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Iris (@aneris)    2 years, 2 months ago

how are you able to stay posetive when everything you do, and everything your involved win, goes wrong?

everyone has days like these. today was mine.
sure i’ve had bad days before but not like this one.
i was standing on the edge to break down and cry… but because of all the stress, bad luck, negativity and more i couldn’t even do that.
i felt locked in my own body.
were emotions taking control over me? why weren’t i able to take control?
yes everything was going wrong but it effected my emotions while i didn’t want it to.
what could i have done to snap out of that?
just keep fighting they say, it will be easier in a while they say…
i’ve never had a easy going life. things happened where i couldn’t change the outcome of.
i’ve given up a few times, but i’m a hell of a fighter. i don’t give up so easily.

about a year ago my life took a change by choice.
i didn’t want to have anything to do with negativity anymore.
and so i became the happy hippy i (usually) am today.
i had my ups and downs. and staying positive in this world of negativity is a very hard task, but i will not give up ever!
it is a very hard thing when you try your best so much and don’t see any change…

just wanted to get rid of all these thoughts and hope any of you can give me some good feedback on how to stay strong on the road of positivity.

0 votes, posted 06.28.2012 at 11:40 am
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Carina (@misssunbeam)2 years, 2 months ago ago

How do I do it? I forget about what is wrong, and focus on right now, then I think of how I want my life to actually be, and it happens, gradually. I combine the power of now and the law of attraction. Always works :)

Some people tell me I’m just refusing to see the bad and ugly and that it will come back and bite me in the ass. I don’t think so. People like consequences and focus on them too much, I use common sense but don’t fabricate consequences. If something happens it happens and so be it!

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 2 months ago ago

Don’t let it bug you. No one is positive the whole time, not because there is negativity in the world, but it’s realistically impossible. I’d punch someone in the face if they tell me they are always positive, it’s even annoying. Do I create negativity with what I say? I find it funny. Because it’s true. You are not even the things you say. “In a world full of negativity”? “Everything wrong”? Yeah, the world is full of everything. Negativity is a very little part of it only if you let it. And when you let it, let it out. Do I make sense?

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 2 months ago ago

What’s really helped me is reading self improvement blogs, articles, and books. There’s always room for improvement and you shouldn’t ever be content with how you are. Always look to make yourself better~*~*~*~

I wish you luccccck. :) You seem to be going down the right path anyways. :)

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Partisan (@dawnistoday)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@veronicalolno, If you’re never content with how you are, how will you ever find peace?

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@dawnistoday, You know, I was wondering that earlier, while I had typed that and I kinda felt misleading when I realized I didn’t have an answer.

Now that I think about it, I think that’s apart of being content but also discontent with yourself. Like… We all know we’re never going to be perfect and there’s nothing wrong with that. We should be pleased with ourselves in some things and of course, always prepared to make a change– whether it be we lack some patience or we have a silly habit of lying. I should have said that we should never be content with ourselves COMPLETELY. But I guess that’s more of a personal judgment, right?

That’s just how I feel… myself. I’m still young so of course I have a lot to learn.

I think the only way to be content with the idea that you should constantly want to make yourself better as a person (in a healthy way of course– not in a way where you’re beating yourself up if someone smiled at you and walked away too fast before you could smile back) is to understand that you’re only human. You will make mistakes naturally and you can’t please everybody. If you find a pathway that makes you happy and seems to make most people happy, then maybe you’re good to go for a while. But you would know better than I. :) Maybe some of us don’t need to change ourselves, even in a small way.

I just know I do. Thanks for questioning it. I might not have been able to answer myself but it really helps when someone else asks the question.

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Alicia Lee (@aliwine)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@aneris, It’s all a part of something that you will learn from and become a better person from. Don’t forget about it, accept it. Let it become a part of you and allow yourself to grieve- it’s healthy. Just don’t get caught up in it. Once you’ve mourned for the change look for way to go with it positively.

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Partisan (@dawnistoday)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@veronicalolno, no don’t be sorry :) In anyway darling everyone is unique, as is their perception of happiness. Me? I’m happy with having an education and friends. But some have to struggle and are most happy when they have food to feed themselves/children.
I get it though :) You are at peace with yourself when you know who you are, so you can move and grow to become more at one. Well that’s what it is for me anyways x

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DaJetPlane (@lytning91)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@pipthecynical, Yeah. This is it.

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KellyM (@kellah)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@aneris, Gratitude is key. always be thankful, and youll never be upset. its hard, but thats what i strive for

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Fyrirrek (@fyrirrek)2 years, 2 months ago ago

Aww. It’s hard to do it at the time but try to think of it like you are turning the page and getting on with your life. I visualize a book with blank pages and I turn them and visualize a pen. All I have to do is take that pen and decide what I will write next. Or maybe even not write anything yet and breathe and be with the empty page until inspiration hits. Maybe it’s for a reason that’s forcing you to look at aspects of your life where there is an alternate path for you to go?

I can understand the “hell of a fighter” mentality. Sometimes it’s not the time to fight but watch, listen and flow with less aggression towards goals or things that are obstacles. Or find new connections with self, others, interior body exterior body.

In the hard times I try to eat healthy exercise and meditate and reflect.

JJ

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@aneris acknowledge what is bringing you down, what is “in your control” and what is “out of your control” if you can change it, do so, if not, allow yourself to feel the negativity until it passes, no sense in resisting something that’ll just get stronger the more you try and pull (like a chinese finger trap) it can be hard to just throw yourself to the coals and burn for a bit, but it is infinitely healthier than trying to bottle things or discount the emotions as they appear

but in general, you are’t going to be on the + 100% of the time, that’s just unrealistic, but what you can do is help yourself to better deal with the bad times as they come, so you aren’t down as long

I wish you the best

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vishnu (@vizznou)2 years, 2 months ago ago

^^Brandon’s reply reminded me of this documentary i watched yesterday: http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/philosophy-guide-to-happiness/
its a great documentary and will give you a good perpective, and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m99hMv-jm4M make you feel better :)

Everything will pass. Thats the nature of everything.

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Iris (@aneris)2 years, 2 months ago ago

sorry for the late reply guys, thanks for the feedback :) some things you said thought me new lessons.
i’m very happy and grateful to have ‘met’ people like you. its like we’re one big family all wanting to help one another.

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DaJetPlane (@lytning91)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@aneris, So, tell me some good news: funk is eliminated?

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Iris (@aneris)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@lytning91, good news is i’m learning to see through all the bull crap :D
things ain’t so bad, its just the way you look at it.

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DaJetPlane (@lytning91)2 years, 2 months ago ago

@aneris, Glad to hear it, and I am in total agreement with that last part. It’s all how you look at it, indeed. I have been relearning this recently. Much love, beautiful.

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