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Justice_x (@justice)    1 year, 1 month ago

What are the things that you fear? The things that you are too afraid to say in front of the people you know. Fear of being ridiculed, fear of being embarrassed? Why are we afraid to say what we really feel in front of those we hold close. Has technology, honestly changed our society in such a negative way that we feel we can’t talk about things that actually matter? Why do we feel comfortable with mindless small talk rather than talking about our dreams, feelings, and most importantly our fears? The things that come easily and naturally seem to be the hardest to say… So tell me, what are you afraid of?

1 votes, posted 07.16.2013 at 4:12 pm
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Emily Irene (@RawPhoenix)1 year, 1 month ago ago

I love how you asked, “Why do we feel comfortable with mindless small talk rather than talking about our dreams, feelings, and most importantly our fears?” I judge a person based on this quite often, whether I mean to or not. The people I can have deeper conversations with are often the ones I end up being friends with for exceptionally long periods of time or gain a lot of insight from.

I’m afraid of pain. Of any kind, but physical pain scares me more than emotional trauma these days. I’m 21 and since the age of 10 I’ve dealt with more medical dysfunction than you can shake a stick at (whatever that means!). As a result I’ve become hypersensitive to and terrified of pain. Its so ingrained in me that I am more terrified of the pain an unexpected pregnancy would bring than the pregnancy itself or being unprepared. I need heavy duty anesthesia to be given injections for my current chronic pain, which is located in my back.

As far as emotional pain goes, I think I’m most afraid of being surprised. Being caught off-guard by mental anguish is one of the worst feelings. For example, I woke up today not knowing it would be a challenging day, more challenging than I’ve experienced in a while. I didn’t know the emotional roller-coaster I’d ride today. Luckily I don’t live in a constant flinching mode over emotional/mental pain. I take it as it comes.

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inna (@paintedbeings)1 year, 1 month ago ago

Human emotional pain that is experienced in an event of mental famine. I have a feeling of impending doom that could be caused by a majority group that has lost the true definition of what is human and spread a psychopathic point of view over a minority that is unable to prove anything to its own race. I’m afraid of truly great minds being tumbled over by a mass guided by pseudo understanding and a sense of superiority. The fear is there because of sense of hopelessness against achieving understanding that is necessary to reverse such a happening, since you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. The more I learn about the human mind, the more I see how insidious its workings are and how naive it can be at subconscious level. Its like trying to believe that ~*power of universal light and Love~* will get a psychopath to suddenly FEEL certain emotions, or, even worse – buying it that they did (this example is used because psychopaths are known to understand emotions better than “normal” people, and since “normal” people also feel the emotions – it clouds the view really fucking easily).

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lighthousebound (@lighthousebound)1 year, 1 month ago ago

My biggest fear is going to school. Medically speaking, I have a phobia of attending school, and I suppose it must stem from my social anxiety. I attended regular classes until the 7th grade, and there were just so many people who were petty and judgemental. I always felt like everyone was watching me, analyzing my every move, just looking for some sort of mistake or slip-up that they could torture me over. Then most teachers are really ridiculously unsympathetic towards kids with mental health issues. Plus, I was always that quiet kid who never misbehaved, and I got good grades. So there was no reason for the teachers to acknowledge me; I was doing fine on my own. But any time I got an answer wrong or slipped up, the teachers always seemed to flip out about it (which was probably just my imagination) and so I only got criticism, and never praise. Grades were fucking stressful too. I felt like I had to get an A in everything or I was stupid. So basically, school was way too overwhelming an environment for me to function in, what with the simultaneous scrutinizing of my personality and my intelligence.

Another fear of mine is that nobody will ever take me seriously. Sure, I have numerous mental disorders, but that does not mean you get to treat me like a giant fucking baby. And I hate it when people act like my problem with anxiety is something that I can easily get rid of, or something that I chose to have. Do you really think I want to feel like this? And this is not something that you get to make fun of. No anxiety disorder, no opinion.

Also, I fucking hate thunderstorms.

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Justice_x (@justice)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@RawPhoenix @paintedbeings @lighthousebound Wow thank you for everyone’s input. My personal fear is failure. My mother was someone that I looked to growing up more so than other people. I watched her fail my brothers and I countless times by continuing a relationship with a drug, verbal, and physical abuser. My fear is that whatever I do in life I will fail in. This often times keeps me from trying new things. All I want for my life is not to fail.

I also have the fear of being too small which is intertwined with not wanting to fail. I want to do something positive. I want to change the world one day. Get rid of the corruption, poverty, and judgements. Then I just feel so insignificant and small.

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evolve (@evolve)1 year, 1 month ago ago

I’m afraid of fear. Hah, no. I’m afraid of the after-life I suppose because it’s so unknown, you know? Being a firm believer in karmic matter, I sense the harmony of it not being so bad. That’s my hope, anyway. @justice

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Justice_x (@justice)1 year, 1 month ago ago

I worry about that to but I think of it in this way: it’s either a beautiful thing you need to learn something to get to or it doesn’t exist. If we worry we can’t figure out what were supposed to learn here. Or we wasted the time we had in existence worrying instead of leaving something behind. That may be different from how you see it, though. Do you have an image of what you feel the afterlife is? @evolve

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Lestat (@lestat)1 year, 1 month ago ago

I fear that i will waste my life away without experiencing/being/creating amazing..

