Where can I find like minded people in my own life???

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Sara (@sjds84)    3 years, 2 months ago

I’m someone who has a lot of friends but I often feel extremely alone because I feel like they are not on my level. I want to know where I can find like minded people like the ones who are members of this site in my own life. HELP!! :)

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Matt P (@mkp843)3 years, 2 months ago ago

I feel the same way…. But my situation may be a little diff than yours… however… I’m convinced the more open minded ppl are in Europe! lol… no offence to anyone, if your on here I would have to say that doesn’t apply to you…

But I need the same advice

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Bobby (@bobbylloydxd)3 years, 2 months ago ago

I have found that the more I speak the truth and avoid all things that are superficial the more i rebel those kinds of people and intellectuals will come out of the woodworks. I would try libraries, underground concerts, anything in your town that sounds hippyish. maybe yoga.
The unitarian universalist church is a great place for free thinkers to gather. not a lot of youth though from my experience, if that kind of thing bothers you

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Bobby (@bobbylloydxd)3 years, 2 months ago ago

I have found that the more I speak the truth and avoid all things that are superficial the more i rebel those kinds of people and intellectuals will come out of the woodworks. I would try libraries, underground concerts, anything in your town that sounds hippyish. maybe yoga.
The unitarian universalist church is a great place for free thinkers to gather. not a lot of youth though from my experience, if that kind of thing bothers you

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Matt P (@mkp843)3 years, 2 months ago ago

That works for me…. I’ll check that out thanks bobby…

Sorry to butt in Sara I just feel the same way…. I want ppl in my life that stimulate me… And I was thinking you felt the same way

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Em (@emily)3 years, 2 months ago ago

I’m with you too Sara! Bobby makes a good point.. the more & more you’re just an open & honest person…more like minded people tend to just “show up.” You may even know some already…but your regular day to day stuff sometimes doesn’t allow, or doesn’t make it “appropriate,” to discuss such “worldly” or “new age” topics with just anyone. I recently found someone at my work who is really into a lot of the same books I am. He’s older, married, etc, and I would have never known we had so much in common..unless I brought it up. There is also a site called meetup.com where you can meet up with people that have common interests. You could find meditation groups, reiki groups, buddhist groups, etc, near you & meet like minded people. Unitarian churches are cool too like Bobby said.. there’s more of them around than I thought. Good luck!

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Ya I grew up UU. Smart people, but they can be a little too hippyish for my taste.

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Sara (@yeahyeahyeah)3 years, 2 months ago ago

Try getting to know yourself without your friends and see what interests you most, then take the time to find people who are more like you. Try going to new places, you never know who you’ll meet.

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daveb (@daveb)3 years, 2 months ago ago

bobby you make a great point about having to be yourself in order to find them. one of the most ironic aspects of my life is that I’ve had some success in business even though I have absolutely no background (arts degree, fishing, gardening . . .) people call me “refreshing” but I’m just being myself, openly, and it’s not what people expect. the cool part is that people respond to it more often than not so I have learned that there are more of “us” (to go all elitist for a second) than it seems out there. it’s just that so many people are trained to hide it, they don’t show themselves until a HEthen shows them the way.

that’s where the whole “let your soulshine” and “hide it under a bucket – NO! I’m gonna let it shine” stuff comes into play.

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Em (@emily)3 years, 2 months ago ago

“trained to hide it” holy shit Dave you’re absolutely right.

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Rachel (@sherroninthegroove)3 years, 2 months ago ago

Isn’t it so funny how things manifest in life? I have been thinking a lot lately about wanting to surround myself with more likeminded people. I have made the huge decision to leave my corporate prison of a job and spend a year in a yoga teacher training program. Not only am I thrilled to learn more about yoga, but I can’t wait to meet more people like me! Up until now, I have always been the ‘weirdo’ in my job, school, family and so on.
I think the key to surrounding yourself with cool people is not be ashamed of who you really are. Once that foundation is strongly in place things will manifest, just as this discussion happened to pop up today on HE!

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Leon Milner (@leon)3 years, 2 months ago ago

Do things that you love, and you will meet people with the same interests. Keep in contact with these people, and you will have a lot of friends that you feel more connected with!

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Sara (@sjds84)3 years, 2 months ago ago

Thanks for all the good tips people!!! I feel like most the people I hang out with are people I work with and that is where I spend most of my waking hours. Right now I’m working in the service industry, I desperately want to get out. I have a master’s degree and just moved across the country to pursue a “big girl” job, but really do not think I’m cut out for the corporate world and think I might shrivel up and die if I have to work in a cube. I feel like I have spent the past 7 years or so completely wrapped up in work trying to juggle a full academic schedule and working full time that sometimes I feel like I have not let my self explore what I love to do as much as I should. There are a lot of things I would love to do, especially travel but I feel like money is holding me back. I can’t wrap my head around leaving the country when I have student loans and credit cards to pay off. I need to end this cycle :(

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Bobby (@bobbylloydxd)3 years, 2 months ago ago

alright the first step is to cut up your credit cards. the next step is to make a commitment to live on the cheap and work hard until your debt is payed off. Then calculate how much time it will take you to save 2-3 grand. By a ticket to India, Southeast Asia, Africa or South/Central America. Someplace that the world hasn’t been conquered and tamed yet. Stay there for at minimum 2 months. You can do it, and once your out a whole world of possibilities will open up to you and it will seem extremely easy to not get back into that dreadful cycle

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J (@mynameisjonas)3 years, 2 months ago ago

I agree with Bobby on this one. Credit cards and student loans are designed to keep you working. It’s good that you realize the need for change. Now just get to work. It’s a bit backwards in this case, but it’s when you travel you realize how little you can actually live off. As Bobby said, traveling is always an eye opener, and will help you realize what you really want to do.

When you finally get to the traveling part (or even before that), I suggest you check out couchsurfing. Through CS you can find like minded people and meet lots of interesting people with very different lifestyles. For me it pretty much redefined traveling. http://www.couchsurfing.com

Good luck :)

-J

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Tobias Valdemar Broe Knudsen (@2bias)3 years, 2 months ago ago

Wow i must say i feel exactly the same and have done so for a very long time too! But really i’m just happy with having HE :D although it would be endlessly awesome to find more of you HEthens out there! I like what you say about traveling Bobby i did what you describe about traveling 2 months in vietnam, (which i strongly recommend) Cambodia and Thailand and this really changed my perspective a lot being a lucky ung boy in a country with healtcare and public schools and everything you could ever need really.

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mike (@alanselvam)1 year, 10 months ago ago

it’s wonderful to read your article. I started build my like minded network through sozialpapier. http://www.sozialpapier.com

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wowgiveuponlifeplz (@wowgiveuponlifeplz)1 year, 10 months ago ago

You guys can’t actually be serious, Your no better than anybody else, that just shows your ignorance and how you haven’t even interacted with society. The life unexamined is not worth living.

What makes any of you even slightly qualified to give out advice?

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laura (@nutbar)1 year, 10 months ago ago

So maybe its time you make people aware of what you know?
They might think you’re a nut job sure, but on the other hand the person you’re enlightening could go out and be the spokesman this world could do with.

Bottom line we were all ignorant once.

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