Understanding Sex

Mmmm sex. The orgasm is a gift, it’s a pleasure. If you are not experiencing it, then you are missing out. I mean you can wait until you’re “ready” or when you find the “right person” but I think sex was turned into too much of a taboo that people think they need to feel guilty if they have it.

Consensual sex can be amazing, especially when you use your emotions to intensify it. Feeling loved? then lay her down and feel it. Feeling a little angry or frisky? throw her around a bit, tie her up, blindfold her or vice versa (all in fun of course). Dirty talk, have a quickie, fuck in the shower, in a public place….so many ways to intensify that pleasure. Nike got it right the first time “Just do it”. Don’t miss out on the feeling just because others make you feel like you’re doing something wrong.

Such a variety of opinions…this is good! And confusing.

@manimal animals besides humans have sex to reproduce. we have a mind and we all need a system of connections in our life why do you go on this website? because you feel a connection. when you did good in a class and was proud of it.. because you had a connection. that feeling that i’m talking about is the connection and i believe sex should be that. ya sometimes you feel happy that you got laid but you still feel empty inside after. thats why you have sex with a girl again to bring that feeling back.. but it goes away again after that. i do agree with you that girls say they are mad because they got laid and were left after because of social statuses yesterday i was talking to a girl whom said she was sick of guys having sex with her and then leaving her after. today she wants me to have sex with her.. like wtf is wrong with you.. what do you think i’m going to do after.

everyone wants that type of feeling in their life that they connect with others.. haha (i feel like i said connection a billion times)

my personal opnion i just feel like sex should not be thrown around. it should be with a loved one.

@dillon

Well I wouldn’t just have sex with someone I met in line at the grocery store. There are a few guys I know that I have an awesome connection with, but none of them plan to settle down anytime soon. I guess the main thing i’m questioning is whether I should do the whole relationship thing or just have fun and respond to my own natural wants. I feel like this would be less complicated if I already had had sex. I’m putting so much pressure on how the “first” time should go. At this rate, no matter what happens i’ll be disappointed

@lexi

im not sayin you have to be in a relationship im just sayin it worked for me because thats when i best knew that person and understood what they felt emotionally and physically.thats good that you like that person thats the only thing your truly need.
you may not be disappointed you may also.i just feel bad for people who get hurt and hate on guys because of what they have been through. just keep yourself openminded. maybe you should look in other places to meet a guy you know? dont go to the same table at lunch, dont go to the same grocery store you always go to change things up and get out of your comfort zone. don’t be close minded to meeting new friends, and you just may walk into someone you feel like your ready to have sex with. i mean you have waited this long so obviously you know what you want out of a man.

Virgin here, I have pretty liberal views on sex but I just have yet to meet a girl that I felt a connection with that was also not already in a relationship. Honestly, I’ve felt a connection with 3 or 4 girls and all of them have been in relationships with friends of mine, the universe is torturing me. I’m in no rush though.

@Andrew

“The universe is torturing me”

haha isn’t that the truth? Something’s always just out of reach

@Lillian hah I couldn’t agree more!

@Lexi When you should have sex depends on a lot..”There are a few guys I know that I have an awesome connection with, but none of them plan to settle down anytime soon. I guess the main thing i’m questioning is whether I should do the whole relationship thing or just have fun and respond to my own natural wants.” you’d need to figure out if you’re just wanting sex or if you’re wanting more from it. Don’t have sex with someone hoping to develop something from it..setting yourself up for disappointment there.
Having a sexual connection is important, makes for a better experience. You don’t have to have a romantic connection for good sex.. as long as things are clear and open and you have the ability to separate the two (sex and romance) it can be great. It’s all about communication and really being comfortable with yourself sexually. A person can’t just guess what you like sexually, so you should communicate about what you like / experiment. Won’t know unless you try :)
As for it being your ‘first time’ I definitely remember mine, I didn’t have a choice in that but before I had wanted to wait blah blah have it be with someone special. I feel like if I did get to experience that it would have been extremely built up and disappointing. I won’t ever know about that but each person is different..only you will really know if it feels right. I personally like to just go with it..planning it out doesn’t seem to be as good as being in the moment. So don’t worry about getting it over with or feeling like you need to be more experienced.

@dillon Those are some wonky assumptions, mate. First of all, humans have sex for reproduction just like animals do. And other animals get pleasure from sex just like humans do. There are many animals that have sex for purely recreational purpose, like dolphins, pigs, rats and chimps.

You have no idea why I visit this site, and it aint the reason you assumed. I never felt proud for doing good in school. Yeah, I feel empty after sex, I always feel empty. There’s nothing bad about it, and nothing can fill that void except I. I don’t have sex to leech off the girls to try to feel whole, that’s disgusting ego sickness. AND it never works. Nothing external can ever fill the void.

Not everyone wants that faux connection, that’s just another one of your crazy assumptions. I’m one of the people who don’t want it, in fact I’m appalled by it. I’d rather throw it around than try to make it something it isn’t. And I don’t even throw it around.