What are you afraid of?
What are the things that you fear? The things that you are too afraid to say in front of the people you know. Fear of being ridiculed, fear of being embarrassed? Why are we afraid to say what we really feel in front of those we hold close. Has technology, honestly changed our society in such a negative way that we feel we can’t talk about things that actually matter? Why do we feel comfortable with mindless small talk rather than talking about our dreams, feelings, and most importantly our fears? The things that come easily and naturally seem to be the hardest to say… So tell me, what are you afraid of?
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“rational fear,” or the ability to accurately calculate risk and thereby avoid trouble is a function of Mind, whereas “irrational fear” or being thrown by every suggestion that comes your way, is not. “Rational fear” in this sense becomes a form of good judgment; “irrational fear” is allowing yourself to be buffeted by rumors and conjecture.
There are two basic kinds of fear stimuli. The first is environmental and poses a direct physical threat to the perceiver. The second is strictly psychological and poses no direct physical threat. For obvious reasons the first is a rational fear and the second is an irrational fear. Rational fears can be overcome by physical retaliation or escape, whereas irrational fears such as those aroused by horror stories, can be successfully overcome only by conscious and rational control. Carl Jung claims that “it is just man’s turning away from instinct–his opposing himself to instinct–that creates consciousness.” Consequently, the method for controlling irrational fear is to avoid further instinctual reactions and to concentrate on rationalizing. However, in a panic situation the victim automatically acts instinctually rather than rationally, and instead of remedying his problem and dispelling his fear he acts in a non-rational way that is likely to end catastrophically.
@justice, I don’t think small talk is a recent innovation. We’re built to keep secrets, protect ourselves, and conform. That’s why it’s such a celebration when we can gather in a place like this and can be open and honest with each other. Thanks HE!
I want to be known and loved; loved unconditionally for who I truly am. So, I’m afraid that I will be loved only for the facade, the reasonable persona that I have developed in order to fit in. I am learning to be both unreasonable and loving.
I’m also afraid of putting all my effort into something really important to me, and then failing at it. That would make me feel that I was not good enough to do what I think is valuable. I am practicing “failing quickly” as the entrepreneurs say, learning from the experience, and iterating to the next version. No more sitting around waiting for it to be perfect. I’ve been doing a lot of “READY. FIRE. …. AIM” lately.
Rock on everyone. It’s scary, but you gotta do your thing. There is nobody else.
@Dafunks, HAHAHHA. Cybermen and Angels are scarier :( The first episode i ever watched of Doctor Who was the one in London 1941 in the midst of war and the gas masks were growing on people’s faces. Holy shit. I was petrified. I’ve never been so scared in my life. I couldn’t handle Doctor Who for like 4 straight years after that hahaha. Are you my mummy? Also, the silence in the library episode made me afraid of the dark for a good while…my brother used to freak out when he heard a clock ticking at night because of a doctor who episode too. It’s so crazy how we love what scares us.
I’m just plain scared of letting people down. Of not living up to expectations or being good enough. I’m scared of not being worth it.
Loneliness, mediocrity, imprisonment, torture, painful death, continuous failure, disappointment (from others) – thats a big one, also that the entire universe is a hologram experiment and I’m just an observer.
Fear of complete disconnection with reality – insanity
@sweetdreams, Ive not seen this movie. When I was younger I was scared of Daleks from Doctor Who.
They scared me so much that I could not watch TV when they were on. I would hide behind a pillow or my mother….
Look at them… They are not scary at all.
I think it was all my friends telling me how scary they are. The image in my head was more scary than reality.
I think billions of Americans and Brits do this when we use the word Terrorist. And I think billions of Middle Eastern people do it when they use the words Americans.
Spiders, Death, Angry women, Judges, Guns and hunger
I can get scared over anything really. I find most involve my own imagination. The most scary film I have ever seen is one most people find stupid. I watched The Blair Witch Project with my younger brother and we both were so scared that I could not cope. I had NO idea it was fake… and, at the time I had seen the internet stuff that was being spread (We watched it on pirate copy when it was released).
I see that that movie is all about your own imagination. You see nothing… Just what your own mind creates.
I think most fears are our own creation. Some, I do think are in our genes (Spiders, snakes etc) but many our things we learn (Angry Women).
@RawPhoenix, It is not their fault for not bringing up what they fear. That is the definition of it. A lot of the time if you bring it up, you’re facing it, which makes it disappear and no longer be fear. Watch yourself when you judge. Just be aware of it, that’s all.
Although, I do agree that the best kind of relationships are ones where people can be true to themselves. Otherwise, it is indeed rather fake.
And to answer the question, @justice, I fear myself, my inability to try 100% at anything, and how people perceive me.. at times. I am aware of this and most of the time face it, but this still is a huge part of me like a majority of society, which is funny because that is what actually forms society. The reason something can ever be considered “normal” is because a majority of people do it. Why do they do it? It isn’t because it is instinctual for them, it is simply because of what others will think of them.