WTF is "normal"?
@adamm0ss, Being “normal” is being like everyone else, doing what everyone else does. If you have to be “normal”, you’re not allowed be your own unique person – you can’t be different than everyone else. But the thing is, no one with great talent is judged as “normal” by society because they can do things that “normal” people can’t – or at least do them better than “normal” people.
It sounds to me like your cousin’s family want her to be “normal”, to be a part of the flock of sheep that is simply doing what everyone else does without thinking much for themselves. Ask her family why they’re afraid of standing out from that flock. Ask them why they don’t want her to use and cultivate her talents. Ask them why she’s not allowed to be her own person.
Personally, I think that being “normal” is boring. While I don’t really like standing out much, I don’t want to be a part of that flock of sheep either – I don’t think that a lot of people in this place, if any at all, does. I like to have my own, small unique things about me. Hell, I like being consideret as abnormal because that’s just proof to me that I leave a special impression to the people around me.
This reminds me of a thought I had: Everyone wants to prove how unique they are, it is precisely that which makes us all the same.
@trek79, “Normal” is defined by the masses. Not everyone wants to prove that they’re unique, because then there wouldn’t be any ‘mainstream’-anything, I believe?
@michaelo, I was speaking generally, but maybe its not so much that people don’t want to prove they are unique but rather most people fail in that goal, it is hard to stand out from 7 billion other humans in the world.
A lot of people thrive to be “unique”, but unique has nearly become some sort of chic term, like boutique. People thriving to be unique seem to find themselves surrounded by people with similar goals and end up just blending into the crowd, eg. people following stereotypes like emo and stil claiming to be non conformists. Of course thriving to be unique is a lost cause, it’s end is in it’s beginning.
@trek79, Yes! well put =o). I used to think this as well, and felt so alone in this thought because so many people didn’t seem to understand. Particularly as a teen/ early 20′s.
The ‘unconventional’ are really just as conventional as the others.
@chekovchameleon, That’s my point, it is a goal that completely relies on the judgements of others, that is a losing battle from the get-go. All you really have a chance at is impressing yourself and that is done by doing your best in your own passions, for the pleasure of the ride not for the results or the scrutiny others subject those results to. That is where success is, not in defining the normal or the unique.
@trek79, Of course, no good can come from trying to be anything, you are yourself, it is a cross we all have to bear weather it is light or heavy. There is no way to be unique, everybody is naturally unique. Just being is unique, no effort required. This spent energy could just be going towards your self fulfilment or towards your fellow man. There is no solace to be found in your image. It is an entirely self serving exploit, the search for originality.
“Woe to him who seeks to please rather than to appal. Woe to him whose good name is more to him than goodness. Woe to him who, in this world, courts not dishonor! Woe to him who would not be true, even though to be false were salvation.”
-Herman Melville, Moby Dick
Normal is just the average behavior collective or whatever the fuck. But seriously, who ever achieved anything monumental being “normal”?
@flyingrhino, Exactly my point, every person that achieved something great isn’t/wasn’t “normal” by the definition of society. That is why one shouldn’t do whatever everyone else does, it’s like the flock of brainless sheep I was talking about. If you aren’t different from the masses, you probably won’t do better than the average person.
@trek79, I think I might have written down the question I was asking myself – more like a rhetorical question – but you’re absolutely right.
“Normality is to be confined, as insanity is to freedom”
Sadly society believes that anything out of the norm is bad. As if school and society itself doesn’t crush a kids creativity enough, family will. I’m sure all of your family members saying these things are convinced they are trying to make her normal out of love; telling her to be normal so that she will “fit in” when in reality everyone is born to stand out, every person is just as lost as you are and just as lost as this eleven year old kid is, the “normal” people are just better at hiding their individuality. Normal sucks!
@adamm0ss Wow! Those creations are really beautiful. Being normal to the society is being one among a thousand others! That’s what THEY define as normal. Even if any kid drifts from the ordinary path, society and family brings that kid to THEIR path. Crazy stuff! What they don’t understand is that extraordinary people are brought from such out-of-the-box thought processes!
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