Tips for Inner Happiness?

3 years, 1 month ago

I’ve recently gone though another big shift in my reality, one that took away many things I didn’t want to see go. It made me realize just how much happiness I placed in the things outside of myself because of the immense pain I’ve been feeling inside.

I know this shift’s purpose… it’s to create unconditional happiness within. It shocked me just how behind on this I actually was. I’m taking many steps and receiving lots of realizations towards inner happiness (some are obvious, but obviously not taken to heart).


Here’s a list of what I’ve come up with so far to help keep me on the path towards this reality of unconditional happiness within, and become my true shining self:

– Certainty. The belief that no matter what happens, everything is going to be okay.

– Ability. The belief that you can handle anything life gives you.

– Pleasure in Giving. The belief that giving is what’s the most pleasing activity.

– Everything’s a Bonus. The belief that there’s nothing to lose.

– Not Using Others for Your Happiness. The belief that people are there for you to share your happiness WITH, not receive happiness FROM.

– Self-Acceptance. The belief that you are always perfect just the way you are.

– Conscious Action. Constantly asking yourself "WHY" you are doing what you are doing, and making sure the motivation behind anything isn’t a means to an end for you to be happy.

– Honesty. Speaking your true feelings, fears, etc. It’s impossible to be happy if your head and heart aren’t in harmony.


That’s a few of what I have so far that have really raised my vibration in this painful time, I hope this helps someone else on the same journey.

If anyone has any other beliefs or guiding thoughts to help stimulate inner happiness please share!

January 8, 2012 at 8:35 pm

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Profile photo of Dom Dom (@dominickjohn) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Guilt to me is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness, which is just mirror to say you make other people responsible for yours.

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@Ray Of course I’ve done bad things and gotten negative emotional feedback. And no mindset can protect you from that stuff. But I don’t cling to that stuff. If I can correct my error, I do it. And if I can’t I just move on. Bad things happen, people fuck up, that’s just how the world works. What’s the point in clinging to that negative crap? It doesn’t make sense.

The past is the past, I’m present.

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@Ray Of course I’ve done bad things and gotten negative emotional feedback. And no mindset can protect you from that stuff. But I don’t cling to that stuff. If I can correct my error, I do it. And if I can’t I just move on. Bad things happen, people fuck up, that’s just how the world works. What’s the point in clinging to that negative crap? It doesn’t make sense.

The past is the past, I’m present.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@ Dom: “Guilt to me is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness, which is just mirror to say you make other people responsible for yours.” I like that mindset. Especially “guilt is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness”.

I am really dreading doing something I’m 90% sure I have to do, but I know it is going to make someone else feel terrible. Or at least I expect it will. I haven’t even done anything yet and these feelings of pre-guilt are acting as a major stumbling block. It’s been a source of dissonance for a few months now. Haven’t yet resolved if it’s all just pre-guilt, or if the more tangible consequences of my actions are what are holding me back. Not trying to hijack thread, but what you wrote above really resonated with me and I’ll be incorporating it. Thanks!

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@ Dom: “Guilt to me is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness, which is just mirror to say you make other people responsible for yours.” I like that mindset. Especially “guilt is taking responsibility for other people’s happiness”.

I am really dreading doing something I’m 90% sure I have to do, but I know it is going to make someone else feel terrible. Or at least I expect it will. I haven’t even done anything yet and these feelings of pre-guilt are acting as a major stumbling block. It’s been a source of dissonance for a few months now. Haven’t yet resolved if it’s all just pre-guilt, or if the more tangible consequences of my actions are what are holding me back. Not trying to hijack thread, but what you wrote above really resonated with me and I’ll be incorporating it. Thanks!

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Profile photo of Dom Dom (@dominickjohn) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@Nicholas You’re welcome, I’ve had a huge problem with it as well, and am only now starting to get rid of it with this new mindset.

I’m finding 99% of the time the only reason I feel guilty about doing something is that if someone else did it to me I’d feel absolutely horrible (my core issue), so I project my expectation of pain onto them, which prevents me from taking many actions I know I need to for me. I have this belief that others wont hurt me if I don’t hurt them. I’m working on changing my own definitions of happiness and pain, and taking guilt down with it.

And as for “hijacking” the thread, are you feeling guilty about that? if so why? would you feel hijacked if someone took your thread into a tangent?

See what I mean? :)

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Profile photo of Dom Dom (@dominickjohn) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@Nicholas You’re welcome, I’ve had a huge problem with it as well, and am only now starting to get rid of it with this new mindset.

I’m finding 99% of the time the only reason I feel guilty about doing something is that if someone else did it to me I’d feel absolutely horrible (my core issue), so I project my expectation of pain onto them, which prevents me from taking many actions I know I need to for me. I have this belief that others wont hurt me if I don’t hurt them. I’m working on changing my own definitions of happiness and pain, and taking guilt down with it.

And as for “hijacking” the thread, are you feeling guilty about that? if so why? would you feel hijacked if someone took your thread into a tangent?

See what I mean? :)

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Lol, no, not guilty. As much as I do feel guilt over things sometimes I think I have at least done a good job in my life of seperating “consequential” and “inconsequential” things/events/actions.

Very little happens in my life that I regard as “consequential”. I barely regard my job as being consequentional other than to say if I lost my job my standard of living would be greatly compromised. But I don’t think about job outside of work.

Basically, for me, something has to be deeply personal or closely related to someone I care about a lot for it to consequential. My particular problem concerns someone I care about tremendously, and the thought of hurting them, even if it is best for me, just kills me to think about. I’ve been consciously avoiding and trying to reason through it more before I act, but I’m starting to realize I myself am the last hurdle.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Lol, no, not guilty. As much as I do feel guilt over things sometimes I think I have at least done a good job in my life of seperating “consequential” and “inconsequential” things/events/actions.

Very little happens in my life that I regard as “consequential”. I barely regard my job as being consequentional other than to say if I lost my job my standard of living would be greatly compromised. But I don’t think about job outside of work.

Basically, for me, something has to be deeply personal or closely related to someone I care about a lot for it to consequential. My particular problem concerns someone I care about tremendously, and the thought of hurting them, even if it is best for me, just kills me to think about. I’ve been consciously avoiding and trying to reason through it more before I act, but I’m starting to realize I myself am the last hurdle.

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Profile photo of Ray Butler Ray Butler M (@trek79) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Well, the name of the thread is “tips for inner happiness” and I think guilt is a big player in that. It doesn’t matter who is getting or giving the tips, the thread is for anyone to use.

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Profile photo of Ray Butler Ray Butler M (@trek79) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Well, the name of the thread is “tips for inner happiness” and I think guilt is a big player in that. It doesn’t matter who is getting or giving the tips, the thread is for anyone to use.

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Profile photo of Dom Dom (@dominickjohn) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Absolutely, I just wanted to run with a statement that synchronistically implied some guilt, considering it tied in so well with the subject and thread

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Profile photo of Dom Dom (@dominickjohn) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Absolutely, I just wanted to run with a statement that synchronistically implied some guilt, considering it tied in so well with the subject and thread

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Profile photo of Ray Butler Ray Butler M (@trek79) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

lol, sorry, looks like I just put my foot in my mouth, aw now I feel guilty. (hey I fixed it)

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Profile photo of Ray Butler Ray Butler M (@trek79) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

lol, sorry, looks like I just put my foot in my mouth, aw now I feel guilty. (hey I fixed it)

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Profile photo of Dom Dom (@dominickjohn) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

lol, everybody stop being guilty!! You’re ruining your lives and everyone elses!!

Have I guilted you all into not being guilty yet? :P

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