What’s spirituality for pain?

Just to clarify, do you mean that you can feel when someone is hurting, and that you are unsure if you should try to help them or not?

rajas, if you allow such a comment, you sound surprisingly western for someone from your part of the world, in the sense that the conflict sounds like a rational one becoming difficult in your head mostly. i’m not saying your pain or suffering with others is not real, i think it is. but it feels as if the main conflict or clash happens in the head, the brain, namely when you try to put the what you think two “systems” together rationally. so, try to answers this more from within your heart and feelings than rationally.

some other thoughts: you can only help others if you yourself are stable and healthy enough, a) on your own, and b) in helping others. so check yourself if you can do what you think you should do. as matt rightly said, small action and otherwise never minding is much better than always worrying and never helping through action. one person can only do so and so much. finally, i don’t think “rising above pain” should be understood as cutting yourself off from it. rather, embrace it, feel it fully, be aware of it, and recognize that feeling pain doesn’t kill you if you allow yourself to fully feel it. i think that’s what they’d mean, and even then still, it might not be the best for you in your situation. all the best!