second guess yourself
dont look a gift horse in the mouth

Fall in love easily & often
and good things are bound to come of it

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