WTF is "normal"?
I think its only getting harder, and harder to be yourself in todays world. I posted a while back about my 11 year old cousin, who is crazy talented. http://crash-wolven.deviantart.com/gallery/ (link to her digital art)
I constantly hear her grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and basically everyone else in her family, speak so negatively about her, ie: she will never have social skills, she is mentally retarded was even tossed in, she spends too much time drawing, she is out of touch with society…basically shit like that. She is always compared to other kids in the family, and how basically she needs to be “normal” like everyone else. What the fuck is normal?? .
Basically from what I gather from questioning them (and pissing most of them off)
Normal is taking pictures of your self 100 times a day, to upload on facebook.
Normal is wanting to wear what the other kids wear.
Normal is going to public school.
Normal is watching TV.
Normal is judging everyone else.
Normal is picking republican or democrat.
What is normal to you? Do you see normal as detrimental as I do? Can normal ever be a good thing?
“Every child is born an artist, the problem is to remain one once they grow up.”
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Normal is just the way people are socially conditioned to act, think, speak, etc. Normal does not mean same. In fact I’d say being normal is insane to varying degrees, since all your thoughts and beliefs are programmed into you. They are not your own. A “normal” (I.e. unconscious person) works for the system they are conditioned to think through. They identify anything that is abnormal (I.e. spontaneous and real in many cases) and seek to distinguish it.
A good example of this I can give is soviet Russia. I can’t remember where I heard this but it is said that if you disagreed with the communist regime, you were put in an insane asylumn because the people who were so identified with the ussr thought that you had to be insane to disagree with the idea. It’s the same exact thing that goes on in our society. Anything differing from the norm is considered wrong and is subsequently squashed by “the normals.”
It’s really sad that this happens. And you see it in every facet of society. From schooling to mental health to the media. When normal is insane, and it’s pretty obvious that it is, this is a huge problem. What makes it sad is these people think they are doing the right thing. It’s not some conscious plan to normalize everyone into an unthinking mass. The unthinking mass doesn’t know what they’re doing
It will destroy itself eventually though. Normal is shortsighted. It like being on a ship about to crash into an iceberg, yet somehow no one besides a select few can see the warning signs because everyone else is so consumed in keeping the ship running. They wont be able to see that it’s pretty much time to abandon the “normal” ways of seeing the world and they’ll go down with the ship. That’s how evolution works I guess
@adamm0ss Wow! Those creations are really beautiful. Being normal to the society is being one among a thousand others! That’s what THEY define as normal. Even if any kid drifts from the ordinary path, society and family brings that kid to THEIR path. Crazy stuff! What they don’t understand is that extraordinary people are brought from such out-of-the-box thought processes!
Normal for them is -
- Behaving how everyone behaves
- Conforming to the societal norms
- Not raising eyebrows when everyone is around
- Waking up everyday and doing the same things again & again!
@lytning91, Yeah, I wouldn’t say that its anything I would want a tattoo of, but its crazy creative to me. But she does look up to me, so I try to set a good example for her.
@mikeyw829, Yeah I think I couldn’t agree more. And I definitely see how arguing is pointless. They end up realizing they are ridiculous and changing the subject and then I end up not even knowing what the hell I am arguing about in the first place. Something along the lines of, “So many people can draw, and theres probably not that many jobs out there for drawing. She’s just wasting time she should be spending with other kids.” Sad to hear that people are that fearful.
@xyver, I try to influence her as much as I can. She looks up to me a lot and I think she knows better than to listen to them, its just sad to see them not support her. She goes to the skatepark with me and kicks it and hears some good jams from me too.
haha@filipek, I agree, abnormal is the way to go! And yea, I just hope she remembers that growing up. I think thats the hard part.
@trek79, Its scary how materialistic our society has become. Nothing but greed runs the world.
Try not to let it bother you. It’s fucking hard but try. Because telling an ignorant person what they are doing wrong doesn’t work since their mind is already made up. They don’t realize how dumb and shortsighted they are for the most part, so you really can’t blame them
@michaelo, I was speaking generally, but maybe its not so much that people don’t want to prove they are unique but rather most people fail in that goal, it is hard to stand out from 7 billion other humans in the world.
I guess we all need to be “normal” to a certain extent, but not to the point to where we have no sense of individuality and identity, that’s a sad thing to see..
I think normal is like a standard or basic model of something… what is usually expected. Being normal is not always a bad thing, some people enjoy being what is considered normal, it’s bad is when it does not serve you good and hurts you, or the idea of being normal controls you. I also do not think normal should be considered the absolute best way to live life (some have that mentality), since there is no way to determine that.. (I think it’s subjective)
@trek79, Yes! well put =o). I used to think this as well, and felt so alone in this thought because so many people didn’t seem to understand. Particularly as a teen/ early 20′s.
The ‘unconventional’ are really just as conventional as the others.
@adamm0ss, being normal nowadays is being the same type as the vast majority no matter if that is a good thing or bad. If their parents or siblings say something is okay, the bad doesn’t exist for them. This is pathetic… That 11year old girl is really talented and no one has the right to judge her, persons at her age can easily be directed to different directions because of the pressure, she needs to know there’s nothing wrong about her but there’s something wrong about some people who got used to not question anything instead of creating a personality of their own.
@thunderfeet, Thank you for posting this! You gave me a little hope.
Your cousin is an amzing artist! Especially for 11. I really hope that she gets the encouragement from somewhere (it may have to be you) to be strong, and be proud of her talent. Otherwise, give it another 2 years and she will be one of the ones plastered in makeup, wearing minimal clothes, uploading 100′s of photos per day. Sad. Kids are not kids anymore for long.