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John OMallen (@omallen)    2 years, 5 months ago

Because of where I live I don’t get my different options, people are either Christian republicans or atheist democrats. The belief of my town in the subject matter is that it’s strictly for the married and until then you don’t look, think, or wonder about sex because we’re either ‘good Christian people’ or too young.
I apologize ahead of time if this maybe a repeat thread, but there are new minds joining this site everyday, and like me, I searched and couldn’t find a topic as vague as I needed it to be.

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luigi (@luigiblue)2 years, 5 months ago ago

Mmmm sex. The orgasm is a gift, it’s a pleasure. If you are not experiencing it, then you are missing out. I mean you can wait until you’re “ready” or when you find the “right person” but I think sex was turned into too much of a taboo that people think they need to feel guilty if they have it.

Consensual sex can be amazing, especially when you use your emotions to intensify it. Feeling loved? then lay her down and feel it. Feeling a little angry or frisky? throw her around a bit, tie her up, blindfold her or vice versa (all in fun of course). Dirty talk, have a quickie, fuck in the shower, in a public place….so many ways to intensify that pleasure. Nike got it right the first time “Just do it”. Don’t miss out on the feeling just because others make you feel like you’re doing something wrong.

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Sam Frens (@sfrens)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@Maminal I was just sharing my personal story brother, I understand why many people feel the way they do, but I think it’s important for everyone here to get both sides, even if I am the minority. I’ve just had things work out so that what I’ve learned is what I wrote.

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Lexi (@lexi)2 years, 5 months ago ago

Such a variety of opinions…this is good! And confusing.

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John OMallen (@omallen)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@Bobby
It’s all good. This threads getting a nice line of views too.

And I don’t know who was posting about it, but porn is so terrible. Maybe it’s the imprint of the society I live in where they scream of it being guilty and sinful and dirty. Don’t look, think, or talk about porn.
Aside from that it leaves this lonely self helplessness to me and I see it as a dead end of pseudo-bliss.

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dillon (@kittell123)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@manimal animals besides humans have sex to reproduce. we have a mind and we all need a system of connections in our life why do you go on this website? because you feel a connection. when you did good in a class and was proud of it.. because you had a connection. that feeling that i’m talking about is the connection and i believe sex should be that. ya sometimes you feel happy that you got laid but you still feel empty inside after. thats why you have sex with a girl again to bring that feeling back.. but it goes away again after that. i do agree with you that girls say they are mad because they got laid and were left after because of social statuses yesterday i was talking to a girl whom said she was sick of guys having sex with her and then leaving her after. today she wants me to have sex with her.. like wtf is wrong with you.. what do you think i’m going to do after.

everyone wants that type of feeling in their life that they connect with others.. haha (i feel like i said connection a billion times)

my personal opnion i just feel like sex should not be thrown around. it should be with a loved one.

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conglistedsoldier (@mumbojumbo63)2 years, 5 months ago ago

The only way to understand it is to do it. And trust me, doing it is a lot better than watching it. Just like anything else, personal experience will help you understand it much better than listening to others or watching it from afar or somewhere else completely. It’s not bad, it’s why were still here on earth today. Our culture is dumb and closed minded. So they think its bad, just like they think weed kills people every day.

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Lexi (@lexi)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@dillon

Well I wouldn’t just have sex with someone I met in line at the grocery store. There are a few guys I know that I have an awesome connection with, but none of them plan to settle down anytime soon. I guess the main thing i’m questioning is whether I should do the whole relationship thing or just have fun and respond to my own natural wants. I feel like this would be less complicated if I already had had sex. I’m putting so much pressure on how the “first” time should go. At this rate, no matter what happens i’ll be disappointed

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dillon (@kittell123)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@ con i do agree with you tho people need to learn from their mistakes and by doing that put yourself in the situation. so i guess learn from your first mistake haha

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dillon (@kittell123)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@lexi

im not sayin you have to be in a relationship im just sayin it worked for me because thats when i best knew that person and understood what they felt emotionally and physically.thats good that you like that person thats the only thing your truly need.
you may not be disappointed you may also.i just feel bad for people who get hurt and hate on guys because of what they have been through. just keep yourself openminded. maybe you should look in other places to meet a guy you know? dont go to the same table at lunch, dont go to the same grocery store you always go to change things up and get out of your comfort zone. don’t be close minded to meeting new friends, and you just may walk into someone you feel like your ready to have sex with. i mean you have waited this long so obviously you know what you want out of a man.

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Zoe (@poachersinyourhome)2 years, 5 months ago ago

Sex, just do it.

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Andrew (@delsol)2 years, 5 months ago ago

Virgin here, I have pretty liberal views on sex but I just have yet to meet a girl that I felt a connection with that was also not already in a relationship. Honestly, I’ve felt a connection with 3 or 4 girls and all of them have been in relationships with friends of mine, the universe is torturing me. I’m in no rush though.

