I got caught smoking. This isn’t the first time. I wonder if my family realizes that I’ll stop when I’m good and ready. And if smoking is such a wrongdoing then let me do wrong and suffer the consequences shall they occur. I’ve noticed no change in myself other than my way of thinking which I think personally has been altered for the better. I believe that for every child the parents should be the driver, but they should let the children direct them. Every mistake made will be a lesson learned firsthand through a child’s own experience, rather than a “when i was your age” story. Am I naive for thinking like this?
Yeah it’s your life, your decisions, your consequences.
The only thing I don’t agree with is the last part of your post. Letting the child lead, that sounds very backwards. Lead the kids until they’re old enough to lead themselves, that’s what I think is best.
Oh and look at the world today. Are people learning from their mistakes? Obviously fucking not at all.
Still, it’s your life, nobody else should meddle with it.
I agree with you 100%. It’s your mind, body and soul. Feed all 3 whatever you think they need. Whether it’s a necessity, or a simple, guilty pleasure. Although the last part of your paragraph did catch my eye. Letting children live and learn from their experiences is already an active protocol. Parents just need to guide their children in the right ways, otherwise they’re bound to make wrong decisions.
@dizzledatpiff, Yes, you are naive. There is a reason your parents give you the ‘when I was your age’ story, and that is because they have learned from their own mistakes and save you from making them.
If you want to make mistakes, then go ahead, and then like the rest of us, when you’re no longer a child, you can also think to yourself ‘If I knew then, what I know now….’
Are we talking weed or tobacco here anyway?
It’s important not to overreact to this experience. Take what lessons you can from this (unfortunate?) occurrence, and move on. Your parents likely want the best for you, and through their upbringing they were taught to associate marijuana with psychos and hippies. They’ve good intentions I’m sure, just ill-guided ones.
And yeah man, at least the monkey is off your back now! I can’t fathom getting caught by my mom lol. She’d freak the fuck out.
People seem to have a stigma toward role models, but there shouldn’t be. If you have someone you respect then you consider their advice. I agree that some lessons you have to learn yourself, to be able to appresiate consequences but the main hope behind that principle is that the consequence is not your life, then you learn nothing.
It is like new drivers, they build confidence and then build more, pretty soon they build too much and think they are the best drivers in the world. What they need is that accident to show them they are not, but you can only hope that accident comes before they are driving too recklessly to survive the impact.
My best friends father told me “If you really are the best driver in the world, it simply means that no one else is the best, and that is where accidents happen, that you do not anticipate the crappiness of others” But that advice can be applied in many things. The man who told me that is not the role model type, there are things about him I would never hope to emulate, but I respect his advice.
No one is perfect, not you and not any role model, but I remember an old saying I haven’t used in a while “Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of other” It is not a bad thing to take advice, but in the end you follow your nature, you be true to yourself and even if it is wrong, just take it as a chance to grow (which it seems is how you see it anyway).
@dizzledatpiff, If you haven’t already then I suggest you educate yourself about weed. About why it was made illegal, about it’s benefits, and about industrial hemp. And then if you feel up to it, try and tell your parents what you’ve learnt. Ideally they will respect your decision much more…well much more than ‘screw you I’ll smoke weed if I want no matter how bad it is for me’.