WTF is "normal"?
I think its only getting harder, and harder to be yourself in todays world. I posted a while back about my 11 year old cousin, who is crazy talented. http://crash-wolven.deviantart.com/gallery/ (link to her digital art)
Normal is taking pictures of your self 100 times a day, to upload on facebook.
What is normal to you? Do you see normal as detrimental as I do? Can normal ever be a good thing?
“Every child is born an artist, the problem is to remain one once they grow up.”
Personally not a huge fan of the actual content (i.e. furries), but your sibling is legitimately gifted and you need to be her rock. Don’t allow the jealousy and resentment of your other family members’ lack of initiative and gusto phase this child. Be the one to keep her looking toward the future…a bright one compared to the people who always listened to others and never dared achieve their dreams.
Do this for her.
@adamm0ss, Those pictures are from an 11-year-old? Wow! Those are truly remarkable! Just wow. Beautiful.
It seems as if your family members fear for her out of their innate love for her. Just because their ‘advice’ may seem misguided does not render it unloving. Remember that not everybody is as open-minded as you appear to be. I’m sure your cousin will progress through his or her life quite naturally, as criticism seems to be a rather common form of child rearing.
My advice to you is this: do not busy yourself worrying about a man-made concept. Remain above the simpleness of the term. There is no need to involve yourself with it or pay it any heed. Normality is a label befit for those who are afraid to traverse the unknown.
|House of Deity
Everyone is equally capable of anything, what it comes down to is the actual WILL of the individual. Yes the society for the most part is fear inflicting on a stunting level, and everyone searches for acceptance and understanding from everyone and everything their entire life when all they need to do is accept and understand themselves.. only then, when they do unto themselves, will they receive what they seek from others. Don’t fear, especially for the sake of the unknown and change. Searching is the wall blocking you from finding. Live Free, Be Present, and Truly yourself. You are perfect and perfect is you. Namaste <3
|House of Deity
Also, people are mirrors and when they judge you it is a reflection of themselves.. so don’t take it personally, understand their lack of trust in self act..
Normal is just the way people are socially conditioned to act, think, speak, etc. Normal does not mean same. In fact I’d say being normal is insane to varying degrees, since all your thoughts and beliefs are programmed into you. They are not your own. A “normal” (I.e. unconscious person) works for the system they are conditioned to think through. They identify anything that is abnormal (I.e. spontaneous and real in many cases) and seek to distinguish it.
A good example of this I can give is soviet Russia. I can’t remember where I heard this but it is said that if you disagreed with the communist regime, you were put in an insane asylumn because the people who were so identified with the ussr thought that you had to be insane to disagree with the idea. It’s the same exact thing that goes on in our society. Anything differing from the norm is considered wrong and is subsequently squashed by “the normals.”
It’s really sad that this happens. And you see it in every facet of society. From schooling to mental health to the media. When normal is insane, and it’s pretty obvious that it is, this is a huge problem. What makes it sad is these people think they are doing the right thing. It’s not some conscious plan to normalize everyone into an unthinking mass. The unthinking mass doesn’t know what they’re doing
It will destroy itself eventually though. Normal is shortsighted. It like being on a ship about to crash into an iceberg, yet somehow no one besides a select few can see the warning signs because everyone else is so consumed in keeping the ship running. They wont be able to see that it’s pretty much time to abandon the “normal” ways of seeing the world and they’ll go down with the ship. That’s how evolution works I guess
Try not to let it bother you. It’s fucking hard but try. Because telling an ignorant person what they are doing wrong doesn’t work since their mind is already made up. They don’t realize how dumb and shortsighted they are for the most part, so you really can’t blame them
@adamm0ss, a collective hallucination
@adamm0ss, Tell your family to watch a couple episodes of this show…
…and then ask them what they think is normal.
@adamm0ss, being normal nowadays is being the same type as the vast majority no matter if that is a good thing or bad. If their parents or siblings say something is okay, the bad doesn’t exist for them. This is pathetic… That 11year old girl is really talented and no one has the right to judge her, persons at her age can easily be directed to different directions because of the pressure, she needs to know there’s nothing wrong about her but there’s something wrong about some people who got used to not question anything instead of creating a personality of their own.
“normal” is the world largest cult
@adamm0ss, That artist is 11?!?! If you let anything happen to her that ruins her passion for art, shame on you!
I agree with @lytning91, You may not be able to change what others tell her, but you should always encourage her and teach her that it’s OK to follow your dreams, even if others don’t agree with them.
“Normal” is an illusion. There’s no such thing.
People just use it to decide what is and isn’t socially acceptable, and alienate those who don’t fit the standard.
What’s tragic is that most people don’t realize this. They’re so sucked into “normal” that don’t realize how much they’re limiting themselves. But, their ignorance is only hurting themselves.
Also, your cousin does some awesome artwork. As someone already said, furries aren’t really my thing, but she’s got talent. It’s a shame no one sees it.
@adamm0ss, Nothing is normal. Normal is dependent on your environment and their are billions of different environments out there.