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Joey (@catalyst)2 years, 5 months ago ago

stonedragon said something cool when she said its a connection between two souls. what is sex? it feels great, possibly the best feeling on earth because all levels of existence are being “stimulated” (pun, partly intended)
that being said there’s two kinds of sex: mating/fucking/screwing which is our animalistic urge to repopulate. everyone’s had it, that animalistic brutal sex.
and the other kind, love making where instincts are still the main stars of the show but rather than being about the fucking its just so intimate and beautiful, and usually only with certain people. i myself have only experienced this during sex 3 times in my entire sexual life. its what i thought sex was when i was a kid, but better.

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Lexi (@lexi)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@Andrew

“The universe is torturing me”

haha isn’t that the truth? Something’s always just out of reach

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Andrew (@delsol)2 years, 5 months ago ago

Sometimes I even feel like it’s within reach, but to grab it is to sacrifice all my principles. So I guess really still just out of reach.

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Brook (@brook)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@Lillian hah I couldn’t agree more!

@Lexi When you should have sex depends on a lot..”There are a few guys I know that I have an awesome connection with, but none of them plan to settle down anytime soon. I guess the main thing i’m questioning is whether I should do the whole relationship thing or just have fun and respond to my own natural wants.” you’d need to figure out if you’re just wanting sex or if you’re wanting more from it. Don’t have sex with someone hoping to develop something from it..setting yourself up for disappointment there.
Having a sexual connection is important, makes for a better experience. You don’t have to have a romantic connection for good sex.. as long as things are clear and open and you have the ability to separate the two (sex and romance) it can be great. It’s all about communication and really being comfortable with yourself sexually. A person can’t just guess what you like sexually, so you should communicate about what you like / experiment. Won’t know unless you try :)
As for it being your ‘first time’ I definitely remember mine, I didn’t have a choice in that but before I had wanted to wait blah blah have it be with someone special. I feel like if I did get to experience that it would have been extremely built up and disappointing. I won’t ever know about that but each person is different..only you will really know if it feels right. I personally like to just go with it..planning it out doesn’t seem to be as good as being in the moment. So don’t worry about getting it over with or feeling like you need to be more experienced.

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Ellie (@tangledupinplaid21)2 years, 5 months ago ago

Lexi, I remember my first and it was absolutely terrible. It was someone I “loved” and we were both virgins who had sex a total of about 5 times and it was terrible each time. I thought that I just didn’t like sex… I had to have quite a bit of it before discovering the good side of it.
Yes I will always remember my first time, but only because our society makes “losing your virginity” a big deal. It is ALL false conditioning. I say do it if you want to(even if it isn’t someone you potentially want to date) and don’t if you don’t(even if it someone you do). You will only feel guilty about it if you allow the mysterious “they” govern what you do. Think about it, “they” consider virgins prudes but sexually active girls sluts. It’s a trap and it’s all bullshit. Just do what you want. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)2 years, 5 months ago ago

@dillon Those are some wonky assumptions, mate. First of all, humans have sex for reproduction just like animals do. And other animals get pleasure from sex just like humans do. There are many animals that have sex for purely recreational purpose, like dolphins, pigs, rats and chimps.

You have no idea why I visit this site, and it aint the reason you assumed. I never felt proud for doing good in school. Yeah, I feel empty after sex, I always feel empty. There’s nothing bad about it, and nothing can fill that void except I. I don’t have sex to leech off the girls to try to feel whole, that’s disgusting ego sickness. AND it never works. Nothing external can ever fill the void.

Not everyone wants that faux connection, that’s just another one of your crazy assumptions. I’m one of the people who don’t want it, in fact I’m appalled by it. I’d rather throw it around than try to make it something it isn’t. And I don’t even throw it around.

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Surina (@surain)2 years, 5 months ago ago

My philosophy on sex: It’s as carefree and instinctual as going to the toilet. There should be little conscious thought involved. I can say that in my record with sex, I’ve had every possible type of experience. Loved the person, bad sex; didn’t even like the person, bad sex; loved the person; good sex; didn’t know the person, good sex… jeez, the list goes on. What I can say is that I have a favorite sexual partner, and while I don’t love him, I do like him. He’s not The One, by any means, but we’re completely compatible in bed. It’s the scent that draws us together. And we get touchy-feely sometimes, almost in a way that a romantic couple do, it just never leaves the bedroom, and that is how it will stay. And it’s still the greatest sex ever. One day I will find The One and I hope, for his sake, that he and I have the same connection that my favorite shag and I do.

There it is: look forward to one day being completely unjudged and unjudging during sex. Best feeling ever.

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