What can I do to help connect with my girlfriend on a deeper level?

2 years, 10 months ago

Its a simple question. I’m just looking to be a better boyfriend, as I hope anyone in a relationship is. Let’s hear some suggestions.

June 4, 2012 at 6:54 pm

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Profile photo of Alicia Lee Alicia Lee (@aliwine) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Listen to her and care what she is talking about, ask her about her dreams and aspirations- share your own, ask her about her day, be there when she needs you. Share your hobbies and interests with her and have her share her own. Do things with her she normally does that you wouldn’t- visa vera. Get to know her family.

And have sex. haha.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Call her beautiful instead of hot. Appreciate her for more than a body. Portray loyalty and commitment. Make her smile :)

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Profile photo of Sisyphus Sisyphus (@sisyphus) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Philosophize together. Dream together. Deep conversations man!

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@sisyphus, nothing a little ganja cant fix. @oreilly, smoke a fat blunt with her, that should help.

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Profile photo of LeftyLefty LeftyLefty (@leftylefty) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@oreilly, The real question you might wanna ask yourself may be, whether your GF is willing or capable of connecting with you on a deeper level. Or is she perhaps the type who needs some time to really feel comfortable in a new relationship?

And you know her better than any of us here.

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Profile photo of Julia Julia (@collinsj2009) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Communicate honestly and openly.

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Profile photo of Bobby Bobby (@bobbylloydxd) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

are you sure that connecting on a deeper level and being a better boyfriend are the same thing? Not everyone is seeking an intensely deep relationship. It sounds to me like it may be a you thing more than a her thing. Then again I know nothing

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

What the hell does that even mean out of context? In what kind of a relationship are you now?

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Profile photo of Elliot Elliot (@elgit) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

I like Alicia Lee’s response. Family is soo important to me personally. Taking the time to get to know someone else’s family has always been a great way for me to better understand my closest friends.
Never stop asking questions and avoid boring patterns of interaction-mix things up and be spontaneous!
Personally, I try to enjoy the simple things, stare into her eyes and make her feel giddy, say whatever I’m thinking and let her know exactly how I think and feel no matter what (don’t overthink and let your true personality show. In other words, be honest & weird as fuck haha), be the person that encourages and pushes her to leave her comfort zone (hold eachother accountable of verbalized goals), get up at 5am and people watch in a busy place(you can learn a lot about someone by breaking from normal cycles).
IMHO, we tend to overcomplicate things and want an answer on how to conduct a great relationship. Half the fun of it is figuring out what you need to make you happy and finding a person that is similar enough to you that you can be happy together. I like the picture on this site that says every person is a universe to explore. Enjoy the ride and find what works in your relationship. Just be honest, enjoy your time together and let it happen ;)

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Profile photo of El Duderino El Duderino (@eldude) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

take a trip together

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Profile photo of K K (@FLIP) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

If you really want to connect with someone on a deep level and you want to be open and feel what they feel the best thing to do together would be to roll, if you’re into that stuff. My girlfriend and I do it every 4-6 months, just the two of us, and we just talk freely and openly about everything, and while rolling there is no negative, no one gets sad even on sad topics, no one judges and most of all your empathetic so you really connect on an emotional level, as well as a mental (through sharing), and of course a physical level as rolling makes you very touchy feely. To be honest I have only done this with my current girlfriend and I feel it brings us closer and lets us connect on a deeper level than I ever had with any previous girlfriends.

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