Normal is average. Abnormal is away from average. I do not like to be average, therefore I love to be abnormal.
Look, these kind of labels are just labels. We should stop comparing each other so much. Be yourself. If you are an artist (or your cousin) and you have a talent: follow it. Stop caring about what other people say, just do what YOU want to do. YOU are the creator of your life and YOU decide what you do with it. Obviously your cousin is just a kid, so her parents are the ones deciding most of her life, but if you have any influence on that, just let her follow her heart and gift.
@adamm0ss, That is a big mistake people make with kids, they either treat them all the same, when each of them have specific and unique strengths and weakness, or they miss judge their needs and deny them in some belief that they can handle it and will grow from that denial.
@lytning91, Yeah, I wouldn’t say that its anything I would want a tattoo of, but its crazy creative to me. But she does look up to me, so I try to set a good example for her.
@mikeyw829, Yeah I think I couldn’t agree more. And I definitely see how arguing is pointless. They end up realizing they are ridiculous and changing the subject and then I end up not even knowing what the hell I am arguing about in the first place. Something along the lines of, “So many people can draw, and theres probably not that many jobs out there for drawing. She’s just wasting time she should be spending with other kids.” Sad to hear that people are that fearful.
@xyver, I try to influence her as much as I can. She looks up to me a lot and I think she knows better than to listen to them, its just sad to see them not support her. She goes to the skatepark with me and kicks it and hears some good jams from me too.
haha@filipek, I agree, abnormal is the way to go! And yea, I just hope she remembers that growing up. I think thats the hard part.
@trek79, Its scary how materialistic our society has become. Nothing but greed runs the world.
Being normal is being mediocre and following the sheep. You will be ridiculed for not following but you don’t give a fuck do you? Your off doing your own damn thing smelling the trees and shit. Cowards are ‘normal’, too afraid to lead their own lives.
I guess we all need to be “normal” to a certain extent, but not to the point to where we have no sense of individuality and identity, that’s a sad thing to see..
I think normal is like a standard or basic model of something… what is usually expected. Being normal is not always a bad thing, some people enjoy being what is considered normal, it’s bad is when it does not serve you good and hurts you, or the idea of being normal controls you. I also do not think normal should be considered the absolute best way to live life (some have that mentality), since there is no way to determine that.. (I think it’s subjective)
Its odd as children we are told that everybody is different but once you get older that all goes out the window. Especially in High School there is so much pressure to fit in and if you aren’t doing what is social acceptable then you won’t have a “good time”. But who’s idea of is this “good time”? Just because I don’t drink until I throw up or have sex with any girl that is willing I am not considered “cool”. well if that is cool than I am glad I’m a loser because it means I can do what I want and I don’t have to worry about what other people think.
So what it comes down to is that they tell you to Be yourself but only within the guide lines, if you think outside of the box that is unacceptable, if you enjoy being creative that is unacceptable, If you are to unique or speak your mind that is unacceptable. If you are “acceptable” then you are just another pawn in the system, another link in the chain and you as yourself are worth nothing because the system only cares about what it can get from you.
@thunderfeet, Thank you for posting this! You gave me a little hope.
Your cousin is an amzing artist! Especially for 11. I really hope that she gets the encouragement from somewhere (it may have to be you) to be strong, and be proud of her talent. Otherwise, give it another 2 years and she will be one of the ones plastered in makeup, wearing minimal clothes, uploading 100′s of photos per day. Sad. Kids are not kids anymore for long.
@sammomantha, Your welcome, I’m glad that my words had enough meaning to give you some hope, I’ve been reading this site for a while and I have so many ideas whirling around in my head now I decided it was time to start posting them. As for the rest of your post I completely agree with what your saying.
Its a same people/kids post pictures and statuses on social media sites not because they have something insightful to say or they have something interesting to show but because they want people to like, share or favorite it. you can have the most friends or subscriber on some website but still be the loneliest person ever because we use the internet for the wrong purpose. The internet is a way to communicate with people who otherwise we would never have a chance to talk to but when people waste it on pointless shit it goes to waste.
anyone that says normal is abnormal isn’t looking at it the right way, i believe. you’re concerning yourself far too much with what society thinks is normal. i’m glad someone linked Taboo up there, because not even all societies believe the same things are normal. don’t get stressed out about it. normal is YOU. whatever your habits are. you can choose to mould yourself around what others think is normal, therefore changing your perception of normal alongside yourself, but normal is you and yourself, the things you think and do. that’s all it is.
@adamm0ss, Normal is ideological hegemony. It is projected through all media, even music. To me, normal is essentially the idea that allows society to function in the most profitable way for those on top. This isn’t a new world order conspiracy, as some like to think. It has been the same all throughout history, in all societies. The sad thing is that many long for this normality, because it is easy and safe.
Your cousin is clearly very talented. Fuck what others think. It is up to you to make sure your cousin grows up with a clear head and pursues her talents. However, it is important not to instill a hatred of normality. It is not all bad, it is just that devout followers of it are often fairly misguided, much like devout followers of anything. Good Luck. I hope your family finds peace with the diversity of the human mind.
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