When did HE turn into..

2 years ago

a relationship advice forum ??

I don’t mind that there are random posts that might be about “dumb” shit according to a lot of people on here, as long as it’s something someone’s truly curious about,

But this relationship advice shit is getting out of control.

If you want to know if you should stay in the relationship or not, Google it. I’m sure someone’s already posted the same question on yahoo. And for the a large number of these, you can go ahead and assume that if you don’t know what to do, then you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship til you figure your shit out for yourself.

I want to have discussions about cool things like space and god and out of body experiences and shit now, instead of working as your advisory board.
Thanks.

December 3, 2012 at 7:03 pm

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years ago ago

See I don’t give a shit about space or god, I’ve heard it all before and get sick of “Oh my god are there aliens?!” posts and “We are god”…

Relationships are a bit more complicated… sometimes.

You can ignore posts you don’t like, its as simple as that.

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Profile photo of Kyle Kyle (@kyle) 2 years ago ago

I think there use to be a love and sex category way back, but I’m not 100% sure on that. All I know is a love doctor/ guru would be a awesome thing to have on here.

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Profile photo of Orhun Orhun (@oakbulut) 2 years ago ago

@vernalsoul,
‘And for the a large number of these, you can go ahead and assume that if you don’t know what to do, then you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship til you figure your shit out for yourself.’
Is this the same shit or is this about God?

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Profile photo of Shivvy Shivvy (@shivvy) 2 years ago ago

Like @ijesuschrist said, just ignore the stuff you don’t have any interests in. Pretty much everything is talked about on this site so it’s something we’re all going to have to deal with it. If you were in a tight spot in your relationship, would you rather ask the trolls from Reddit or ask the people on HE that tend to post more thought out/intelligent answers?

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Profile photo of Orhun Orhun (@oakbulut) 2 years ago ago

@shivvy, I agree..

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Profile photo of ButternutSquash ButternutSquash (@equanimity) 2 years ago ago

There’s room enough for everything on here.

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Profile photo of cohradoesr47 cohradoesr47 (@cohradoesr47) 2 years ago ago

@shivvy, This makes sense. This one. Right over here.

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 2 years ago ago

@vernalsoul, It could be the changing of the seasons. There’s winter depression and people need more connection. It’s hilarious if you think about it. That’s why at Christmas “miracles” happen.

I’m not sure from which part of my mind that came from.

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Profile photo of Ray Butler Ray Butler M (@trek79) 2 years ago ago

@vernalsoul, Because HE stands for High Existence, a key factor in every human beings existence is relationships, be they romantic, familiar, friendly, social, humanitarian, sexual, civil, the list goes on. To hash out all the various and broad issues of our lives to find that balance, that frame or state of mind, confidence, wisdom, insight.
I think relationship advice has a lot more down to Earth relevance to all our lives than abstract theories, the intangible, metaphysical, religious, supernatural and unrealized possibilities. Really, if anything makes for a higher existence it is introspection on how we define and accept ourselves and how we behave toward each other.
I love all the fun detour threads that explore opinion but isn’t it ultimately about what counts in our every day lives?

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Profile photo of Egarim Egarim C (@egarim) 2 years ago ago

@vernalsoul,

I’ve noticed this as well but the way I see it, HE is growing. There’s an influx of new members which is always welcome.

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Profile photo of DaJetPlane DaJetPlane M (@lytning91) 2 years ago ago

I am SICK and tired of people making posts talking about how some aspect of HighExistence does not belong here and how people need to tailor their posts to fit the subjective, trivial needs of another user.

For the love of god, PLEASE stop whining about how you’re tired of scrolling through the categories and, upon clicking on a discussion post WILLINGLY, crying about how “terrible” or “inappropriate” it is.

I have said it once and will say it a thousand times more: everyone who visits this site with good intentions deserves to be here, no matter what the topic may be. We are all different people taking different routes to different destinations…screw you if you can only fathom your own path.

I eagerly await any user who wishes to speak with me concerning ANY topic I have knowledge about…they were willing to bridge the gap and ask for guidance, so how DARE I refuse them on the grounds that I don’t think their concerns are worthy of my time.

It infuriates me.

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@beyond, always intelligent posts:)

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Profile photo of Cody Cody (@versai) 2 years ago ago

This is a free space for anyone to talk about what they want, yada yada.

I for one am glad the OP voiced their opinion, it’s kinda true. HE was once mainly concerned about the metaphysical forces that have brought us to this point in existence, and attempting to explore higher than that. Romantic trouble is so exhausting of potential energy, and the amount of threads people make about it is suffocating. I wish there was more focus; this site has become a distraction, a facebook cuddle club.

If there’s anything I’ve learned from HE’s development, it’s that growing a community ten times larger does not make it stronger, but dilutes it.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years ago ago

@versai, I don’t know about that man.

Every board I’ve ever been on people always glorify how things used to be…

Nostalgia was better in the old days.

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Profile photo of Filip Filip M (@filipek) 2 years ago ago

@ijesuschrist, It is not about the fact whether it was better in the old days or not, it is about the fact if HE is losing its authenticity. I mean, if we all start talking about basal stuff like what kind of underwear you are wearing today, the purpose of the site will be lost.

I think that is the point of@vernalsoul, as well, therefore I definitely agree with that.
There are plenty of other forums that are specialized in these kind of topics, but HE has another public, the intentions are different, and I think that should be respected, rather than turning into, indeed a facebook cuddle club.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years ago ago

@filipek, Perhaps it would be better suited for the site to organize into categories from which you can sort through in order to get to the posts you enjoy

oh wait >_>

otherwise you can always join a cult.

