Tips for Inner Happiness?

@Ray Of course I’ve done bad things and gotten negative emotional feedback. And no mindset can protect you from that stuff. But I don’t cling to that stuff. If I can correct my error, I do it. And if I can’t I just move on. Bad things happen, people fuck up, that’s just how the world works. What’s the point in clinging to that negative crap? It doesn’t make sense.

The past is the past, I’m present.

@ Dom: “Guilt to me is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness, which is just mirror to say you make other people responsible for yours.” I like that mindset. Especially “guilt is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness”.

I am really dreading doing something I’m 90% sure I have to do, but I know it is going to make someone else feel terrible. Or at least I expect it will. I haven’t even done anything yet and these feelings of pre-guilt are acting as a major stumbling block. It’s been a source of dissonance for a few months now. Haven’t yet resolved if it’s all just pre-guilt, or if the more tangible consequences of my actions are what are holding me back. Not trying to hijack thread, but what you wrote above really resonated with me and I’ll be incorporating it. Thanks!

Lol, no, not guilty. As much as I do feel guilt over things sometimes I think I have at least done a good job in my life of seperating “consequential” and “inconsequential” things/events/actions.

Very little happens in my life that I regard as “consequential”. I barely regard my job as being consequentional other than to say if I lost my job my standard of living would be greatly compromised. But I don’t think about job outside of work.

Basically, for me, something has to be deeply personal or closely related to someone I care about a lot for it to consequential. My particular problem concerns someone I care about tremendously, and the thought of hurting them, even if it is best for me, just kills me to think about. I’ve been consciously avoiding and trying to reason through it more before I act, but I’m starting to realize I myself am the last hurdle.

Well, the name of the thread is “tips for inner happiness” and I think guilt is a big player in that. It doesn’t matter who is getting or giving the tips, the thread is for anyone to use.

lol, sorry, looks like I just put my foot in my mouth, aw now I feel guilty. (hey I fixed it)