when everything goes wrong (in one day)
how are you able to stay posetive when everything you do, and everything your involved win, goes wrong?
everyone has days like these. today was mine.
about a year ago my life took a change by choice.
just wanted to get rid of all these thoughts and hope any of you can give me some good feedback on how to stay strong on the road of positivity.
How do I do it? I forget about what is wrong, and focus on right now, then I think of how I want my life to actually be, and it happens, gradually. I combine the power of now and the law of attraction. Always works :)
Some people tell me I’m just refusing to see the bad and ugly and that it will come back and bite me in the ass. I don’t think so. People like consequences and focus on them too much, I use common sense but don’t fabricate consequences. If something happens it happens and so be it!
Don’t let it bug you. No one is positive the whole time, not because there is negativity in the world, but it’s realistically impossible. I’d punch someone in the face if they tell me they are always positive, it’s even annoying. Do I create negativity with what I say? I find it funny. Because it’s true. You are not even the things you say. “In a world full of negativity”? “Everything wrong”? Yeah, the world is full of everything. Negativity is a very little part of it only if you let it. And when you let it, let it out. Do I make sense?
What’s really helped me is reading self improvement blogs, articles, and books. There’s always room for improvement and you shouldn’t ever be content with how you are. Always look to make yourself better~*~*~*~
I wish you luccccck. :) You seem to be going down the right path anyways. :)
@veronicalolno, If you’re never content with how you are, how will you ever find peace?
@dawnistoday, You know, I was wondering that earlier, while I had typed that and I kinda felt misleading when I realized I didn’t have an answer.
Now that I think about it, I think that’s apart of being content but also discontent with yourself. Like… We all know we’re never going to be perfect and there’s nothing wrong with that. We should be pleased with ourselves in some things and of course, always prepared to make a change– whether it be we lack some patience or we have a silly habit of lying. I should have said that we should never be content with ourselves COMPLETELY. But I guess that’s more of a personal judgment, right?
That’s just how I feel… myself. I’m still young so of course I have a lot to learn.
I think the only way to be content with the idea that you should constantly want to make yourself better as a person (in a healthy way of course– not in a way where you’re beating yourself up if someone smiled at you and walked away too fast before you could smile back) is to understand that you’re only human. You will make mistakes naturally and you can’t please everybody. If you find a pathway that makes you happy and seems to make most people happy, then maybe you’re good to go for a while. But you would know better than I. :) Maybe some of us don’t need to change ourselves, even in a small way.
I just know I do. Thanks for questioning it. I might not have been able to answer myself but it really helps when someone else asks the question.
@aneris, It’s all a part of something that you will learn from and become a better person from. Don’t forget about it, accept it. Let it become a part of you and allow yourself to grieve- it’s healthy. Just don’t get caught up in it. Once you’ve mourned for the change look for way to go with it positively.
@veronicalolno, no don’t be sorry :) In anyway darling everyone is unique, as is their perception of happiness. Me? I’m happy with having an education and friends. But some have to struggle and are most happy when they have food to feed themselves/children.
@pipthecynical, Yeah. This is it.
@aneris, Gratitude is key. always be thankful, and youll never be upset. its hard, but thats what i strive for
Aww. It’s hard to do it at the time but try to think of it like you are turning the page and getting on with your life. I visualize a book with blank pages and I turn them and visualize a pen. All I have to do is take that pen and decide what I will write next. Or maybe even not write anything yet and breathe and be with the empty page until inspiration hits. Maybe it’s for a reason that’s forcing you to look at aspects of your life where there is an alternate path for you to go?
I can understand the “hell of a fighter” mentality. Sometimes it’s not the time to fight but watch, listen and flow with less aggression towards goals or things that are obstacles. Or find new connections with self, others, interior body exterior body.
In the hard times I try to eat healthy exercise and meditate and reflect.
|Brandon P’naantan Pinkney|
@aneris acknowledge what is bringing you down, what is “in your control” and what is “out of your control” if you can change it, do so, if not, allow yourself to feel the negativity until it passes, no sense in resisting something that’ll just get stronger the more you try and pull (like a chinese finger trap) it can be hard to just throw yourself to the coals and burn for a bit, but it is infinitely healthier than trying to bottle things or discount the emotions as they appear
but in general, you are’t going to be on the + 100% of the time, that’s just unrealistic, but what you can do is help yourself to better deal with the bad times as they come, so you aren’t down as long
I wish you the best
^^Brandon’s reply reminded me of this documentary i watched yesterday: http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/philosophy-guide-to-happiness/
Everything will pass. Thats the nature of everything.
sorry for the late reply guys, thanks for the feedback :) some things you said thought me new lessons.
@aneris, So, tell me some good news: funk is eliminated?
@lytning91, good news is i’m learning to see through all the bull crap :D
@aneris, Glad to hear it, and I am in total agreement with that last part. It’s all how you look at it, indeed. I have been relearning this recently. Much love, beautiful.
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