I suffered a massive trauma a couple years ago that left me very suicidal. Eventually, (and with the help of a steady supply of marijuana) I “evened out”, but I still have a residual depression from it, and some days can be really bad. Today for example, I awoke from a really bad nightmare, and I’ve spent literally all day playing my guitar nonstop so I don’t have to think about it. Surely, there is a less crippling way to deal with depression spikes. Preferably one that doesn’t result in bloodied fingers. Suggestions?
1. Marijuana (used)
2. St. Johns Wort (don’t use this or any herb/medication to cure depression)
3. Meditation (followed with/accompanied by breathing exercises)
5. Hobbies (used with guitar, but find others)
6. Reading (good way to take your mind off things)
7. Watch documentaries/tv (occasionally)
Trying something new usually works. Whenever i have moments of depression its usually because I feel like my life is too simple, predictable and boring. Shocking yourself with something new can really open your mind to the world around. I feel you need to get out of your head and into this vast world when you have too much emotions going on. Also being with someone who actually makes you happy is nice, not just friends or family but that special someone or group of someones who really brighten your life.
As some people have suggested, exercising or exhausting your body is a good way to at least get a good night’s sleep. Depression is as complicated and debilitating as you make it to be; depending how you think about it, this problem could go away tomorrow or be with you for a while. There’s no magic recipe for happiness though, just try to focus more on what you are passionate about and acknowledge things that you appreciate each day.
Sometimes I feel really depressed and kinda wish I just wouldn’t wake up the next day; but then I pick out something… like the way my subwoofer’s bass can be felt in my chest, and I acknowledge that I like that and would like to feel music resonating within me again, so I ought to make an effort to keep living. Even if it’s something really small and insignificant, as long as it’s something you love, then that’ll pull you out of those negative thoughts for at least a moment. If you can’t think of anything at all, then plan a mushrooms, lsd, mescaline, any psychedelic trip really, or just get really stoned and as you know, you’ll find appreciation in almost everything.
Then just pursue the things you love in life. Idk how old you are, but a lot of my ‘awakened’ friends are young and feeling depressed because the system we’re growing into is so fucked up. But hang in there, we’ll have our chance to be the change.
I don’t recommend marijuana for times like this, I can’t speak for anyone else but in times of sadness it’s only made me feel even worse, I feel like I just implode when I smoked during bouts of depression. I also find that alcohol doesn’t help either….sure you can drink and get numb for a little while, but your problems will always be right there to greet you when you get back.
I’d say get some physical activity to get your blood flowing, make sure you’re eating enough food (i’m talking fruits and veggies mostly, junk food I find doesn’t give me any lasting energy), brew up a cup of tea, and really try to think this depression out. Don’t hide from it, put one foot in front of the other and walk through it. I’m not saying never be sad, sometimes I find it helps to just give myself a little time to be down. But I try not to let it go on for an extended amount of time. Give yourself around 5-10 minutes, if you must. Just let it burn itself out.
I’m on the up & up after about 6mths of pretty ballistic depression, PND (Post Natal Depression) & severe GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) and I’ve found that a really REALLY insanely helpful tool is: Mindfulness. Practising Mindfulness, every day, and really working at it (I have ADHD also, so this is a hell of a lot harder for me than you may think!) is having massive gains in my mental wellbeing.
It has me feeling calm, easy, positive & generally mentally healthy, every time I do it.
Also, to combat an attack of anxious/catastrophic type thinking, when you feel one coming on (or like after your nightmare, when your brain just doesn’t seem to be able to leave the problematic thoughts alone) repeat mentally or out loud: STOP it, STOP it, STOP it – until there’s a break in the endless tide of thoughts, and then start singing. Don’t care if you’re bad at it, don’t care if there’s someone around: sing. The same song, every time. Do the STOP thing if the thoughts come a-whispering back, and get right back to the singing. ALLOW your brain to become distracted from the painful/anxious/depressive thought flow, and be present to your day, & you, moving on.
@clovers, during this time, as most people in their early twenties, myself included depression, cycles of depressive episodes. The first step, which is basically moving, or any physical activity is the best thing to lift a bout of depression, which is easier said than done when you are in a depressive state both mentally and physically. Also a routine, whether it is waking up at a certain time, brushing your teeth, going to a class, work, school, or lunch date, something planned the night before, and forcing yourself to do things is the best way to fight it. A body in motion stays in motion, no matter how hard it is to get up or get out, once you do, it helps a lot.
I don’t know. It seems a simple problem of getting endorphins or caniniboids or whatever moving… until you are “down in it”. These and other forms of distraction and mood-hijacking can help a great deal. Yet I don’t see them as long term solutions. One thing that has been critical for me is having people around who love me (like best friends and family) but more importantly things I can love and take care of. Not everyone is so lucky, so you may need to get a pet or even a plant. That way you know someone is relying on you.
In the bigger picture though, I think you have to have a passion: a reason to live. If you don’t know your passions, then a good place to start is to find them. Think of it like a quest. If you already want to die then you have nothing to fear in starting this quest.
@clovers, I used to get depressed all the time…when I smoked marijuana. Now I don’t get depressed, I get angry, but not at others because one of the reasons I used to get depressed was because of others, but I realize that made me a judgemental twat and their self-control is not my problem. No, I get mad at myself when I lose self-control and when I don’t trust my own judgement of what would likely be most beneficial.
I still have some addictions so being as objective as I can is often difficult. I just embrace my passions and do my best at what I’m good at, and be willing to take assistance for where I am weak, this is all you can really expect and depression is from concentrating on things outside your power.
@clovers, I have a view that I call “Pre-destiny after the fact”; Before something happens you may have the potential to make it the best possible result within your influence, but once it has happened it was always meant to happen and no consideration of “what ifs” and “should haves” is going to change that destiny. All you can do is focus on doing your best of influence in every happening to come.