What drives you wild?
What kind of sexual things do you like? I am trying to get a better idea of sex interests. From the littlest look to the actual penetration. What really gets people going? I would like some ideas about how to get into the mood both by being pleasured and pleasuring. I would love any tips I can get! I think its healthy to hear what other people have to say and then possibly apply it to your own sex life!
Also dislikes. Anything that really turns you off? Things I should possibly stay away from. I am not new to sex or anything, but i always am looking to improve performance and letting my partner know what I like! So tell me what works best for you!
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@mANIMAL, Well I have no penis so I cant really say much about it. lol. But most of the BJs I’ve given arent with me kneeling on the floor. Have you seen the Katt Williams thing about that? I thought it was fucking hilarious!
For those who havent seen that, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mLfykvpjbw&feature=related
Uh thats what I am saying. I thought most girls swallow? Lmao now I kinda feel like a slut?
I always want to wake him up to something like that but he works, so I never really can and on weekends he wakes up before me. So Maybe this time Ill just try to get up extra early for him! lol
That literally made me laugh out loud.
What makes me wild is
1. Foreplay. Hug from the back. Whispering next to my ear and I could feel his warm breath.
2. Biting, scratching, getting rough basically. My friend tells me that everyone is at least a bit masochistic.
3. Giving blowjobs. I like giving more than receiving and knowing that the guy is really enjoying it turns the whole thing into a bigger turn on.
4. A hot room with lots of sweating.
1. Role playing – tried it once. I ended up laughing hysterically the whole time and instead of having sex, I made both of us a sandwich and played solitaire.
Wanting to improve your sex life is ok but worrying about it is not sexy at all. Personally, I found out that I don’t need any books or to ask anybody about my intimate life, all I need is to see my boyfriend and let my body finish all the crazy nice ideas that have rushed into my head. @ Emily, you have everything you need, girl, it’s natural that your boyfriend will get annoyed because he probably sees that you are trying too hard and that’s just killjoy.
@Ellie, I see what you are saying and thankfully, I have started to realize this. I doo try to hard. WAY to hard. And I know I definitely dont think its sexy when someone does that so I know it must be a turnoff for him as well. Hopefully I can just let go and not think one day, i am slowly getting there!
Lately, that has been the best option. Just trying to let my instincts take over. But I over think things and it feels impossible at times and then I end up not enjoying it like I should be. I am way crazier than him when it comes to sexuality and I think this is part of why we have problems. I feel like there should be wayyy more than what he tells me he likes. lol it seems to… simple. and what do you mean by “Tell him that if you want to kill your game. :)”
A confident girl is the biggest turn on. If you aren’t confident then you aren’t going to give a good bj or have as much fun with any of it. Someone who will say what they want, if you want something done differently when a dudes going down on you just say it.
Biggest turnoff ever is the “dead fish syndrome” that people have already said. Happened once and it blew my mind that anyone would possibly do that.
COMMUNICATION!!! It’s practically the key to success in any exchange. Clear communication and release of inhibitions. If you trust and care for your partner, you won’t be embarrassed to ask them what they want, how they want it and when. The key is to have these discussions when sex is not an option. People are more inclined to speak openly when they believe that the conversation is more hypothetical than potential. Bring it up with your mate when you’re far away from decent mattress, or sofa, or kitchen, or balcony, or public restroom because we’ll do it anywhere.
When you’re in a safe zone, you won’t have to worry about having to immediately walk what you talk. That can be a lot of pressure. It’s like promising the coach the championship right before kick-off. Such talk is usually initiated far from the field so as to guage one another’s committment and also to allow time to process and organize.
Make it fun. Find out what he wants and give it to him a little at a time in exchange for somethings you like (99% of which he will do with no hesitation.) Every now and then, surprise him and just completely let go of all inhibitions and do anything and everything. Find out what works and what was a bad idea. Continue what works and fix whatever was bad until IT WORKS too.
Thats how my partner feels. What is it about blowjobs that are better? Is it a mind thing or a physical thing or both? It makes me feel like he doesn’t want me when would rather get head. Do you think that this probably isnt the case? I guess I feel like he is saying I am bad in bed when he wants other things more?
@Emily you are not alone in swallowing ;)
Teasing – driving each other crazy before actually doing it. Ooooh my god there’s nothing like that look someone gives you…
Rhythm – I think this is most important for girls who wanna orgasm from penetration alone (possible and highly desirable :P )
Touching everywhere – like other people have said, scratching, ghosting your hands across the other person’s flesh, pulling their hair/massaging their scalp as they’re going down on you
My personal motto in bed is, “if all else fails, give a blowjob.” And “give blowjobs often”. They don’t have to be to completion all the time.
What drives me wild is when me and the other person finally start getting physical with each other and it feels like our bodies are electrical — it feels soo good to touch each other, even just with our hands or tongues, or to press in to each other… and then to keep escalating that into … ok wow I have to stop.
Eye contact!! It can make it so much more mental, which = so much hotter.
Just… get dirty! :)
-Scratching, clawing. When a girl has long fingernails and runs them across my back or chest, gently or violently are both nice, or even burying them in my skin.
-Teasing. No elaboration needed.
-Going down, especially if the girl pulls my hair or straddles my face.
-I love throwing the girl around on the bed, bending her into various positions, pulling her hair, spanking her, and so on.
-Another thing that drives me (and most guys) really wild is anal. Doing a girl up the rear end is such an incredible feeling, especially if the girl is really into it too.
-A girl who will spontaneously initiate sex, who is open about what turns her on, who doesn’t hold back, who isn’t afraid of getting dominant sometimes, who takes what she wants, who acts out her fetishes, who’s proud of her sexuality, and who can go for hours. This drives me wilder than a wildebeest.
-Bad blowjobs. Teeth, not enough saliva, not enough suction, not enough immersion. Suck hard, use plenty of saliva, keep those teeth out of the way and do it all fully.
-Holding back. There is no bigger disappointment than a girl who can’t relax, let go and act on her desires in bed.
-Dead fish syndrome. Don’t just lay there, do something.
-Lack of variation/creativity. Don’t be a robot, whatever you’re doing, mix it up a bit. Repetitiveness is booooooring.
I love it when a woman bites my nipples. And I am do prefer a good bj to sex sometimes.
But I enjoy going down on girls, its an awesome feeling making someone feel that great!
Eye Contact is huge for me as well
@Erika mustard is a must for a sandwich.