What do HEthens do when they're terribly depressed?
I suffered a massive trauma a couple years ago that left me very suicidal. Eventually, (and with the help of a steady supply of marijuana) I “evened out”, but I still have a residual depression from it, and some days can be really bad. Today for example, I awoke from a really bad nightmare, and I’ve spent literally all day playing my guitar nonstop so I don’t have to think about it. Surely, there is a less crippling way to deal with depression spikes. Preferably one that doesn’t result in bloodied fingers. Suggestions?
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I don’t know. It seems a simple problem of getting endorphins or caniniboids or whatever moving… until you are “down in it”. These and other forms of distraction and mood-hijacking can help a great deal. Yet I don’t see them as long term solutions. One thing that has been critical for me is having people around who love me (like best friends and family) but more importantly things I can love and take care of. Not everyone is so lucky, so you may need to get a pet or even a plant. That way you know someone is relying on you.
In the bigger picture though, I think you have to have a passion: a reason to live. If you don’t know your passions, then a good place to start is to find them. Think of it like a quest. If you already want to die then you have nothing to fear in starting this quest.
@Alex I strongly disagree. Weed served as a literal painkiller that did not debilitate me from my daily routine or living life, did not create an addiction, and did not create dangerous mood swings that anti-depressants can bring.
Plus, I’ve gone through dry periods since my depression began (due to money more than anything else), and it didn’t help matters at all.
As some people have suggested, exercising or exhausting your body is a good way to at least get a good night’s sleep. Depression is as complicated and debilitating as you make it to be; depending how you think about it, this problem could go away tomorrow or be with you for a while. There’s no magic recipe for happiness though, just try to focus more on what you are passionate about and acknowledge things that you appreciate each day.
Sometimes I feel really depressed and kinda wish I just wouldn’t wake up the next day; but then I pick out something… like the way my subwoofer’s bass can be felt in my chest, and I acknowledge that I like that and would like to feel music resonating within me again, so I ought to make an effort to keep living. Even if it’s something really small and insignificant, as long as it’s something you love, then that’ll pull you out of those negative thoughts for at least a moment. If you can’t think of anything at all, then plan a mushrooms, lsd, mescaline, any psychedelic trip really, or just get really stoned and as you know, you’ll find appreciation in almost everything.
Then just pursue the things you love in life. Idk how old you are, but a lot of my ‘awakened’ friends are young and feeling depressed because the system we’re growing into is so fucked up. But hang in there, we’ll have our chance to be the change.
Happiness comes from change, so do something new! I understand when you’re depressed all you want to do is lay in bed and cry, but its the best remedy, and like any medicine, it usually isn’t fun to take at first.
But what alex said above, fishing is an easy pass-time that gets out outdoors. If you go ice fishing, you won’t worry about being depressed, you’ll be too busy freezing your ass off! Hell, if anything, run outside and make a snow angel if you have snow where you are, the spike in your heartbeat and the adrenaline will quickly make you forget why you were so down in the first place. :)
Hope this helps.
smoke some, and go take a nice walk through a forest.
find some new music, music can treat depression up to 25%.
smoke and go run, it’s so easy and you feel so alive.
meditate and/or find yourself. good luck dude!
@clovers, I used to get depressed all the time…when I smoked marijuana. Now I don’t get depressed, I get angry, but not at others because one of the reasons I used to get depressed was because of others, but I realize that made me a judgemental twat and their self-control is not my problem. No, I get mad at myself when I lose self-control and when I don’t trust my own judgement of what would likely be most beneficial.
I still have some addictions so being as objective as I can is often difficult. I just embrace my passions and do my best at what I’m good at, and be willing to take assistance for where I am weak, this is all you can really expect and depression is from concentrating on things outside your power.
@clovers, So by your own admission you cannot function without it now.
Just stop smoking bro. It sounds like you’re using it as an escape. Been there, done that. Solves nothing. Just because it sucks at first doesn’t mean that it is how you’ll always feel. Try tackling your issues with a clear head for a few months and see how you go.
It gets worse for me. I go into a detrimental cycle of watching t.v. shows on Netflix. I waste way, way too much time.
But if you are reading this right now and are depressed. The cure is simple: Get off your ass and do something!
@clovers, I have a view that I call “Pre-destiny after the fact”; Before something happens you may have the potential to make it the best possible result within your influence, but once it has happened it was always meant to happen and no consideration of “what ifs” and “should haves” is going to change that destiny. All you can do is focus on doing your best of influence in every happening to come.
I don’t recommend marijuana for times like this, I can’t speak for anyone else but in times of sadness it’s only made me feel even worse, I feel like I just implode when I smoked during bouts of depression. I also find that alcohol doesn’t help either….sure you can drink and get numb for a little while, but your problems will always be right there to greet you when you get back.
I’d say get some physical activity to get your blood flowing, make sure you’re eating enough food (i’m talking fruits and veggies mostly, junk food I find doesn’t give me any lasting energy), brew up a cup of tea, and really try to think this depression out. Don’t hide from it, put one foot in front of the other and walk through it. I’m not saying never be sad, sometimes I find it helps to just give myself a little time to be down. But I try not to let it go on for an extended amount of time. Give yourself around 5-10 minutes, if you must. Just let it burn itself out.