What kind of sexual things do you like? I am trying to get a better idea of sex interests. From the littlest look to the actual penetration. What really gets people going? I would like some ideas about how to get into the mood both by being pleasured and pleasuring. I would love any tips I can get! I think its healthy to hear what other people have to say and then possibly apply it to your own sex life!
Also dislikes. Anything that really turns you off? Things I should possibly stay away from. I am not new to sex or anything, but i always am looking to improve performance and letting my partner know what I like! So tell me what works best for you!
Thanks for the advice everyone! Its very entertaining to hear all these things. I love thinking about sex in new perspectives.
@uncle Myu, thats a good way to think about it! I definitely agree with you and I’ll try bringing it up when he is not gonna have to live up to it immediately.
@manimal, haha dead fish syndrome! The only thing is that sometimes he forces me to be a dead fish because he is way more dominant than me and doesn’t LET me do anything. lol but I think most of the things you mentioned will not be a problem. Its just that we have fallen in the habit of repetitiveness. Thats part of the reason I posted this forum, I wanted some ideas on how to spice it up. And I am liking the ideas so far
@milo W., I think thats all of us!
@josh, you are referring to the intelligence as a pre sex thing right? My boyfriend also likes the “healthy” woman. He hates it when girls or too skinny. He would rather have a girl thats a little chubby than too skinny. But he prefers just a healthy in shape kinda gal.
If you bite my neck or nibble my ear lobe, shits going down. I also love biting and scratching. Throw me on the bed, take control. When a guy does that, it turns me into an animal. Its like we fight over control then.
Then there is making love, when it isn’t just sex, but it’s like your souls are becoming one. You know, you’re staring into each others eyes and it’s just so good. This only happens with someone I feel particularly close with.
And I love when we get sweaty, it means we’re working hard.
I need to work on giving head and hand jobs, I think since I don’t have a ton of experience doing these, I get insecure and think I’m doing it wrong, which just makes everything worse. I love love love getting eaten out, gosh what girl doesn’t?? And it’s really frustrating when a guy isn’t into it. If you’re going down there, then go the fuck down there and do it all the way! And barely any guy I’ve been with knows how to finger a girl the right way. I’m sorry but jabbing as many fingers into my cooch as fast as possible does not feel good. It’s like they’re trying to start a fire in my vagina. I think the bottom line is that I love sex, and doing sexual things, and the biggest turn off is a guy who doesn’t like it as much as I do. If I want to have sex seven times in one night, he needs to be ready to accept the challenge.
@lauren, Thats my biggest turn off as well. I hate it when I am ready to go and he isn’t. Its like seeing someone through up before you eat, not hungry anymore.
Head and hand jobs do take practice. But if you get it right, its definitely worth it. It usually differs with each guy though so make sure you listen to the ques he is giving you and really get into that like you want the guy to be when he is going down on you. I was always self conscious about the guy going down on me, not the other way around. But once you learn to drop those things, oral comes pretty naturally for most people(or at least from what i have heard). And with the fingering, most guys need to be taught, even if they have been with lots and lots of ladies. Most girls feel like they are ruining the mood if they say anything. but its 100x better to tell him how you really like and and tell him to stick to that when it comes to you! I havent been with one guy that I didnt have to tell him how I like it, that goes for eat out to!
That literally made me laugh out loud.
What makes me wild is
1. Foreplay. Hug from the back. Whispering next to my ear and I could feel his warm breath.
2. Biting, scratching, getting rough basically. My friend tells me that everyone is at least a bit masochistic.
3. Giving blowjobs. I like giving more than receiving and knowing that the guy is really enjoying it turns the whole thing into a bigger turn on.
4. A hot room with lots of sweating.
1. Role playing – tried it once. I ended up laughing hysterically the whole time and instead of having sex, I made both of us a sandwich and played solitaire.
Yeah that was the only thing I ‘ate’ that night … get it? get it? *snort* laugh.
Honestly though, no, it was a sandwich without mustard and a sandwich without mustard is always horrible.
@emily you are not alone in swallowing ;)
Teasing – driving each other crazy before actually doing it. Ooooh my god there’s nothing like that look someone gives you…
Rhythm – I think this is most important for girls who wanna orgasm from penetration alone (possible and highly desirable :P )
Touching everywhere – like other people have said, scratching, ghosting your hands across the other person’s flesh, pulling their hair/massaging their scalp as they’re going down on you
My personal motto in bed is, “if all else fails, give a blowjob.” And “give blowjobs often”. They don’t have to be to completion all the time.
What drives me wild is when me and the other person finally start getting physical with each other and it feels like our bodies are electrical — it feels soo good to touch each other, even just with our hands or tongues, or to press in to each other… and then to keep escalating that into … ok wow I have to stop.
Eye contact!! It can make it so much more mental, which = so much hotter.
Just… get dirty! :)
@erika, I am not a fan of mustard so I would have probably enjoyed that sandwich more than you. And if you made them, why didnt you put mustard on it? lol were ya out?
@birdflyinghigh, Haha I am glad I am not alone!
@manimal, Maybe you just haven’t had the right one yet. Every guy I know personally wants a blowjob over sex. Most of the time anyway unless they want intimacy or something. But it could be that you just are different and truly desire sex more. Which isnt a bad thing.
I think what really gets me going is when the guy “has to have me now” kinda thing. I really love it when he gives me that look. Something so simple has me going long after its over. When he knows I am over thinking and tells me to relax that is a turn on also.
One thing that really turns me off, an ex of mine was really into role playing. I could get into it enough to stay there, but it definitely wasnt my thing so I am glad its no longer an issue. I assume it would be different if we were playing a different scenario, but I was never into it much at all.
@emily Well I’ve had quite many, so I don’t think it’s a matter of not having “the right one.” I mean, of course it feels really nice and all, and it’s a nice gesture, but I don’t get the fucking hype. A lot of guys seem to prefer it, but I think that’s actually got more to do with bjs being considered “cool,” and if you get blown you’re “cool,” and so on. The old “getting bitches do to things FOR you is cool” shit.
I also find it really hard not to laugh at it sometimes, because it looks so damn hilarious. Just think of it, someone kneeling on the floor, with a penis in her mouth. I’m not saying I don’t like it, I just don’t get the hype.
Cocksucker – A bad man and a good woman. In the words of George Carlin.
@manimal, Well I have no penis so I cant really say much about it. lol. But most of the BJs I’ve given arent with me kneeling on the floor. Have you seen the Katt Williams thing about that? I thought it was fucking hilarious!
For those who havent seen that, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mLfykvpjbw&feature=related
A confident girl is the biggest turn on. If you aren’t confident then you aren’t going to give a good bj or have as much fun with any of it. Someone who will say what they want, if you want something done differently when a dudes going down on you just say it.
Biggest turnoff ever is the “dead fish syndrome” that people have already said. Happened once and it blew my mind that anyone would possibly do that.
@briarxxxrose, Turn ons: When the girl takes charge and is on top. Black lingerie. Tattoos. Complimenting the guy on his penis and performance. Jeans & white tank tops.
Turn offs: Too much tongue when kissing (a couple flicks and 3 sec swirl does the trick…no need to be trying to knock teeth out.) Bringing up bad past relationships. Bringing up ANY tragic life experiences. Strapless tops.