I love this topic, and I never had a term for it until about 4 or 5 months ago when a friend of mine was explaining to me how a native american who grew up living with wolves for multiple years coined the term when speaking to his animal friends.
He explained it in a very simple manner;
If you speak to your pet dog and you don’t really mean it, they aren’t going to know whats going on and they aren’t going to respond to you in what you’d hope for. However, when you truth-speak to them, they immediately know what your intentions are and will attempt to respond appropriately.
I enjoy this analogy with the pets because most of us can probably empathize. We’ve had a dog where we say “drop the ball!” “drop the ball!” “drop the ball!” but they aren’t going to drop it. But once in a great while, for some reason, you gain truth -speak and you look the dog in the eye, and they drop the ball. You don’t even have to say anything!
This same concept is easily transferred to humans, with greater effects. Truth speak is when you have no filter on what you are going to say, and so much of your meaning is based on the body and tone of your language, letting the words deliver an emotionally packed palette of meaning.
You look into your friends eyes, or you look up to the sky, and you say – “This is a good day.” But you say it without worry of any future tense or any conversation limitations/barriers. You say exactly what is in the mind, and exactly how you feel, and literally your state of mind flows from your mouth, decorating these words.
There is no absolute negativity with truth speak. You can be angry, or disappointed, but it is never meant to bring anyone down. There will never be an insult uttered through truth speak, it will always be calm, but can certainly be assertive.
Often when we read quotes, the way we imagine them in our head is if the person spoke with truth-speak, and not some glancing conversation, that happened to utter incredible words – no. When we read a quote and it hits you to the core – what you experienced is the empathetical view (Creating this person’s voice / meaning) but channeling it through truth speak.
Have a beautiful day, everyone.
Where are all of the replies. This is legit and VERY much an observation I have had with your dog example and in life. Dogs are so cool in that I feel like the truth-speak comes easier while in front of them. I mean, it might be condescending to say one feels like they can’t really judge you, but it actually feels more like they are just very much at peace with their lives and just have less of an allowance for judgement of others. IDK but anyway it’s certainly something I have observed.
I wish that truth speak flowed more naturally in our lives between one another. I feel like even if we were able to truth-speak with more ease, it could be misconstrued and tainted by others who are not also accessing their truth-speak mentality/emotionality.
Either way, I never really made these connects you have displayed and so I thank you. Your post was successful in bestowing memorable knowledge.
I wish truth speak was more common, then! I can’t count how many times I’ve been misunderstood or how many times I wished I could just be open and honest and truthful. Expression has always been hard for me, even with my best friend and that frustrates the both of us.
I love that it’s never negative, as well. And why should communication be?
I’d love to hear more, so I hope this topic gets more replies.
This is awesome. I like the connection between “truth-speak” and reading quotes. I also have noticed how when reading a quote I find really insightful, intriguing, or profound, it hits home; it connects with the “core” you speak of, and there is something there that really can’t be put into words. Compare this to day to day conversation, which seems incredibly dull and meaningless in relation. Perhaps words deserve more credit than I am giving them.
I’m curious what you mean by having no “filter” on what we’re saying. Is this filter what causes so much of our human interaction to be so meaningless? Whenever I overhear a conversation about the weather, or someone’s new shoes, or the latest American Idol episode I can’t help but think – millions of years of physical and mental evolution, and the entire development of consciousness, have led to this? This can’t be right.
@dkanowsky, The filter is the “ehh I better not say this, to avoid the uncomfortable feeling that will ensue” feeling… With truth speak you just SPEAK. It rolls off the tongue directly from the thoughts (or heart as someone below says).
Its like when you finally get the guts (when you were a kid) to speak up to your parents, or a bully, or someone and say exactly how you feel, despite whats going to happen. There is no fear associated with truth speak, that disappears…
@boribori90, yeah it feels like you aren’t really… talking. You are communicating yourself in full. Not using words to interpret your feelings – your feelings are fully coming over, the body, the eye contact, the tone, the words, they all coalesce to true meaning.
@hlalhabattu, definitely man! This should be something taught at a young age. interestingly, the French… kind of… sort of… have this in their language. When they are serious they use a whole different vocabulary. They have the sentence “The world is in danger” but then they also have this other version of the sentence, that without raising their voice, or changing their tone, “The world is in danger” becomes a real serious statement.
I think, however, many Shamans master this. And if you ever meet a shaman and hear him say “The world is in danger” you will not question this. It speaks volumes, like an iceberg crashing into the ocean, or a sequoia falling – you cannot simply say “yeah well”. They fully communicate not only the sentence, but everything they know along with that sentence. A verbal blast to the heart!
@ijesuschrist, well then I know two HE “shamanlings” who have to work on this for the future. first step: obliterate the disconnect between true emotion, intention, though and speaking. go teamwork! but really this goes to show the power of language, in that even though I don’t know every language that exists, if I listen to a few songs, I feel like I know exactly what is being expressed there is a very distinct way to bring about this undeniable “linguo-empathy” and I needs to search for it
@egarim, yeah, I’m not completely convinced one can “learn” truth speak yet. For me it only comes on occasion, but if you learn to do it reproducibly, please share. I have no dog :( so I cannot try… and “testing” it on humans… lol. Maybe not good idea.
I can truth speak when people push me to the limit – when they really test my wits or my belief system, then something stirs in me that relays true emotion, and absolute truth from my deepest being. Its at this point where I speak and no more argument can be had, because you cannot argue the truth, and little discussion progresses because what I’ve said is something to contemplate.
I remember a very strong moment a while back, when under the influence of a certain substance. Two of my friends were with me, and one had said
“Man, I wish I could take what I see in my brain, my mind’s eye, and share it with other people.”
It was quiet for a moment, but then I said
“That is Art”
After I said it, it had really hit me, and everyone else what art really was (or what “good” art is). We all sat in silence for a moment.
I have a friend who truth speaks once in a while to me, and it hits me so hard. Its just like “You’re a good kid, Jon” or “Sometimes life is like that” and I realize EVERYTHING he’s saying at once. All his history and emotions come with that sentence, and it just floors me. I try to re-cooperate, but sometimes I just say “yeah. wow.” and stand there dumb founded.
A simple sentence.
im gonna be honest with you – i dont think this exists –
you tell a dog multiple times to drop it and it drops it once in a while, sounds like the law of large numbers :]
and ive seen that honest people always lose to good salesman at least in the short run when it comes to likeability or connection – maybe one could argue that the honest person is better connected w someone in the long run, bc they have time to show their loyalty, quality of character, etc. – but i think the rest is just as i described earlier – point being, the connection can be faked well – and animals wont know neither w humans how to decipher
thanks for the share, interesting thought – let me know if you dont agree