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lighthousebound (@lighthousebound)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@justice, I can relate to your fear of failure. I used to be so terrified of disappointing my parents and teachers, it was basically all I ever thought about. I don’t know how many times I was in tears, apologizing to my mom for not being a “good” daughter. But over the past few years, I’ve been realizing more and more that my family loves me no matter what I do, and I make them proud with even the smallest things. I still do worry about being insignificant though, in the grand scheme of things. But I try to stay positive and do good where I can.
However, I realize that my life and my relationship with my family is most likely way different than yours. And so this was probably not helpful in any way. But, I don’t know, sometimes it helps me just to know that I’m not alone. I hope that you can overcome this fear of failure. I know you’ll do something wonderful and worthwhile with your life and I hope that you can see that too, after everything is said and done.

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Edward Bernays (@edwardbernays)1 year, 1 month ago ago

Birds.

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evolve (@evolve)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@justice, yes it is beautiful. It’s great to dwell on, it’s all in creating your own heaven, I like to think. You know?

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Justice_x (@justice)1 year, 1 month ago ago

Those were such inspiring words. Honestly made me smile. I will do my best to make that happen. I think expressing our fears is the first step to overcome them. @lighthousebound

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Justice_x (@justice)1 year, 1 month ago ago

Yes that’s all I see when I think about it, beauty. I feel if you focus on something it will happen so I think of the positive possibilities and not the negative @evolve

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Guywho_is (@Guywhois)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@justice, It’s not that I’m afraid to talk about it as much as I just don’t talk about it with most people because they won’t care or have any real intelligent input.

I am afraid for the future of our species. I like to be an optimist most of the time but I often find myself worrying deep down and unsure about which direction we are heading in.

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James (@jameswzup)1 year, 1 month ago ago

I’m afraid that I won’t become who I want to be, if I even actually want to be that person.

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evolve (@evolve)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@justice, Word.

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evolve (@evolve)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@jameswzup, the only thing stopping you is yourself and thinking otherwise. Mind > Matter.

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Eric (@blankey)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@RawPhoenix, It is not their fault for not bringing up what they fear. That is the definition of it. A lot of the time if you bring it up, you’re facing it, which makes it disappear and no longer be fear. Watch yourself when you judge. Just be aware of it, that’s all.

Although, I do agree that the best kind of relationships are ones where people can be true to themselves. Otherwise, it is indeed rather fake.

And to answer the question, @justice, I fear myself, my inability to try 100% at anything, and how people perceive me.. at times. I am aware of this and most of the time face it, but this still is a huge part of me like a majority of society, which is funny because that is what actually forms society. The reason something can ever be considered “normal” is because a majority of people do it. Why do they do it? It isn’t because it is instinctual for them, it is simply because of what others will think of them.

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DaFunks (@Dafunks)1 year, 1 month ago ago

Spiders, Death, Angry women, Judges, Guns and hunger

I can get scared over anything really. I find most involve my own imagination. The most scary film I have ever seen is one most people find stupid. I watched The Blair Witch Project with my younger brother and we both were so scared that I could not cope. I had NO idea it was fake… and, at the time I had seen the internet stuff that was being spread (We watched it on pirate copy when it was released).

I see that that movie is all about your own imagination. You see nothing… Just what your own mind creates.

I think most fears are our own creation. Some, I do think are in our genes (Spiders, snakes etc) but many our things we learn (Angry Women).

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Shady Giorgio (@giorgioknolege)1 year, 1 month ago ago

I fear not understand this thing we call “life” and to not understand everyday how valuable it is and waste it doing mindless things.

Thanks for asking!

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James (@jameswzup)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@evolve, I’m pretty good at letting matter get in the way. Or I’m overly self-critical and I’m doing ok. Can’t decide which.

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Pippa (@sweetdreams)1 year, 1 month ago ago

spiders, thunderstorms, snakes, only truly scary things.

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Pippa (@sweetdreams)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@Dafunks, I used to be the same way, with (slightly) scary movies. Have you ever seen monster house, it’s a kids movie? I was scared to death after I watched it, and its PG.

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TheSkaFish (@theskafish)1 year, 1 month ago ago

mediocrity

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DaFunks (@Dafunks)1 year, 1 month ago ago

@sweetdreams, Ive not seen this movie. When I was younger I was scared of Daleks from Doctor Who.

http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/files/2013/02/dalek.jpg

They scared me so much that I could not watch TV when they were on. I would hide behind a pillow or my mother….
Look at them… They are not scary at all.

I think it was all my friends telling me how scary they are. The image in my head was more scary than reality.

I think billions of Americans and Brits do this when we use the word Terrorist. And I think billions of Middle Eastern people do it when they use the words Americans.

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Ben (@nebmx)1 year, 1 month ago ago

My greatest fear, is a fear of being alone.

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