I’ve come on here looking for relationship advice, many people offer great perspectives on here, as always.

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Profile photo of Dan Dan (@danfontaine) 2 years ago ago

@ijesuschrist, Right? There’s two ends of the spectrum: suffering people who create help topics, and bored people who make validation-of-existence topics. I like the shit in-between. Topics by people who are genuinely curious and intrigued about things.

There should almost be topic-creation/posting limitations based on some sort of ‘karma’ system (see: gamefaqs.com). We should have an invisible flagging system. New users can only post like 5 times per day and create 1 topic per week until like a week of minimal flags (only veteran accounts can flag). The more your account matures the more you graduate toward free posting status.
Moderators can demote user status.

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Profile photo of Filip Filip M (@filipek) 2 years ago ago

@ijesuschrist, I do not know why you feel the need to react so sarcastically, the TS has a good point, it is not about relationship topics per se, it is about the amount of quality posts at HE that are attenuating. Or better, about the amount of non quality posts that are enhancing.

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Profile photo of Kyle Kyle (@kyle) 2 years ago ago

@trek79,

YOU said everything I could ever want to say about this topic! Thank you :)

@vernalsoul, @filipek,

Relationship advice has been going on here since I’ve known about this site (2 and a bit years?)

The truth is guys, not a lot has changed with different types of discussions. This has been around a lot longer than most of you. So it appears to me that people want to change the site back to what it was when they got here even though it wasn’t to much different? So could that mean they only want it to suit there own needs?

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Profile photo of Dan Dan (@danfontaine) 2 years ago ago

When did HE turn into a fixture, slickster get together
Rub clits together for the wonder of the better weather
When I first entered it was a spiritual center
Means to quell hell, dispel fetters that encapsulate my peoples in fell stressors
For now I’m a dull transgressor,
faded ’cause my jaded agenda
Bitch named Jade has me abated due to feminine propaganda
Product of male paraphernalia,
inhaling smoke on the daily
in a mania of mania’s
I’ve been prescribed a maniac
by those with the blind eye turned to the state of the stadium
that hosts this crazy of which we all have full participation –
the nation would have us in the basement of face to face adjacency
fellow sisters and brothers? forget it,
backs toward the inverted masonry – deeming that shit complacency.
I’m an activist, basically.
I’m in the basement, clutch piety for the high of me.
Act on behalf of no agency, slave to ME, true to be, who to be?
ME to be, for me to see.
You could be the same shit shit easily and be pleased to be.
Not to say I got my shit on stitch.
I log on to HE and talk shit.
But you’ll never hear me bitch.
Cause if you bitch..

it means your life sucks and you’re not doing SHIT to change it.

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Profile photo of Dino Dino (@nosorozh) 2 years ago ago

@filipek, so basically, you value the posts which interest you as those of “higher interests” and ” deeper meanings”, while those you do not wish to read are “low graded absurd stupidities” . THe whole point of this site, I believe, was to let the people speak their thoughts about anything and everything. Now, you would like to restrict the topics which are posted. Wouldn`t it be defeating its own purpose then?

@danfontaine The flagging system sounds good

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Profile photo of Dino Dino (@nosorozh) 2 years ago ago

@filipek, so basically, you value the posts which interest you as those of “higher interests” and ” deeper meanings”, while those you do not wish to read are “low graded absurd stupidities” . THe whole point of this site, I believe, was to let the people speak their thoughts about anything and everything. Now, you would like to restrict the topics which are posted. Wouldn`t it be defeating its own purpose then?

@danfontaine The flagging system sounds good

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Profile photo of Nikki F. Nikki F. (@nikkif) 2 years ago ago

I thought High Existence was about open mindedness… seems like there’s a lot of closed minds here.

There is probably a handful of recent “relationship” related posts so if you don’t wanna read them, don’t. Like @trek79 said, “a key factor in every human beings existence is relationships, be they romantic, familiar, friendly, social, humanitarian, sexual, or civil”. If this website is not accepting as myself (or my peers, for that matter) along with all my REAL WORLD problems, then I don’t wanna be here. And I’m sure most of the people on this website don’t spend every moment of their lives living like a HEthen if that makes sense, we all have normal relationship and other sort of problems. Sheesh, can’t even believe people are complaining about this.

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Profile photo of Ellie Ellie M (@tangledupinplaid21) 2 years ago ago

I’ll admit I get a bit annoyed when I see the 5th relationship advice post from a new user(I try my best to be understanding), but cannot ignore the irony of “HE isn’t the same now!” posts becoming just as cliche as love advice ones!

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years ago ago

@vernalsoul,

Hahaha, you fool, you devote a new topic about relationship advise.
And the subject of your topic is relationship advise.
Then you state your opinion and this opinion is that this relationship advise is getting out of control.
Then you tell us that you don’t want to work as an advisory board, while you CLEARLY do:
“And for the a large number of these, you can go ahead and assume that if you don’t know what to do, then you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship til you figure your shit out for yourself.”
And to top that, you: “want to have discussions about cool things like space and god and out of body experiences and shit now,”
THEN OPEN A FUCKING TOPIC ABOUT COOL THINGS LIKE SPACE AND GOD AND OUT OF BODY EXPERIENCE.

If you’re so fond of googling, google this: “When did HE turn into a relationship advice forum ??” Maybe you’ll find the answer on yahoo.

Thanks

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